**Plz Help ME!!**

[hamish]

you're in a school where the class mates speak in tamil. Unless your parents are off their heads they wont put you in that school unless your first language is also tamil right ?
That's about the only inference that makes sense.
Still all this is somewhat irrelevant. What you need to realize is that you dont have problems that are anywhere near serious enough to kill yourself.

no use of balming our parents, its my mistake that i donno tamil...

 

[hamish]

kolle unama karanna ona wada thawa thinawa ne eka methana post karanna bari nam eyata PM karanna

y dun u PM me then?

 

[hamish]

it is better to tell this feeling to ur mother
then go to a psychiatrist (not a joke.u seriously need a one)
it will help u to build ur future in a gd way

i had told to our mother for a certain extend.
and i hav done everything wot u said...

 

[hamish]

 

[milindasenarath]

i had told to our mother for a certain extend.
and i hav done everything wot u said...

so what happened?

 

[Tom Riddle]

Malli,

I hope you'll have the patience to read through this post.

At your age, you tend to blow everything out of proportion. You don't have enough perspective to handle the situation.

Being an only child, I too had over-protective parents. I won't lie to you, I didn't like not being able to be in the 'in-crowd' either. But not going out with your classmates or not going to parties isn't such a big deal. It doesn't need to stop you from making friends. I never went on class trips but that didn't stop me. And me with far more things going against me in making friends.

As for not having a GF malli, if you said that was a problem to most people they probably would laugh their ass off. For heaven's sake, you are still 16!! Still plenty of time, plenty of good fish in the sea.

Get off the Internet. Start socializing with people. Talk to your classmates, join in the fun things, games they do etc. It's not as hard as you might think. Your parents aren't there to monitor what you get up to at school. You are too valuable a person to be wasting your time in front of a screen. You are highly talented and an asset to our country, though for some reason you don't realize it.

Talk to your parents. They are doing this to protect you. They love you so much that they are terrified that something might happen to you. You have to show them that rather than protecting you what they are doing is ruining your life. If they don't listen to you, try to get a family friend or relative to point it out to them. Don't argue, it will only make matters worse and confirm their wrong belief that you need to be protected in an extreme manner.

There are so many good things in life. You may feel you have seen it all at 16. Suicide is for weak people who have no potential to realize. You are stronger than that. Believe in yourself.

You can see how few posts I have made in almost 3 years at EK. I took the time to write this as I understand how you are feeling and I do care about what you do.

 

[nadman]

Dude are you still depressed? I remember ur suicide thread.
Man you are still 16 you haven't seen enough of life to understand true sadness.
Here is my advice-
You need to get out more: sitting in front of a p.c moping never did anyone any good.I dont mean that you should go out partying or drinking(not a gd idea cause you are only 16)just put your self in social situations.
It could be something as simple as going to the shops or even a class where u meet people and interact with them.
Dont worry about what ur not good at or that you weren't given the chance to shine,just think that opportunity is yet to come and work towards tangible goals you want to achieve in the future.
Just remember this sadness is a emotion like happiness or anger or fear.When a child feels these emotions he has little to no control over them, they over whelm him and hit him at full force.As time passes however and the child becomes a man he learns to control these emotions.This is what you should learn.
Dude because you are still young you feel that the sadness you feel now is the worst you will ever feel.But in time you will learn to overcome these feelings and standtall.
Dont go killing your self now!
TC
-nadman

 

[hamish]

Malli,

I hope you'll have the patience to read through this post.

At your age, you tend to blow everything out of proportion. You don't have enough perspective to handle the situation.

Being an only child, I too had over-protective parents. I won't lie to you, I didn't like not being able to be in the 'in-crowd' either. But not going out with your classmates or not going to parties isn't such a big deal. It doesn't need to stop you from making friends. I never went on class trips but that didn't stop me. And me with far more things going against me in making friends.

As for not having a GF malli, if you said that was a problem to most people they probably would laugh their ass off. For heaven's sake, you are still 16!! Still plenty of time, plenty of good fish in the sea.

