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Message: <blockquote data-quote="sirajstc" data-source="post: 4052940" data-attributes="member: 91140">ok meka diga wedi kattiyata man ketiyen pedili karannam <a href="http://elakiri.com/forum/showpost.php?p=4053244&postcount=24" target="_blank">http://elakiri.com/forum/showpost.php?p=4053244&postcount=24</a> <a href="http://elakiri.com/forum/showpost.php?p=4053266&postcount=27" target="_blank">http://elakiri.com/forum/showpost.php?p=4053266&postcount=27</a> <img src="/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/default/happy.gif"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":)" title="Happy    :)" data-shortname=":)" /> proof illana kattiyata full meka kiyawanna <img src="/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/default/D.gif"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D" data-shortname=":D" /> you all must read then u can understand our religion<img src="/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/default/happy.gif"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":)" title="Happy    :)" data-shortname=":)" /> I'm a boy of 26, and i have come to know a very nice girl, belonging to a very good family. I wish to marry her and to propose to her parents for this purpose. But the problem is that the girl is still a child, and only 13 years old, which makes her 13 years my junior in age. I wish to ask if its morally acceptable for me to think about her, be attracted to her and to propose for her in marriage. And do u think our relationship would be legitimate and socially and religiously acceptable with this age difference. Also, if per chance it is acceptable, it raises a question that islam advocates soliciting a girl's opinion in marriage, but how can such a young girl make an intelligent decision for herself. In such case, what are the basis for islam's allowing such a marriage to take place.                      Praise be to Allaah.                      There is nothing wrong with your marrying this girl, even      though there is this difference in age between you. What matters is that she      should be religiously committed and of good character. These are what      matters when it comes to marriage, and are the factors that lead to harmony      and happiness in sha Allaah.           The validity of marriage to a minor girl is proven by the      words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):           “And those of your women as have passed the age of monthly      courses, for them the ‘Iddah (prescribed period), if you have doubt (about      their periods), is three months; and for those who have no courses [(i.e.      they are still immature) their ‘Iddah (prescribed period) is three months      likewise, except in case of death]”           [al-Talaaq 65:4]           So the ‘iddah for those who do not menstruate because they      are too young is three months, and ‘iddah has to do with divorce after      getting married, which indicates that the girls in question has been married      and divorced.           The Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)      married ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) when she was six years      old, and he consummated the marriage with her when she was nine, and at that      time he was over fifty.           Al-Bukhaari (3894) and Muslim (1422) narrated that ‘Aa’ishah      said: The Prophet  (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married      me when I was six years old and consummated the marriage with me when I was      nine.           A girl who is thirteen years old may have reached the age of      puberty, in which case her consent is essential according to the more      correct of the two scholarly opinions, because the Prophet  (peace and      blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A previously-married woman should      not be married until she has been consulted, and a virgin should not be      married until her permission has been sought.” They said: “O Messenger of      Allaah, what is her permission?” He said: “If she remains silent.” Narrated      by al-Bukhaari, 5136; Muslim, 1419, from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may      Allaah be pleased with him).           If she has not reached the age of puberty, then her father      has the sole right to arrange her marriage and does not have to ask her      permission.           Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: With regard      to a virgin who is still a minor, there is no difference of opinion      concerning her (i.e., that her father may marry her off even if she      objects). Ibn al-Mundhir said: Every scholar from whom we learned was agreed      that it is permissible for a man to marry off his virgin daughter who is      still a minor, if he marries her to someone who is compatible, and it is      permissible for him to marry her off even if she objects and refuses.”      Al-Mughni, 9/398           But it was narrated from Imam Ahmad that whoever reaches the      age of nine years comes under the same ruling as a girl who has reached      puberty, so her permission must be sought. But if the father opts to be on      the safe side and ask her permission, that is better.  Al-Mughni,      8/398-405.           And Allaah knows best.</blockquote>

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