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Message: <blockquote data-quote="ibnanv" data-source="post: 6571109" data-attributes="member: 218596">What makes men cheat? After talking to many men and  women separately and collectively, I zeroed in on marriage and  relationship counselor Dr Kamal Khurana to whet the facts. The good  doctor dug through past research on male infidelity, has even counseled  couples and has arrived at the conclusion that most answers are from the  wife's point of view. Here, some of his findings:1. Disturbance in the marriage as the primary reasonWhen there are regular fights at home with his wife, which are left  unresolved, a pattern sets in wherein he continues to be unhappy and  ‘disturbed’. In this kind of a scenario, either he can fight or he can  flee. When he looks for an affair, he is looking to flee from dealing  with the issues in the marriage, and be comfortable with that ‘other  person’. It is telling oneself that the problems do not affect anyone  and life can continue in a better way with a parallel support.2. Cheating men report boredom led to the affairSome men may find the routine of a married life to be tedious and dull.  These men find it easier to shift dominance or primacy to another  relationship and feel the spark outside to be a thrilling option;  instead of finding ways of charging their marriage. It becomes present  moment for gratification versus the hard job that they will have to do  in their marriage to resolve an issue. The extra-marital relationship  provides them with a readymade and fresh experience, which is appealing  enough to take the risk.3. Cheating men love to experiment sexuallySex has always been and will always be an integral part of a marriage.  While some men are quite content spending the rest of their lives having  sex with the same wife for many years, others prefer to experiment more  as a need, rather than as an option. They want to sleep with many  women, many times, and therefore do not think twice before an  extra-marital alliance. It perhaps makes them feel sexually powerful and  more adept than others.4. Cheating men are emotionally dissatisfiedWhen their wives are too busy with their own lives, working or bringing  up children or even looking after in-laws and parents, emotionally, men  are left high and dry. But men are emotionally driven beings too. They  want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want  women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right. Most  men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their  emotional needs are often overlooked. Sometimes the couple may not be  compatible so however much the wife may do, the man will always find  something to complain about.It may also happen that the woman he cheats with is his co-worker or  boss, someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his  efforts. That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued  at home.5. Cheating men have a history of EMRSome men, in their childhood, may have witnessed cheating in their  parent’s marriage. This somewhere gives them a message that it is okay  to cheat, even though deep inside they know this is wrong. All of us  learn from our parents, so taking the risk is good enough. This acquired  learning also happens through cheating resorts taken by elder siblings,  neighbours, peer group and everybody who has been impacted. Sometimes  as teenagers and young adults, some men have had multiple relationships,  these men either intentionally or accidentally end up going back to  their ex-girlfriends. The other lot goes back to their past style of  having multiple relationships. It is well said, what a mind thinks,  achieves. So there are females also who are either consciously or  unconsciously looking for such men.6. Cheating men have wives who cheatMen also take revenge with their cheating wives, by having multiple  relationships themselves. Even if their wives are guilty and come accept  their extra-marital relationships, some men continue with their tricks.  This is mostly done by men who don’t want to forgive their spouses.7. Cheating men think it to be ‘divorce’Some men are willfully adulterous and use it as a means for acquiring  divorce. The law also considers adultery as a fair ground for the wife  to seek a divorce. The man is cheating openly and is in a non-receptive  mood, taking the wife’s feelings of frustration to an all-time high.  Although this percentage is less but it is there.8. Cheating men need to be neededWhen men feel that they are not needed by their wife anymore, they look  out for some other woman, who can understand them and make them feel  special. As an obvious outcome of a new relationship, they get that  feeling from the other woman. And suddenly when they are showered with  attention, which they haven’t received in a very long time in their  marriage, they toss their hands in the air and get deep into the new hot  and happening relationship.__________________</blockquote>

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