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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Emios" data-source="post: 30905764" data-attributes="member: 254970">This is more specific to forgiving yourself, but what personally helped me is the fact that I became so tired. As you said, it drains your mental energy, and you’re on here asking how to stop, so that’s good. It’s so damn tiring, you’re right. I got tired and said fuck it. So then, every time I’d get these negative thoughts about myself and the things I did in the past, I tried to tell myself to stop these thoughts and try to focus on something else. As another user pointed out, therapy also helps a lot. Definitely try and find a good therapist.Do I still have those thoughts now? Yes, of course I do. But they occur way less frequently than they did before. Your mind is a muscle that you exercise. Just as it learned to speak negatively to itself and regret your past self, it can learn to start thinking more optimistically. Work on it little by little.Another thing that helped me wasn’t just me being tired of it, but the fact that I know dwelling on the past will do NOTHING. I dwelled on my past self and cried and was miserable for years, and nothing happened. Nothing changed for the better. The past can’t be changed so why am I dwelling on it so much and making myself miserable? Realizing that also helped me slowly start speaking better to myself and helped me focus on NOW. I finally started taking courses in things I wanted to learn, and I also started seeing myself in a better light.In short, in regards to forgiving/forgetting your past self:1-Train your mind to stop thinking of the past in a negative light. You can do this by talking to it and asking it to stop, and by redirecting your thoughts. Find something else to focus on. Train it. Little by little.2-Truly realize that dwelling on the past will do nothing but keep you trapped and miserable. Work on the NOWHope this helped in any way.</blockquote>

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