Tips on How to Treat Our Mothers

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Tips on How to Treat Our Mothers

I have seen many peoples treating there mother not well,have lots of conflicts with mother…so,Here is a list of tips on how to treat your mothers..These include the tips which can be done by son and daughter..

Allah says in Quran :

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination. [Noble Quran 31:14]
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They carried us in their wombs for nine months, then endured the pain of labor, and then nurtured us and did everything for us when we were helpless babies and children; they bear the teenage years with patience and advice.
I hope this compilation of ways on how to treat our mothers will put a smile on the faces of your mothers, and let them know we have not forgotten what they go through. A smile with a warm embrace.

• Saying thanks often.

• An offer to wash up the dishes.

• A cup of tea without her asking.

• Recite her favorite Surah,

• Tidy round after she goes to bed, so that when she wakes up the house is tidy.

• Buy her little ornaments for round the house so when she sees them she remembers you.

• Rub her feet (after all, that’s where Paradise is).

• Phone your mum just to tell her you love her.

• Buy her surprise gifts.

• Go to her when she calls you.

• Write a poem for her.

• If you’re on the phone, and your mother is asking something tell the person to wait.

• Cook for her.

• Let her teach you to cook even if you know, she will enjoy the fact that you’re coming to her to ask.

• Bring your wife to her to learn how to cook, she will enjoy teaching her your favorite recipes, and both of you praise her cooking.

• Clean the house without your mum having to ask.

• Tell her how happy you are that she is a part of your life and your own families.

• Always take your mothers side in front of your wife and mother over differing opinions; you can appease your wife later on out of sight.

• Give her money to treat herself.

• Make breakfast for her.

• Go to get the shopping for her.

• If your mother likes to get the shopping, in then be patient with her as she goes up and down the aisles.

• Do your own washing and ironing.

• Spread the salaam when you leave and return from the home.

• Comb her hair.

• Massage her shoulders.

• Do well in school

• Pray all your prayers on time

• Help with your younger siblings so she can put her feet up.

• Teach your younger siblings to also help around the house, a mother needs time for her Ibadah too; her Ibadah should not have to fit around housework all the time.

• Look good and smell nice and be polite so that you’re a good example of her upbringing.

• Don’t always have your mum waking you up for prayer; try to wake her up instead.

• Help her with new technology, this stimulates her brain and keeps her mentally fit.

• Take an interest in her hobbies. If its sewing making sure she has all the things she needs. Ooo and ahhh, at her creations.

• Listen to lectures together; watch programs together this is what makes the bond stronger between you.

• Take the bins out and remember to bring them in, once they are emptied, this chore is something Muslim mums don’t like as they have to cover them selves all up to take it out.

• If affordable, try to buy her the best and freshest food at the supermarket

• Take her out for drives in the car, especially if you live in the city take her to the countryside, go with the whole family and take a picnic.

 

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• When you drive make sure you remember that there is a fragile vessel beside you, who would like to see what’s out of the window rather than a blur because you’re speeding. No white knuckle rides please.

• Ask your mother about her youth, most mothers love recalling their past

• Be good to her relatives and her friends

• Name some of your children after her side of the family, as a lot of the time it’s the dad who chooses her children’s names.

• Have a good relationship with your brothers and sisters; there is nothing more worrying to a mother than seeing her children at odds with one another.

• Never raise your voice or speak in a harsh tone to your mother.

• Tell her regularly what’s going on in your life, don’t let her hear your news from others.

• Seek her opinion in all major decisions, she has been there and done that.

• Always thank and praise her for the good job she has done over the years.

• Kiss her when you go and come from the house.

• Make Du’a for her

• Always ask her to make Du’a for you and your family, this brings her closer to your family.

• Ring your mother if you’re going to be late getting home.

• Try not to stay out too late, as she will not sleep till you’re safely inside.

• Be patient when she is not feeling well, bring her all she needs, and go with her to the doctors so she has support.

• Remind your mother to be a good Muslimah , and tell her heart softening stories and about paradise and hell.

• Read to her Islamic books

• What ever you learned in a gathering or class, share it with her.

• Remind her to read Surah al-Kahf on Fridays

• Take her to the mosque if she wishes to go.

• Make sure she has contact with other good sisters who will increase her Iman.

• Take her to her friends yourself or arrange transport.

• Invite her to your house at the weekend.

• Take cooked food to her, to give her a rest.

• Encourage her to do the Sunnah fasts, and then break fast with each other.

• Know what makes your mother smile and do it often.

• Be an active and a productive member of society. Mothers are happy when they see this.

• Buy your mum flowers, the smell and prettiness of flowers do wonders.

• Lead your mother and family in the Salah.

• Get married and choose a spouse who your mother approves of.

• Choose a wife who is soft hearted and will treat your mother well.