Get off the Internet. Start socializing with people. Talk to your classmates, join in the fun things, games they do etc. It's not as hard as you might think. Your parents aren't there to monitor what you get up to at school. You are too valuable a person to be wasting your time in front of a screen. You are highly talented and an asset to our country, though for some reason you don't realize it.

Talk to your parents. They are doing this to protect you. They love you so much that they are terrified that something might happen to you. You have to show them that rather than protecting you what they are doing is ruining your life. If they don't listen to you, try to get a family friend or relative to point it out to them. Don't argue, it will only make matters worse and confirm their wrong belief that you need to be protected in an extreme manner.

There are so many good things in life. You may feel you have seen it all at 16. Suicide is for weak people who have no potential to realize. You are stronger than that. Believe in yourself.

You can see how few posts I have made in almost 3 years at EK. I took the time to write this as I understand how you are feeling and I do care about what you do.

firstly thanks for your note-worthy post

'You are highly talented and an asset to our country, though for some reason you don't realize it.'

apart from that i agree with you bro! cuz i didn't understand what u ment be that

this is one of the best post i have ever read in my EK life. Thnaks, u are sooo true, r u a psychologist or a councilor?? I like to talk with you further r u on skype? if so pls PM your ID, i will add you.


im really proud of you! be seeing your post count and this reply, i can't beleive my eyes.

 

[hamish]

Dude are you still depressed? I remember ur suicide thread.
Man you are still 16 you haven't seen enough of life to understand true sadness.
Here is my advice-
You need to get out more: sitting in front of a p.c moping never did anyone any good.I dont mean that you should go out partying or drinking(not a gd idea cause you are only 16)just put your self in social situations.
It could be something as simple as going to the shops or even a class where u meet people and interact with them.
Dont worry about what ur not good at or that you weren't given the chance to shine,just think that opportunity is yet to come and work towards tangible goals you want to achieve in the future.
Just remember this sadness is a emotion like happiness or anger or fear.When a child feels these emotions he has little to no control over them, they over whelm him and hit him at full force.As time passes however and the child becomes a man he learns to control these emotions.This is what you should learn.
Dude because you are still young you feel that the sadness you feel now is the worst you will ever feel.But in time you will learn to overcome these feelings and standtall.
Dont go killing your self now!
TC
-nadman

firstly thanks for your reply...

the hardest thing to give up is my computer, at home i spend most of the time in front of the computer and then sleeping...shopping yanawaa....but im nt allowed to moce with firends, cuz parents say that the friends here are not good. I do go for classes...

 

[hamish]

you sed that you don;t get oppurtunities...but bro that is wrong

you should go looking for chances bro
u can't just sit there and wait until opptunties find ya

hmmmm......

yeah, cuz of my tries only im in this position or els none of my talents will come out

 

[hamish]

 

[Tom Riddle]

Hi, glad to hear that you feel a bit better now.

And no malli, sorry to disappoint you, I'm not a psychiatrist or a counselor. I was concerned for you as I could relate to your situation.


started to drive at the age of 8+ (almost 9). I drove a manual gear dolphin van - LH113 (nothing to do with this talent)
I am good in public speaking (conducting meeting etc. Announcing etc.) but only in English. When the selection is to be made by the teachers or the higher authority, then im selected, but when the selection is to be made by the students, im not selected.
Good at impromptive speech.
Good at writing poems + lyrics. But no use of doing that too. I have only one more hope lets see whether it comes true.
Good at sports. But no opportunity wasn't given, so i gave up.

many more can't remember!

I didnt hide, i was not given opportunities to show ma talent, I even if i was giving it was restricted, I was given the speech topic in the morning and i had to do the speech the morning, i had only around 30mins to get some points and get ready, it was an important and golden opportunity for me cuz it was the western province speech competition,for grade 10 to A/L students. i ended up getting the second place I am currently studying in grade 10, now qualified for the all island competition, but in the present situation I'm not sure that will i at least get the topic a day before the competition

i dun hav any issues with ma frndz, I was named the cricket captain for our class in the 6 a side tournament, I was appointed as the English literacy association president, + I am the group leader, I was the junior head prefect, I regularly be the monitor. My friends helped me a lot to be in such situation. Many more cant remember.

