We, as Muslims, can learn about love from the examples set forth by Rasoolullah (SAW) in how he acted with his wives. With this post I hope to share some examples of love from the life of our beloved Prophet (SAW). Women were something beloved to Rasoolullah (SAW) as he said, “Made beloved to me from your world are women and perfume, and the coolness to my eyes is in prayer” (narrated in Ahmad and An-Nisai). Rasoolullah (SAW) also stated in a hadith found in Sahih Muslim that the most precious object in this world is the pious woman.
Rasoolullah (SAW) always had a playful attitude with his wives. For example, he (SAW) would call them by nicknames (i.e. he would call Aisha, Aaish). Furthermore, Rasoolullah (SAW) would even race them sometimes for fun. Originally Aisha (ra) beat Rasoolullah (SAW) in a foot-race. Later, after she had gained some weight, Rasoolullah (SAW) would beat her and tease her about it. When Saoda and Aisha once got into a food-fight, Rasoolullah (SAW) enjoyed the show and laughed about it. Moreover, when Rasoolullah (SAW) and Aisha would bathe together, they would tease each other about who would be hogging all the water.
Rasoolullah (SAW) would sometimes extend his stay at Zainab’s house because she would give him honey as Rasoolullah (SAW) loved honey. Aisha and several other wives teamed up to play a practical joke on Rasoolullah (SAW). When Rasoolullah (SAW) came back from Zainab’s house after eating honey one day, his wives commented on the bad smell coming from his mouth. Upon this, Rasoolullah (SAW) forbade himself from eating honey anymore. This led to the revelation: “O Prophet! Why do you ban (for yourself) that which Allâh has made lawful to you, seeking to please your wives? And Allâh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. Allâh has already ordained for you (O men), the dissolution of your oaths. And Allâh is your Maula (Lord, or Master, or Protector, etc.) and He is the All-Knower, the All-Wise. And (remember) when the Prophet (Peace be upon him) disclosed a matter in confidence to one of his wives (Hafsah), so when she told it (to another i.e. ‘Aishah), and Allâh made it known to him, he informed part thereof and left a part. Then when he told her (Hafsah) thereof, she said: “Who told you this?” He said: “The All-Knower, the All-Aware (Allâh) has told me”. If you two (wives of the Prophet, namely ‘Aishah and Hafsah) turn in repentance to Allâh, (it will be better for you), your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet likes), but if you help one another against him (Muhammad), then verily, Allâh is his Maula (Lord, or Master, or Protector, etc.), and Jibrael (Gabriel), and the righteous among the believers, and furthermore, the angels are his helpers” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 66:1-4). This incident led Rasoolullah (SAW) to becoming angry with his wives where he decided to abstain from them for a month. He (SAW) returned to Aisha 29 days later and instead of being pleased upon his return, she asked him why he had returned a day early.
Rasoolullah (SAW) would always make time for his wives. While Rasoolullah (SAW) was in itikhaf in the masjid, Safiyyah came to visit him (SAW). Instead of turning her away, Rasoolullah (SAW) listened to her talk until she was content and left. Once while traveling, Aisha and Safiyyah traded places to play a practical joke on Rasoolullah (SAW). Not realizing they had changed places, Rasoolullah (SAW) went to talk with who he thought was Aisha. Instead, Rasoolullah (SAW) ended up spending the night with Safiyyah, which irked Aisha.
In addition to being a good listener, Rasoolullah (SAW) was also very patient and tolerant with his wives. Aisha (ra) narrated that Rasoolullah (SAW) never abused a domestic worker physically or emotionally and neither did he (SAW) beat any of his wives (narrated in Muslim). Furthermore, Aisha narrates that Rasoolullah (SAW) would only enjoy his meals when she would sit next to him. They would drink from one cup and he (SAW) would watch where Aisha would place her lips on the cup so that he (SAW) could place his lips on the exact same position on the cup. He would eat from a bone after she would eat from it as he would place his mouth where she had eaten. Rasoolullah (SAW) would also place morsels of food into her mouth and she would do the same for him (narrated in Muslim).
Within his household, Rasoolullah (SAW) showed amazing passion and mercy. Whenever his daughter, Fatima (ra), would visit the Prophet (SAW), he would take her hand and kiss it. He (SAW) would have Fatima sit next to him and she would do the same whenever he (SAW) would visit her (narrated in Tirmidhi). A bedouin once told Rasoolullah (SAW) that he had never kissed his children. Rasoolullah (SAW) told him to show mercy to them by saying, “Has Allah withdrawn mercy out of your hearts?” (narrated in Bukhari and Muslim). While carrying his grandchild, Hasan, Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “O Allah, I love him so love him” (narrated in Bukhari and Muslim). Rasoolullah (SAW) would even carry his granddaughter, Umama, while in prayer (Bukhari).
The death of Rasoolullah (SAW) was very moving. While on his death-bed with a high fever, Aisha (ra) would recite Quran to Rasoolullah (SAW). He (SAW) laid in her lap with his head on her chest knowing it was the end. Aisha’s brother, Abdur-Rahman (ra), walked into the room with his miswak. Rasoolullah (SAW) saw the miswak and Aisha noticed this. She asked him if he wanted it and he nodded. She took Abdur-Rahman’s miswak and with her teeth she moistened its bristles and gave it to him. Rasoolullah (SAW) then mumbled that he wanted to go to “the Higher Companion.” He (SAW) went back to Allah (SWT) as his raised his finger and left this world. Let us all benefit from his beautiful examples in this life. He (SAW) surely was the best example and a mercy to mankind.