• Don’t put off jobs that need done around the house.

• Remind her always of the traps of the Shaytan, remind her to do her daily Adkhars.

• Choose your own friends wisely.

• Pay for her to do Hajj and Umrah and go with her.

• Don’t remind her of how much you spent on her.

• Look after her health, reminding her of the benefits of a good diet and some exercise.

• Always ask your mums advice about your own household, this makes her happy and lets her know you value her opinion.

• If there is any problem with your wife and mother, then never carry tales saying what the other said as most of that is done in anger.

• Read Ruqya Ayat over water and give her it to drink.

• Buy her beauty products, and perfumes.

• Be there when there is any lifting to be done.

• Let her listen and correct your mistakes, when you’re memorizing Quran.

• Always intervene in any disputes between your parents calmly.

• Give her some money from your salary every month, so she can save for something she wants to buy, or to give in charity.

• Lay your head in each others lap, you might be 12 or 40 but in your mothers eyes you’re still her child.

• Give charity on her behalf regularly.

• Give charity on behalf of her deceased relatives.

• Buy her gold, women like it and it’s an investment.

• Listen to her complaints with understanding, and give her solutions that she can imply to make her life better.

• Walk at her pace with her on the inside protected from the road.

• If she wants to share what’s in her glass with you, drink from the same side she drank from.

• Just like children who need quality time, give this to your mother also.

• Serve her first with the food.

• When you give her a drink, wait till she has finished then take away her glass.

• Use affectionate terms for her and other motherly terms of affection.

• When you see her doing something wrong, even in that disobedience treat her gently and with the upmost respect.

• Always open the door for her.

• Try to always speak in her mother tongue, and if your not then translate word for word, so she does not feel left out.

• Remind her of the rights Islam has bestowed on the mother, and tell her good stories of how others treat their mothers.

• Never cut your mother off when she is speaking, and be patient when she cuts you off.

• Sit at her feet and listen to what she is saying.

• Make her a large part of your grandchildren’s lives; always bring them over to visit.

• Teach your own children to respect their grandparents as well.

• If you are in a class and you are unsure as to why mum is calling then leave the class to answer the call.’

• When you’re angry with each other, don’t leave the house, and don’t refuse her food, or any attempts your mother makes to make amends, try to be the first one to defuse the situation.

• Always knock on her bedroom door before entering

• Don’t enter into debates that you know will irritate each other, especially in the morning and at night.

 

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My mother wasn't always telling the truth

8 Lies of my Mother​

I was the only son in a poor family, whenever we were sitting for food, she said " you eat I am not hungry". later she would lick the left plates.
This was Mother's First Lie.

As I grew, Mother gave up her spare time to fish in a river near our house; Once she brought two fish from the nearby pond and asked me to eat, While I was eating the fish, mother would sit beside me and eat the what was still left on the bone of the fish I had eaten, My heart was touched when I saw it. Once I gave the other fish to her on my chopstick but she immediately refused it and said, "don't you know I hate fish"
This was Mother's Second Lie.

Then, in order to fund my education, Mother went to a Match Factory to bring home some used matchboxes, which she filled with fresh matchsticks. This helped her get some money to cover our needs. One wintry night I awoke to find Mother filling the matchboxes by candlelight. So I said, "Mother, go to sleep; it's late: you can continue working tomorrow morning." Mother smiled and said Go to sleep, " I am not tired yet". later she had a fever"
This was Mother's Third Lie.

When I had to sit my Final Examination, Mother accompanied me. After dawn, Mother waited for me for hours in the heat of the sun. When the bell rang, I ran to meet her.. Mother embraced me and poured me a glass of juice that she had prepared in a thermos. The juice was not as strong as my Mother's love, Seeing Mother covered with perspiration, I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too.
Mother said "Drink, son! I'm not thirsty!".
This was Mother's Fourth Lie.

My father died, she was all alone doing day and night work just to keep the ends meet, so many men approached her for marriage,But Mother refused to remarry saying "I don't need love." ," I am fine" and she wasn't
This was Mother's Fifth Lie.

After I had finished my studies and gotten a job, it was time for my old Mother to retire but she carried on going to the market every morning just to sell a few vegetables. I kept sending her money but she was steadfast and even sent the money back to me. She said, "I have enough money."
That was Mother's Sixth Lie.

Then I went abroad, from there I requested her to join me, but she refused thinking she may bother me " you know I hate to be away from home". and she was badly in need of someone to take care
That was Mother's Seventh Lie.

later I heard she has cancer, I came to see her, Mother tried to smile but I was heartbroken because she was so thin and feeble but Mother said, " I am fine, I have no pain". and she was dying with the pain.
later she died
That was Mother's Eighth Lie.
Telling me this, her eighth lie, she died.