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Message: <blockquote data-quote="~v3n0m~" data-source="post: 4401965" data-attributes="member: 122173">~How to Avoid Unwanted Hugs~<img src="http://i.ehow.com/images/GlobalPhoto/Articles/4900744/handshake-main_Full.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" />You can refuse unwanted hugs without offense.These days, in the United States, it is popular among many people to give and receive hugs almost at random, with people they barely know. Whether this is a practice begun in Hollywood, 12-step groups, group therapy, or some other source, not everyone appreciates uninvited touching. Here are a few ways to politely avoid hugs.InstructionsIn a group setting, where unwanted hugs often occur, try to notice someone coming at you with the intention of giving you a hug. When you have determined that the person really intends to hug you, take one step back.Cross your left (non-handshake) arm across your chest, while at the same time offering your right hand in a handshake gesture.                     Say something like, " I am uncomfortable with hugs right now, but I would love to shake hands with you!" This is a friendly compromise which softens what could be perceived as a rejection.In more private settings, sometimes a handshake is inappropriate. In such an instance, simply step back and state that you don't really want a hug right now. Suggest an alternative, such as sitting next to each other or having a little private talk. Your body belongs to you and no one else gets to decide whether you get a hug or not.Tips & WarningsIf the impending hug seems to be about to happen anyway, continue to take steps backward and to repeat that you aren't comfortable with hugs right now.It's best to avoid rudeness or hurt feelings, but if someone persists despite your objections, it is perfectly all right to be rude or risk hurt feelings. Unwanted touch is also called, "assault" and should never be tolerated for the sake of politeness.If you are the kind of person who likes to give hugs, bravo! You are probably a well-intentioned and loving person. However, many cultures do not appreciate touching between unrelated individuals or hugs outside of marriage. If you must hug someone you know well, ASK PERMISSION FIRST. Also, some people have other reasons for not wanting to be hugged, such as chronic pain or sexual abuse issues. Be sensitive. Hugs mean different things to different people and are a privilege, not a right.</blockquote>

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