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Message: <blockquote data-quote="sirajstc" data-source="post: 7720701" data-attributes="member: 91140"> [FONT=&quot]By Dr. Norlain bint Muhammad Dindang [/FONT][FONT=&quot](Note: The Author is now using her real family name instead of her husband's family name (Mababaya) in conformity with Islamic value -- i.e., for woman to retain her own family name even after marriage.) [/FONT]   [FONT=&quot](Revised January 31, 2007) [/FONT]   [FONT=&quot]Non-Muslims, in general, have many misconceptions on Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and Islâm.  As the product of so many false propaganda written against the Messenger of Islam and the true religion from Allah, many non-Muslims misunderstood  the beauty, rationality, practicality, completeness,  truthfulness or in short, excellence of Islâm and its teachings.  One excellent Islâmic teaching in Islâm is polygamy (plurality of marriage among men).  Non-Muslims must know that everything that Allâh the Exalted, Most Glorious) and His Messenger (PBUH) command us to do is good for every one and for the society as a whole. [/FONT]  [FONT=&quot]Polygamy or plural marriage of men (polygyny) in Islam is limited only to a maximum of four with a condition that husbands are able to treat their wives with justice.  Otherwise, the rule in Islam is monogamy as clearly stated in the following Ayah (Qur'anic Verse):[/FONT]  “If  you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, three, or four.  But if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or that which your right hands possess.  That will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.”  (Qur’an, 4:3)    [FONT=&quot]Polygamy solves adultery among men, who by nature are polygamous, or are not happy with their wives from committing adulteries. It prevents the prevalence of AIDS and other similar diseases arising from illicit sexual relations among people of loose morals. It minimizes divorce as men are given the option to marry other women of their choice without divorcing their present wives. This subsequently, avoids the occurrence of juvenile delinquencies among children of broken families.  Furthermore, polygamy gives opportunity for more unmarried women to be married, considering the fact that women exceed men in number.  This in turn eliminates fornication and prostitution, thus greatly reducing the number of children born out of wedlock.  Unfortunately, children born out of wedlock are being ostracized in the same way as their mothers are being looked down by the society.  In polygamy, children are recognized as legal offspring of their fathers just as their mothers are respected as legally married women. [/FONT]  [FONT=&quot]Many enemies of Islâm center their biased criticisms on the Prophet Muhammad's plural marriages, which exceeded more than four as allowed in the Qur’ân.  They brand the Prophet (PBUH) as “sexually obsessed man” for marrying more than four.  In Islam, men are allowed to marry maximum four as long as they can show fair treatment to the women (whom they marry) as stated in Chapter 4 Verse 3 of the Holy Qur'an. [/FONT]  [FONT=&quot]Non-Muslims need to correct their distorted notion of the Prophet (PBUH) as “sexually obsessed man” for marrying more than four.  They need to know that Allâh the All-Knowing, Most High commands all of us to follow His Messenger (PBUH) as the Prophet (PBUH) is the best example to the whole mankind.  Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) possesses an exalted standard of character (i.e., sublime morals) (Qur’ân 68:4).  He is therefore, the best excellent example for us to follow in order to attain prosperous life in the Hereafter. Allah the Almighty says: [/FONT]  “Indeed in Allah’s Messenger (Muhammad) you have an excellent example to follow for him who hopes in (meeting with) Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much.”   (Qur’ân 33:21)   “Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet, whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures); -- in the Torah and the Gospel; for he commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil.  He allows them as lawful what is good (and pure) and prohibits them from what is bad (and impure).  He releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them.  So it is those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him -- it is they who will prosper.”   (Qur’ân 7: 157)  [FONT=&quot]In an authentic Hadîth we read that theProphet (PBUH) himself said:[/FONT]  Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “I have been sent (as a Messenger) in the best of all generations of Adam’s offspring since the Creation.”  (Bukhari 4/757)  [FONT=&quot]Islâm as the perfect religion is both rational and practical.  The Prophet’s plural marriages, which exceeded the maximum number allowed for men is an exception to the Qur’ânic injunction (i.e., 4:3) to show all possible types of marriages in Islâm.  If he was “sexually obsessed man” he would have married more in his early manhood, not after he had passed the age of fifty.  The fact that he married Khadijah bint Khuwailid (may Allah be pleased with her) and lived a monogamous life for twenty-seven years till Khadijah died, showed that he (PBUH) was not “sexually obsessed man”. But his marriage to Khadijah shows only limited types of marriage that are allowed in Islâm.  That is, it is permissible for a man to marry a woman who is older than him, for a poor and orphan man to marry a wealthy woman, for an employee to marry his employer, and for a bachelor man to marry a widow.   [/FONT]   [FONT=&quot]If Allâh the Most Merciful did not allow the Prophet (PBUH) to marry other women, how could marriage in Islâm be open to all other types of marriages?  Had the Prophet (PBUH) not married other women, Muslims who follow the Sunnah (Prophet's Traditions, Practices and Teachings) would find it difficult to enter into marriage with the limited examples from the Prophet’s marriage to Khadijah.  The Prophet’s plural marriages after his monogamous marriage with Khadijah for so many years show that in Islâm it is allowed for a man to marry virgin woman, who is very much younger than him, as in the case of ‘Aishah bint Abi Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her).  Glory be to Allah, the All-Knowing, the All Wise, through ‘Aishah Muslims and non-Muslims worldwide have learned authentic ahadeeth from the Prophet (PBUH) as she was not only young but also very intelligent. She has memorized and narrated many of the Prophet’s authentic ahadeeth which renowned Muslim scholars like Imam Bukhari, Muslim, Nasai, Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud compiled in their collections of Ahadeeth.  This is the very wisdom of the Prophet’s marriage to ‘Aishah.  Non-Muslims who blatantly criticized the Prophet (PBUH) for marrying a very young girl and accused him of “sexually obsessed” must repent to Allah the Most Merciful, Most Forgiving for their evil thoughts.   [/FONT]  [FONT=&quot]A man in Islam can choose to marry a young and intelligent woman like ‘Aishah.  He can marry his friends’ daughters, in the same way as the Prophet (PBUH) married ‘Aishah and Hafsah, the daughters of his closest friends: Abu Bakar and Umar (may Allah be pleased with them) in order to foster ties of relationships.  Or he can marry his enemies’ daughters as the Prophet (PBUH) married: Juwairiyah bint Al-Harith, the daughter of Al Harith, the head of Bani Al-Mustaliq of Khuza’ah and Umm Habibah or Ramlah, the daughter of Abu Sufyan.  Note that both Al-Harith and Abu Sufyan were bitter enemies of Islâm.  The Prophet’s marriages to their daughters show how Islâm goes for peace and reconciliation.  [/FONT]</blockquote>

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