Rasoolullah (SAW) always had a playful attitude with his wives. For example, he (SAW) would call them by nicknames (i.e. he would call Aisha, Aaish). Furthermore, Rasoolullah (SAW) would even race them sometimes for fun. Originally Aisha (ra) beat Rasoolullah (SAW) in a foot-race. Later, after she had gained some weight, Rasoolullah (SAW) would beat her and tease her about it. When Saoda and Aisha once got into a food-fight, Rasoolullah (SAW) enjoyed the show and laughed about it. Moreover, when Rasoolullah (SAW) and Aisha would bathe together, they would tease each other about who would be hogging all the water.
Rasoolullah (SAW) would sometimes extend his stay at Zainab’s house because she would give him honey as Rasoolullah (SAW) loved honey. Aisha and several other wives teamed up to play a practical joke on Rasoolullah (SAW). When Rasoolullah (SAW) came back from Zainab’s house after eating honey one day, his wives commented on the bad smell coming from his mouth. Upon this, Rasoolullah (SAW) forbade himself from eating honey anymore. This led to the revelation: “O Prophet! Why do you ban (for yourself) that which Allâh has made lawful to you, seeking to please your wives? And Allâh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. Allâh has already ordained for you (O men), the dissolution of your oaths. And Allâh is your Maula (Lord, or Master, or Protector, etc.) and He is the All-Knower, the All-Wise. And (remember) when the Prophet (Peace be upon him) disclosed a matter in confidence to one of his wives (Hafsah), so when she told it (to another i.e. ‘Aishah), and Allâh made it known to him, he informed part thereof and left a part. Then when he told her (Hafsah) thereof, she said: “Who told you this?” He said: “The All-Knower, the All-Aware (Allâh) has told me”. If you two (wives of the Prophet, namely ‘Aishah and Hafsah) turn in repentance to Allâh, (it will be better for you), your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet likes), but if you help one another against him (Muhammad), then verily, Allâh is his Maula (Lord, or Master, or Protector, etc.), and Jibrael (Gabriel), and the righteous among the believers, and furthermore, the angels are his helpers” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 66:1-4). This incident led Rasoolullah (SAW) to becoming angry with his wives where he decided to abstain from them for a month. He (SAW) returned to Aisha 29 days later and instead of being pleased upon his return, she asked him why he had returned a day early.
Rasoolullah (SAW) would always make time for his wives. While Rasoolullah (SAW) was in itikhaf in the masjid, Safiyyah came to visit him (SAW). Instead of turning her away, Rasoolullah (SAW) listened to her talk until she was content and left. Once while traveling, Aisha and Safiyyah traded places to play a practical joke on Rasoolullah (SAW). Not realizing they had changed places, Rasoolullah (SAW) went to talk with who he thought was Aisha. Instead, Rasoolullah (SAW) ended up spending the night with Safiyyah, which irked Aisha.
In addition to being a good listener, Rasoolullah (SAW) was also very patient and tolerant with his wives. Aisha (ra) narrated that Rasoolullah (SAW) never abused a domestic worker physically or emotionally and neither did he (SAW) beat any of his wives (narrated in Muslim). Furthermore, Aisha narrates that Rasoolullah (SAW) would only enjoy his meals when she would sit next to him. They would drink from one cup and he (SAW) would watch where Aisha would place her lips on the cup so that he (SAW) could place his lips on the exact same position on the cup. He would eat from a bone after she would eat from it as he would place his mouth where she had eaten. Rasoolullah (SAW) would also place morsels of food into her mouth and she would do the same for him (narrated in Muslim).
Within his household, Rasoolullah (SAW) showed amazing passion and mercy. Whenever his daughter, Fatima (ra), would visit the Prophet (SAW), he would take her hand and kiss it. He (SAW) would have Fatima sit next to him and she would do the same whenever he (SAW) would visit her (narrated in Tirmidhi). A bedouin once told Rasoolullah (SAW) that he had never kissed his children. Rasoolullah (SAW) told him to show mercy to them by saying, “Has Allah withdrawn mercy out of your hearts?” (narrated in Bukhari and Muslim). While carrying his grandchild, Hasan, Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “O Allah, I love him so love him” (narrated in Bukhari and Muslim). Rasoolullah (SAW) would even carry his granddaughter, Umama, while in prayer (Bukhari).
The death of Rasoolullah (SAW) was very moving. While on his death-bed with a high fever, Aisha (ra) would recite Quran to Rasoolullah (SAW). He (SAW) laid in her lap with his head on her chest knowing it was the end. Aisha’s brother, Abdur-Rahman (ra), walked into the room with his miswak. Rasoolullah (SAW) saw the miswak and Aisha noticed this. She asked him if he wanted it and he nodded. She took Abdur-Rahman’s miswak and with her teeth she moistened its bristles and gave it to him. Rasoolullah (SAW) then mumbled that he wanted to go to “the Higher Companion.” He (SAW) went back to Allah (SWT) as his raised his finger and left this world. Let us all benefit from his beautiful examples in this life. He (SAW) surely was the best example and a mercy to mankind.
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