චීනෙක් කිව්වෙ

[WhiteWalker]

The single child policy was rigorous during the late 80s to the early 90s. The law required all kinds of organizations to fire people who have extra kids. If you work for the government, beyond losing the job, you will end up in jail. In the 80–90s, China did not have a free job market. After graduation, the government would assign a job for you. So basically, if you lost the job, you are screwed. For farmers, celebrities, and people who have their own businesses. They can choose to pay a fine, but it usually 2x than their annual income, so not a easy thing. Women in cities were also required to have IUD after giving the first birth. I heard that in the countries, some pregnant women were forced to have abortions violently. I don’t know for sure since I live in the city, people were very behaved because they could not afford to lose their jobs.

Weirdly, single child policy also brought positive effects on gender equity. Chinese society is far from equal. Parents favor son over daughter for centuries. By forcing people to have only one child (hospitals in China are not allowed to tell people the baby’s gender), girls get more opportunities. Parents had no choice but support their daughters. 70% of the females have jobs, and more women received higher education than men did. Just a century ago, Chinese women were not allowed to go to school at all.

I think myself as a sacrifice of one child policy, I don’t have any siblings, and my child will never have aunts and uncles. It is a massive loss. However, at a certain point, I feel very lucky. Because, if I have a brother, I can never study abroad, or even study in China. All my family fortunes are his, and he can choose to study or make investments.

 

[Hiramana Ajith]

so, whats your point exactly?

 

[GMC]

yes bro

When parents over-indulge their only child, who has no siblings as a result of the One Child Policy, the indulged children may be referred to as "little emperors" (xiaohuangdi 小皇帝). Many Chinese families have the 4-2-1 format: 4 grandparents, 2 parents, one child. Parents and grandparents eat less and spend less money on themselves, only so the youngster could feel physically and mentally strong, focus on one's studies and be successful later on in life.[4]

Almost all Chinese families usually adopt a set of traditional Confucian values when raising their only child.[citation needed] Because Confucianism considers Ren (仁; love and social responsibility) the core emotion that develops moral conceptions into genuine personal motivation[citation needed], a child who has received too much familial attention but also endured high mental and physical restrictions because the economic future of the family depends on their academic success directly leads to a situation that is often considered in academic and popular discourse as over-indulging the children, in opposition to concepts of Ren and filial piety (孝; xiao). There is substantial evidence that many young Chinese feel a heavy burden[5] and a huge responsibility towards their parents, understanding that their performances in school or other domains can be of crucial consequences towards their family.[4]

Depending on the specific family conditions and children's mental healthy condition, this burden could lead to a diligent lifestyle by youngsters or to a more rebellious attitude to traditional Confucian codes or not being able to cope with such pressure nor develop self-discipline.[6]

While being nurtured by parents and relatives gives children some clear advantages and opportunities, the fact that a child doesn't have sibling who 'compete' with him or her in a younger age could also lead to some psychological difficultes as the child grows. "Lacking adapting capabilities" (Chinese: 没有适应能力; pinyin: méiyǒu shìyìng nénglì) is a description which is commonly associated with the new post-'80 generation.[6] Since such children don't need to put any efforts in order to gain parents' attention or to win family resources, they develop no competitive abilities and have weak social skills once they are older and need to be self-sufficient.

Traditionally seen as a rite of passage, marriage has been linked as milestones to adulthood. Yet, the Chinese millennials are late boomers when it comes to marriage. Although some members of the millennials are well in their 30s, statistics show they are still living their lives as bachelors or bachelorettes.[citation needed]

Having grown up in times of modern consumerism and popular media, rather than the ideals of the Cultural Revolution, many single-children are inclined to spend large amounts of money on themselves and thus are a cornerstone of retail sales.[7] Families which are well-off economically sometimes allow their children to indulge in the new materialistic sphere, while poorer families often still make efforts to keep their children inside the consumers' race, allowing them to purchase new clothes, new cell-phone brands, etc

 

[GMC]

so, whats your point exactly?

your name and avatar suits well.

 

[KasunKDP]

ඉන්ගිරිස් දන්නව කියල පෙන්නන්න කොහෙන් හරි කොපි කරල දානව...

 

[WhiteWalker]

ඉන්ගිරිස් දන්නව කියල පෙන්නන්න කොහෙන් හරි කොපි කරල දානව...

හා

 

[Robinhood wage ekek]

මෙලෝ හුත්තක් තෙරුන්නෑ .. සිංහලෙන් දාහන්කො

 

[Kasippu Sira]

ඉන්ගිරිස් දන්නව කියල පෙන්නන්න කොහෙන් හරි කොපි කරල දානව...