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Message: <blockquote data-quote="sahani_000" data-source="post: 11779530" data-attributes="member: 378981">I read your storey with great concern. First of all, let me tell you that what happened to your girl is not something unique or rare. It happens in Sri Lanka and it happens in every country of the world everyday of the year. Only a handful are reported and come to light. Let me tell you a storey. The wife of a very good friend of mine was subject to a similar abuse (in Sri Lanka) when she was young mainly due the poverty in the family. However, she had been abused when she was a teenager and not when as a very young person. In any case I guess that the traumatic experience is similar irrespective of the age your are subject to abuse. Before they got married, my friend's girl (now wife) told everything that happened to her to my friend. My friend was very understanding and consoled her and provided her with support to get over that bad experience. My friend's kindness and understanding really helped her to come out of that situation and now they are happily married. As my friend told me, they have a really good sex life too (however, I did not go to details on this as it was their private affair). They never went for any professional counseling and my friend was the counselor, friend, lover and protection for that girl. I think even in your situation, you are the one who can provide the support for her help her in getting over this terrible experience. This is more so the case as she is afraid in going for counseling (I believe you are now in Sri Lanka). I know that in Sri Lanka gossiping is wide spread and people are scared of that stigma.  I believe you love her very much and this is the main nucleolus that will help her. Through that heartfelt love, what you can do is to make her comfortable saying that you understand very well what happened to her (which is not her fault). Tell her that you will never see her as a bad person and in your eyes she is a pure, innocent girl. As you keep on supporting her in this way continuously, that will surely make her light and comfortable and as time goes by she will come out of this terrible feeling. Mind you that it will take some time and you need to continuously support her, love her and care for her.  I firmly believe this approach will help her and in time to come she will get over this and two of you will have the life you always yearn for. Best Wishes.</blockquote>

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