OMG ......... Who are you ??? some kind of a seeker , seeking for truth or someting ???
It's kind of right that you choose Vipassena ....to be in control. But we all take things from the wrong side ........Actually it's not Vipassana that gave the control over our self ...it's just an exercise to keep our mind fit .....for the attacks comming from internally & externally ...........
Most important thing is .... stop arguing things that we can't even undestand ..... and spend that time to looking in to your self .......
If you really want to be in control ... look inside your self ...... thats all you want to do ...undestand your self ....
Being in love, is a problem .....but being in heatred is also a problem .....Thats why we have to take the middle path .... so i dont prefer Love or Heatred