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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Stimulus mind" data-source="post: 26673813" data-attributes="member: 577135"><h2>Tip 3: Challenge damaging mindsets</h2><img src="https://www.rossall.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Neuriokastucuty-and-Growth-Mindsets.png" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="width: 875px" />People with anorexia are often perfectionists and overachievers. They’re the “good” daughters and sons who do what they’re told, try to excel in everything they do, and focus on pleasing others. But while they may appear to have it all together, inside they feel helpless, inadequate, and worthless.If that sounds familiar to you, here’s the good news: these feelings don’t reflect reality. They’re fueled by irrational, self-sabotaging ways of thinking that you can learn to overcome.<h3>Damaging mindsets that fuel anorexia</h3>All-or-nothing thinking. Through this harshly critical lens, if you’re not perfect, you’re a total failure. You have a hard time seeing shades of gray, at least when it comes to yourself.Emotional reasoning. You believe if you feel a certain way, it must be true. “I feel fat” means “I am fat.” “I feel hopeless” means you’ll never get better.Musts, must-nots, and have-tos. You hold yourself to a rigid set of rules (“I must not eat more than x number of calories,“ “I have to get straight A’s,” “I must always be in control.” etc.) and beat yourself up if you break them.Labelling. You call yourself names based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings. “I’m unhappy with how I look” becomes “I’m disgusting.” Slipping up becomes “I’m a “failure.”Catastrophizing. You jump to the worst-case scenario. If you backslide in recovery, for example, you assume that there’s no hope you’ll ever get better.<h3>Put your thoughts on the witness stand</h3>Once you identify the destructive thoughts patterns that you default to, you can start to challenge them with questions such as:<ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">“What’s the evidence that this thought is true? Not true?”</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">“What would I tell a friend who had this thought?”</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">“Is there another way of looking at the situation or an alternate explanation?”</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">“How might I look at this situation if I didn’t have anorexia?”</li> </ul>As you cross-examine your negative thoughts, you may be surprised at how quickly they crumble. In the process, you’ll develop a more balanced perspective.<h2>Tip 4: Develop a healthier relationship with food</h2><img src="https://thriveworks.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/blog-thriveworks-food-relationship.jpg?w=1024" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="width: 892px" />Even though anorexia isn’t fundamentally about food, over time you’ve developed harmful food habits that can be tough to break. Developing a healthier relationship with food entails:<ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Getting back to a healthy weight</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Starting to eat more food</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Changing how you think about yourself and food</li> </ul>Let go of rigid food rules. While following rigid rules may help you feel in control, it’s a temporary illusion. The truth is that these rules are controlling you, not the other way around. In order to get better, you’ll need to let go. This is a big change that will feel scary at first, but day by day, it will get easier.Get back in touch with your body. If you have anorexia, you’ve learned to ignore your body’s hunger and fullness signals. You may not even recognize them anymore. The goal is to get back in touch with these internal cues, so you can eat based on your physiological needs.Allow yourself to eat all foods. Instead of putting certain food off-limits, eat whatever you want, but pay attention to how you feel physically after eating different foods. Ideally, what you eat should leave you feeling satisfied and energized.Get rid of your scale. Instead of focusing on weight as a measurement of self-worth, focus on how you feel. Make health and vitality your goal, not a number on the scale.Develop a healthy meal plan. If you need to gain weight, a nutritionist or dietician can help you develop a healthy meal plan that includes enough calories to get you back to a normal weight. While you can do this on your own, you’re probably out of touch with what a normal meal or serving size looks like.<h4>Getting past your fear of gaining weight</h4>Getting back to a normal weight is no easy task. The thought of gaining weight is probably extremely frightening, and you may be tempted to resist.But this fear is a symptom of your anorexia. Reading about anorexia or talking to other people who have lived with it can help. It also helps to be honest about your feelings and fears. The better your family and treatment team understand what you’re going through, the better support you’ll receive.<h2></h2><h2>Helping someone with anorexia</h2><img src="https://www.communitycare.com/DynamicFile/Eating-Disorder-Awareness-Week-Article-1200x600.png" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="width: 889px" />While there are ways you can help someone with an eating disorder, you can’t force the person to get better. Having anorexia can distort the way your loved one thinks—about their body, the world around them, even your motivations for trying to help. Add to that the defensiveness and denial involved in anorexia and you’ll need to tread lightly.Waving around articles about the dire effects of anorexia or declaring, “you’ll die if you don’t eat!” probably won’t work. A better approach is to gently express your concerns and let the person know that you’re available to listen. If your loved one is willing to talk, listen without judgment, no matter how out of touch the person sounds.Think of yourself as an “outsider.” As someone not suffering from anorexia, there isn’t a lot you can do to “solve” your loved one’s condition. It is ultimately their choice to decide when they are ready.Encourage your loved one to get help. The longer an eating disorder remains undiagnosed and untreated, the harder it is on the body and the more difficult it is to overcome, so urge your loved one to see a doctor as soon as possible.Seek advice from a health professional, even if your friend or family member won’t. And you can bring others—from peers to parents—into the circle of support.Be a role model for healthy eating, exercising, and body image. Don’t make negative comments about your own body or anyone else’s.Don’t act like the food police. A person with anorexia needs compassion and support, not an authority figure standing over the table with a calorie counter.Avoid threats, scare tactics, angry outbursts, and put-downs. Bear in mind that anorexia is often a symptom of extreme emotional distress and develops out of an attempt to manage emotional pain, stress, and/or self-hate. Negative communication will only make it worse.Source: helpguide.orgAuthors: Melinda Smith, M.A., Lawrence Robinson, and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D.[MEDIA=youtube]0O5dJ9ODjx8[/MEDIA]</blockquote>

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