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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Guybrush Threepwood" data-source="post: 7412812" data-attributes="member: 247941">tips* Don't be so naive as to believe that you will never love anyone as much as your first love. Most first loves and heartbreaks occur during teen years or early 20s. You still have most of your life ahead of you to find the love of your life.    * Dont find an excuse to ask them about any situation. ex. How's your mom? or Remind me again why we broke up? This will only hurt you in the end and will eventually seem like you are begging for them back. Giving them the power and you helpless waiting for his response that you will never get in return.     * With maturity, your capacity to love another human being grows. Be grateful for the experience of your first love.     * Remember that getting your heart broken for the first time is a fact of life.    * Recognize that you have the power of choice in your life.    * Don't try getting back with your ex. You broke up for a reason, even if you can't really understand that reason.    * If it has been a very long time since the breakup and it's either not going away or getting worse and worse, you should probably seek help.    * If you feel suicidal, seek help. Nothing in your life should push you to that point.    * Don't tell him/her that you still love them. You might love them for a while longer, but remember that love is not enough and that your relationship ended for a reason. If you need to, write down the reasons.    * Avoid statements like "I'll never get over him/her." It might seem that way, but it is short-sighted and, in the long run, not true.    * Don't pretend like you are still together or think of yourselves as a couple. If people refer to him/her as your boy/girlfriend, then correct them. Even if you know that you're no longer together, saying it aloud will get the message across to yourself more strongly and help you to move on more readily.    * If you know their passwords to their email/Myspace/Facebook/etc., resist the temptation to go into their accounts. It will make the pain worse. If they have your passwords, change them immediately. Also, delete them as "friends" on facebook. They will not be notified and you will not be tempted to stay involved in their life. It is time to forget them as best you can. Also, you do not want to be notified everytime they do an update. At a minimum, change your settings so you are not notified everytime they update something. Sitting there looking at their recent happy pic with their new GF or BF is not going to be fun. Do not put yourself through that.    * Whenever you find yourself dwelling on what you're going through, pick up a book and read yourself out of it. Sometimes distancing yourself from the world by visiting another will help ease your emotions and make it easier to get used to spending time by yourself.    * No relationship is ever a mistake if you can get something out of it, such as learning something new about yourself. You might learn that you are indeed a very stubborn person that this might be the opportunity to change yourself for the better and to become a more open minded person. You might also learn that you are a very jealous lover, in which case you can take steps to becoming a less jealous boyfriend or girlfriend.    * Cry, and Cry and Cry as much as you can because it will help your emotions. After this you will feel a lot better. Make sure you call your best friends and have happy conversations after.    * Try writing what you're feeling. When you have bad thoughts and feelings repeating in your head, writing it down can provide relief.</blockquote>

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