Where am i to publish the poem apart from the school magazine? I was named the best debater in the debate held last week. I scored 18 out of my 20 marks, our team score was 47 but my contribution was 18 on that, I too was the leader.





This is what I was talking about. You are a good public speaker (for heaven's sake, do you realize how few people can speak in front of an audience competently? And that too in English?? And then you go on to say you are the President of the English literacy association, group leader, junior head prefect and a poet. Isn't this enough? Those are talents most people dream of having. It's almost as if you have listed down the characteristics companies are looking for in the people they hire.



I'm really really sorry, but I'm not on skype. I'm not really into these techy things. But you could PM me anytime you like. I'm more than happy to help you through your difficulties.

 

[nadun07]

Malli,

I hope you'll have the patience to read through this post.

At your age, you tend to blow everything out of proportion. You don't have enough perspective to handle the situation.

Being an only child, I too had over-protective parents. I won't lie to you, I didn't like not being able to be in the 'in-crowd' either. But not going out with your classmates or not going to parties isn't such a big deal. It doesn't need to stop you from making friends. I never went on class trips but that didn't stop me. And me with far more things going against me in making friends.

As for not having a GF malli, if you said that was a problem to most people they probably would laugh their ass off. For heaven's sake, you are still 16!! Still plenty of time, plenty of good fish in the sea.

Get off the Internet. Start socializing with people. Talk to your classmates, join in the fun things, games they do etc. It's not as hard as you might think. Your parents aren't there to monitor what you get up to at school. You are too valuable a person to be wasting your time in front of a screen. You are highly talented and an asset to our country, though for some reason you don't realize it.

Talk to your parents. They are doing this to protect you. They love you so much that they are terrified that something might happen to you. You have to show them that rather than protecting you what they are doing is ruining your life. If they don't listen to you, try to get a family friend or relative to point it out to them. Don't argue, it will only make matters worse and confirm their wrong belief that you need to be protected in an extreme manner.

There are so many good things in life. You may feel you have seen it all at 16. Suicide is for weak people who have no potential to realize. You are stronger than that. Believe in yourself.

You can see how few posts I have made in almost 3 years at EK. I took the time to write this as I understand how you are feeling and I do care about what you do.

 

[Nadz19]

hamish im 18.....i remember hw i ws whn i ws 16...i had the same situation when i ws in OL clz......i ws the best in my grade bt my mthr ws nt ok wth it she wntd more so i wsnt allowed much freedom.
and nw...................
after a long fight and explanations which got me almost killed i won my freedom....
now im aloowed to do anything...(literally anything..even allowed alcohol in home)
nw u can find me any time in the gym or swimmin in the beach.....
HAMISH its in ur hands to change ur way of lyf....you should talk to ur parents and come to a place whr u will be happy...!
wut we need here z ur happiness i knw ur dissapointed abt lyf..and thinking of suicide....
But as far as i see this i think u r nt under ur control its ur parents that tel u wt to do...
i knw hw hard it s to explain smthing to ur elders...but i want you to try ..its clear that the problem z in ur household....
i also see that ur a vry capable guy.ppl like u need alot of freedom..u may find that othr guys hu hs same conditions do not feel lyk u..bcz thy d not want freedom they are used to obey thr parents and do wt they tell wthout questioning......BUT U CANT

WHy??

bcz u r creative u gt ur own ideas....and u should be ur own master..
and also remember we live in a society driven by fear not wisdom...
ppl fear that thr children will fail..
that thy will become spoilt....

The next step u shld be taking z to talk to ur parents...i do not mean jst to sit back and talk but 1st u should grab thr attention and give ur msg....!!!
telling frnds z nt gnna help u...present children of ur age are almost hopeless with ideas and problem solving....they would jst say
"Owa ganan ganna epa" a good frnd will never say this bt ths z the common situation.

 

[agrmrs]

macho ube talnets monawada ? nikan kiyapan man solution ekak kiyannam

 

[hamish]

macho ube talnets monawada ? nikan kiyapan man solution ekak kiyannam

look in the previous pages