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Message: <blockquote data-quote="ashanfdo" data-source="post: 78634" data-attributes="member: 2329">KEYS TO ASUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE Unless the Lord builds the house,they labor in vain who build it. Psalm 127:1 Murray and Pat married in 1989 after meetingthrough an organization called Christian Widows and Widowers.He had been a widower for two years aftera 40 year marriage,and she had been a widowfor seven years after a 28 year marriage.The following article is the result of anaccumulation of 78 years of marital experiences.If these thoughts can help some young personto build a foundation for a strong marriage,or help to heal a broken marriage,our prayerswill have been answered.Key 1One of the foundations of a lasting marriage is to BE COMMITTEDto each other and to making the marriage work.A generation or two ago, marriages were stableand divorce was not as widespread as it is today.We believe this was due to the commitment of peopleentering into the marriage relationship.Divorce should not be an option.There are situations, of course, where there is abuse and infidelity which cannot, and should notbe tolerated.Not in every case, but in most cases, if discernmentis used in Key 2, this type of abuse will not be found.Key 2One of the most important keys to a successful marriage is toCHOOSE THE RIGHT MATE.2 Corinthians 6:14-16 Young people get caught up in the romance and thephysical attraction, and they don't consider whetherthe object of their attraction will help or hinder them in theirspiritual development.Of course, the foundation for choice should have been laid years before.Just because a person falls in "love", doesn't necessarily mean that person you "love"would make a good spouse.Hormones need to be governed by reason.God made us creatures of choice.In fact, our lives are a product of the choices we make.Galatians 6:7-8Key 3An admonition for young people.REMAIN SEXUALLY PURE UNTIL MARRIAGE.Your marriage will have a greater chance of successif you do. Young people today who are taking a standagainst pre-marital sex are to be applauded.Ephesians 5:3-5 Aim for Successnon-profit organization that promotessexual abstinence until marriageTrue Love WaitsLifeway Biblical solutionsCourtship and MarriageLaura and Paulthe story of a courtship ending in marriageKey 4Early in the marriage a couple needs toACCEPT GOD'S PLAN FOR THE FAMILYLet Christ be the head of the family,and let the husband be the spiritual leader in the family.A loving husband will not be overbearing.Ephesians 5:22-23 Key 5DON'T WITHHOLD LOVE AND AFFECTIONor use it as a weapon to get your own way.God has given specific instructions about the physical relationship between husband and wife.1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Key 6LISTEN TO ONE ANOTHER.Keep the lines of communication open.Few things can be more detrimental to a marriagethan the refusal of one of the partners to discuss problems.Work it out together if you can, but don't hesitate to get outside help in the form of Christian counselingif it is required.Key 7DON'T NEGLECT YOUR SPOUSE while you are raising your children.Long after the children have left home,you will need each other.A loving relationship must be built while the children are growing up.Key 8Money can cause problems soCOME TO AN AGREEMENT ABOUT THE HANDLING OF FINANCES.Sometimes this is a joint effort,but sometimes one partner isbetter equipped to handle the family finances.The other partner needs to defer to the one with this gift.Key 9TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTHso that you can enjoyyour relationship with one anotherfor many years.1 Corinthians 3:16 Key 10GIVE EACH OTHER ROOMFOR INDIVIDUAL GROWTH and for personal likes and dislikes.One may be a sports fan, the other may not. Not all things have to be shared.Key 11BE WILLING TO SAY, "I'M SORRY"when you are wrong.Truly mean it, and try to make improvements.Key 12BE WILLING TO FORGIVEwhen you have been wronged by your spouse.Matthew 6:14-15Key 13Make every effort to ARRANGE FOR THE WIFE AND MOTHER TO BE IN THE HOMEduring the years when the children are growing up.A working mother with young children is actuallyholding down two full time jobs.She has little time nor energy left for her husbandat the end of the day.Titus 2:4-5Key 14As parents SUPPORT EACH OTHER IN THEDISCIPLINING OF THE CHILDREN.Failure to do so will cause the marriageand the children to suffer.Key 15Hold your spouse in high esteem.MAKE POSITIVE REMARKSABOUT YOUR MATETO FRIENDS AND FAMILY.If you and your spouse have celebrated 50 years of marriageor if you know of someone who has such a long-lasting marriage,let us know, so that we can give honoron a special page of</blockquote>

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