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Message: <blockquote data-quote="sirajstc" data-source="post: 6340471" data-attributes="member: 91140"> <ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">When you drive make sure you remember that there is a fragile vessel beside you, who would like to see what’s out of the window rather than a blur because you’re speeding. No white knuckle rides please.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Ask your mother about her youth, most mothers love recalling their past</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Be good to her relatives and her friends</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Name some of your children after her side of the family, as a lot of the time it’s the dad who chooses her children’s names.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Have a good relationship with your brothers and sisters; there is nothing more worrying to a mother than seeing her children at odds with one another.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Never raise your voice or speak in a harsh tone to your mother.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Tell her regularly what’s going on in your life, don’t let her hear your news from others.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Seek her opinion in all major decisions, she has been there and done that.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Always thank and praise her for the good job she has done over the years.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Kiss her when you go and come from the house.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Make Du’a for her</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Always ask her to make Du’a for you and your family, this brings her closer to your family.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Ring your mother if you’re going to be late getting home.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Try not to stay out too late, as she will not sleep till you’re safely inside.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Be patient when she is not feeling well, bring her all she needs, and go with her to the doctors so she has support.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Remind your mother to be a good Muslimah , and tell her heart softening stories and about paradise and hell.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Read to her Islamic books</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">What ever you learned in a gathering or class, share it with her.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Remind her to read Surah al-Kahf on Fridays</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Take her to the mosque if she wishes to go.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Make sure she has contact with other good sisters who will increase her Iman.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Take her to her friends yourself or arrange transport.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Invite her to your house at the weekend.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Take cooked food to her, to give her a rest.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Encourage her to do the Sunnah fasts, and then break fast with each other.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Know what makes your mother smile and do it often.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Be an active and a productive member of society. Mothers are happy when they see this.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Buy your mum flowers, the smell and prettiness of flowers do wonders.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Lead your mother and family in the Salah.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Get married and choose a spouse who your mother approves of.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Choose a wife who is soft hearted and will treat your mother well.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Don’t put off jobs that need done around the house.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Remind her always of the traps of the Shaytan, remind her to do her daily Adkhars.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Choose your own friends wisely.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Pay for her to do Hajj and Umrah and go with her.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Don’t remind her of how much you spent on her.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Look after her health, reminding her of the benefits of a good diet and some exercise.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Always ask your mums advice about your own household, this makes her happy and lets her know you value her opinion.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">If there is any problem with your wife and mother, then never carry tales saying what the other said as most of that is done in anger.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Read Ruqya Ayat over water and give her it to drink.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Buy her beauty products, and perfumes.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Be there when there is any lifting to be done.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Let her listen and correct your mistakes, when you’re memorizing Quran.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Always intervene in any disputes between your parents calmly.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Give her some money from your salary every month, so she can save for something she wants to buy, or to give in charity.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Lay your head in each others lap, you might be 12 or 40 but in your mothers eyes you’re still her child.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Give charity on her behalf regularly.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Give charity on behalf of her deceased relatives.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Buy her gold, women like it and it’s an investment.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Listen to her complaints with understanding, and give her solutions that she can imply to make her life better.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Walk at her pace with her on the inside protected from the road.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">If she wants to share what’s in her glass with you, drink from the same side she drank from.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Just like children who need quality time, give this to your mother also.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Serve her first with the food.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">When you give her a drink, wait till she has finished then take away her glass.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Use affectionate terms for her and other motherly terms of affection.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">When you see her doing something wrong, even in that disobedience treat her gently and with the upmost respect.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Always open the door for her.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Try to always speak in her mother tongue, and if your not then translate word for word, so she does not feel left out.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Remind her of the rights Islam has bestowed on the mother, and tell her good stories of how others treat their mothers.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Never cut your mother off when she is speaking, and be patient when she cuts you off.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Sit at her feet and listen to what she is saying.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Make her a large part of your grandchildren’s lives; always bring them over to visit.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Teach your own children to respect their grandparents as well.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">If you are in a class and you are unsure as to why mum is calling then leave the class to answer the call.’</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">When you’re angry with each other, don’t leave the house, and don’t refuse her food, or any attempts your mother makes to make amends, try to be the first one to defuse the situation.</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Always knock on her bedroom door before entering</li> </ul><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Don’t enter into debates that you know will irritate each other, especially in the morning and at night.</li> </ul></blockquote>

Verification: Hathara warak wissa keeyada? (Hathara wadi karanna 20)

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