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Message: <blockquote data-quote="nismok" data-source="post: 9528874" data-attributes="member: 109094"> <ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">  Talk to as many women as possible, not just girls you're immediately attracted to. This gives you good practice in talking to women (especially if you  have any anxiety about that) and learning about how girls feel and  think, in general. Make it a goal to talk to at least 5 new women a day  (in person, any woman, any age, any appearance, any personality).</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Something you should consider is letting her know you are single. Wearing a "single bracelet" will do the trick and they are stylish. They are easily available at almost every corner shop.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Don't use “canned material”, “nuclear attraction” routines, or other social robotics. The best way to make a connection with someone is to come from the heart and live fully in the moment. What you say isn’t nearly as important as how you say it. Socializing is about exchanging energy, not being a wordsmith.[1] When in doubt, just say “Hi”.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Put yourself out there. You don't have to hit the bars or the clubs if that's not your scene, but you have to do something  that exposes you to new people. Pursue interests and activities that  mean a lot to you. The Internet has made this a whole lot easier. Check  forums, listings, classifieds, and listservs for local events or  meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests or  passions. You can also explore new interests or activities--you might find a new passion and a girlfriend in one fell swoop!</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Keep an open mind.  If you're looking for a girlfriend (that is, someone who will be in a  committed relationship with you) you should be more willing to overlook initial shyness and awkwardness  so that you can get to know a person over more than one date. Your  future girlfriend might be someone who you initially didn't see as  "girlfriend material" but as you spend more time with her, you discover  more things you like about her and you suddenly find yourself  romantically interested.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Practice genuinely complimenting girls.  Challenge yourself to find something beautiful in any girl. It doesn't  have to be something physical; it can be a cute gesture, an admirable  trait, a talent or skill. Recognizing and expressing true appreciation  for any and every girl will make you more attracted to girls and girls  more attracted to you.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Flirt. A big part of being charming is knowing how to flirt, and the people who are best at flirting are people who are always in a playful and laid back state of mind. It's the opposite of being serious, nervous, or uptight.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Become a good conversationalist.  Don't babble on and on about your mother, your cat, or your collection  of bugs. A good conversationalist keeps finding things they have in  common, and they do it in a casual, non-intrusive way. For example,  there's a difference between asking someone "Have you ever held a  tarantula?" and saying "Have you ever felt the tiny hairs of a  tarantula's legs brush up against the palm of your hand?" The latter is  more poetic, but way too intimate for a first conversation for most people.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Close the deal. If  you like the woman you're talking to, be the one who ends the  conversation. This prevents the conversation from lingering into an  awkward silence, shows that you're busy (i.e. not needy or desperate),  and allows you to end the conversation on a positive note. When you end  the conversation, simply say "Hey, I've gotta go, but it's been really  good talking to you. Want to continue this over a cup of coffee  sometime?" If she says yes, get her phone number and move on. If she  says no, just move on. That's all there is to it.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">When you go on dates with girls, break the touch barrier.   If you're terrified of touching someone the wrong way, to the extent  that you hesitate and never touch them first, your intentions are good  and all, but your "touch paralysis" isn't helping you at all in the  romantic department. Take a few little "touch risks". Be playful.  Don't just always wait for them to do it first. If they don't like it,  they'll definitely let you know. But touching someone communicates to  them that you find them attractive, and also that you're reasonably  confident. Both of these things can make someone feel more attracted to  you.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Make her laugh. Girls love guys who have a good sense of humor,  and the key to having a good sense of humor is to be lighthearted, and  unabashedly yourself. As long as you're not making fun of people in a  mean-spirited way, anything goes. Is your sense of humor perverted?  Slapstick? Sarcastic? Go with it, and don't worry about whether or not  she thinks you're funny because you know what? If she can't laugh with  you, then this isn't a girl you want to spend a lot of time with anyway.  And who knows? Maybe another girl—one whom you hadn't noticed  before—will be laughing so hard that her soda comes out of her nose, and  maybe you've just found your soulmate.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Help someone.   It could be her, or it could be someone else in the room. Is she  carrying something heavy? Say "let me help you with that" and carry it  for her. Is someone short on cash? Lend them a few dollars so they can  eat lunch. Hold the door open for the next person coming through, even  if they haven't reached it yet. In other words, be a kind and generous  person. Not only will it get her attention, but it will also make you  feel good about yourself. Don't be fake and do nice things only when  she's around, though. Help people all the time, in a wide variety of  ways. She'll notice, and so will the people she knows, and on the  occasion that you come up in a conversation, people will say "He's such a  great person!" and this girl will start thinking "Yeah...he is, isn't  he?"</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">If you find yourself getting lots of girl friends but no girlfriend, avoid the friend zone.   The key here is to stop investing time and energy into girls who don't  want to be your girlfriend. That may sound cold, but the fact is that  you're "tying up" your feelings by maintaining a close friendship with  someone who you have feelings for, but who isn't romantically interested  in you. It'll be difficult to develop feelings for someone else if your  feelings for this person are fueled every time you hang out. Even if  you do manage to develop feelings for someone else, your heart might  always be torn and confused, and it'll be hard to give your new flame  your undivided affection. Sometimes the best thing to do is to take a  "friend zone" friendship down to the level of acquaintance so you can  focus more on dating.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">If you find that girls are interested in you and then pull away, stop being needy.   You might be scaring women off with your eagerness (which can come off  as desperation). Slow down, and avoid the temptation to idealize every  girl you like. If you find yourself using or even thinking the word  "perfect" then you're probably putting her on a pedestal. Fill your life  with so many activities that you're too busy to become infatuated with  any one girl.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Be patient. Life doesn't normally work on the schedule you envision. Your future  girlfriend might cross your path tomorrow or two years from now. A  healthy relationship will color your world no matter how old you are, so  don't rush into things, or else you might end up forcing the wrong  person into the girlfriend role, which will cause pain for everyone  involved.</li> </ol>Source : wikihow</blockquote>

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