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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Guybrush Threepwood" data-source="post: 7412784" data-attributes="member: 247941">Perhaps nothing is ever quite as painful as getting over your first love. It's not just any old break-up; this is the boy/girl who taught you what it means to fall in love. You thought you'd spend the rest of your lives together. You made plans for the future to live together or go to college together. You have loads of jokes and memories of the time you spent together. Now that it's over, you're scared that you'll never find anyone to ever replace them. Here are some tips to help you get over it. Steps1. Cut off all communication with your ex. Harsh,  but it's the only thing that works. You probably feel like you're  losing the best friend you ever had, the only person who truly  understood you. It might hurt at first, but it will get better. You  cannot be friends while you attempt to get over each other.2. Do not hook up at all with your ex. You will  start right back at square one, and all the work you did trying to get  over them will be wasted.3. Recall why you broke up, what you hated about  him/her, and what you could never agree on. You may tend to remember  only what you <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Love" target="_blank">love</a>  about your ex, and your happiest memories together. If they cheated on  you, stop justifying it, and realize you can find someone who loves you  and would never be unfaithful.4. Realize that just because this relationship is over,  it doesn't mean that you'll never find love again. Ask your  friends, your parents, or your great-aunt Susan how they got over their  first loves. Many people will remember how hard it was to get over them  but will also admit that they found greater loves in their lifetime.You may find it hard to sleep, or get back to sleep when you wake in the  middle of the night. When it is dark, and everyone else around you is  sound asleep, this can be the most lonely time ever. During the day take  lots of exercise, go for a long long walk, make sure you are exhausted  when you go to bed, it will help you sleep better/get off to sleep.  You'll also benefit physically from the extra activity, and exercise is  great for depression.4.  Don't try to get through this alone. Your  friends are very important. They will help you survive by listening to  you and offering advice. If you forgot about them while you were with  your boy/girlfriend, ask if you can be forgiven. If they really were  true friends they will <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Forgive" target="_blank">forgive</a> you and want to help you get over it. Try to  avoid friends who are very close with your ex, as they are bound to  talk about him/her and bring you down inadvertently.5.Talk to and see your friends and family more  .  It's good to listen to others and what they have to say, but if you can  talk more, you'll find yourself truly getting your mind off of him/her  for the time being. If you make your world bigger, then s/he will become  less important.6. Be open and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Honest" target="_blank">honest</a> about how you are feeling. Don't  pretend, for yourself or others, that you are okay if you're not. Also  realize that you are allowed to be okay. You do not have to feel sad all  the time, or at all. Talk to people instead of just holding it in and  being moody. Other people can support you if they actually know what is  going on.7. Remember there are other people that care.  Even if it doesn't always feel that way, there are. There are people  around you who understand, and will help.8.Do not ask your friends if they have seen your ex  .  Do not ask how s/he is; you do not want to know.9. Cry. It's okay to cry. Just let it all out. You will  feel much better after you do.10. Use your breakup as an opportunity to become the  person you have always wanted to be. Take on a daunting <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Accomplish-a-Goal" target="_blank">goal</a> such as learning a new <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Learn-Any-Language" target="_blank">language</a>, <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Learn-to-Play-an-Instrument" target="_blank">instrument</a>, or skill. There has never been a  better time to set these goals in motion, and now you have a lot more  time to do it!11. Fill up your MP3 player with the saddest love  songs you can think of. Sad songs work wonders because you realize  there are actually people out there more miserable than you. Or you may  also want to try happy songs instead. Try some songs that were written  to remind you that you're not the only one not having any fun and that  you need to work to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Happy" target="_blank">be happy</a> again. Music can help heal you; just give it time.12. Do anything you can to make yourself feel desirable.  Get a haircut or add highlights. Go to the gym. Buy a new outfit. Dress  up and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Dance" target="_blank">dance</a>  in front of your mirror to club music. Remember all the times s/he told  you that you are the most beautiful person in the universe, convince  yourself that it is indeed true, and that someone else will appreciate  you the way s/he once did.12. Endure the pain and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Loneliness" target="_blank">loneliness</a> bravely. With time, the pain will  heal. Are you a strong person who can get through this or a weak one  that will wither from one failed relationship? Don't succumb to  weakness. Retain your pride and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence" target="_blank">hold your head up</a>. There's nothing better than that.Always remember that you're better off without him/her because  someone who you thought loved you that leaves isn't worth your tears or  pain... "Never cry for someone that will never cry for you." 13. Poetry. Poetry can really help you, either  writting or reading it. Try researching about authors who wrote love  poems, so that they can work just like the songs in your MP3. Also it's  good to put your feelings on a piece of paper. Don't bother if the  poem's quality is bellow the authors you like. You're not doing it to  publish. Paper can be a great listener, sometimes the best.</blockquote>

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