should your future wife be a virgin ??

[Tharindu Chat]

Sl hav been having a good culture up 2 now

bt i can c now , som people(espescially women) z destroying it.

So Sad thng.

 

[maleemsg]

• well,thanks
• if that is correct in one hand,what about the other?,well i cant read minds but before getting married both should have a better understanding about each other
• same thing i mentioned above,
• it would be great if you put your ideas about virginity from the points given above by my self
  

Well bro …according to your definition you are correct and I agree with you but according to our society that’s not the definition they give right?

And I am so sorry I missed 1 main point of your post she must have to be able to control her feelings!

I think from that you mean that if she met with a rape case or sexual harassment you will completely ignore that and your wife/GF will be welcomed as yours…!

Then its ok!

 

[Chinthakas]

lankawe kelloth den modern wela

wht u mean by this???

 

[maleemsg]

Hey Sis just curiouse....
Wats your opinions about girls expecting it from guys? (again its not the physical thing, you'll have n idea if you read my opinion here)

also do you expect it from your future husband? if no then do you expect him to change after marriage (only b yours ) or b same like before marriage?

PS: you said ppl who expect it are narrow minded.so you mean ppl who dont expect are broad minded?

Well in this case I can’t represent all the girls but I’ll give my idea. Honestly I don’t expect my husband to be a virgin.(I am a virgin and I’ll be remaining as a virgin till my marriage and will be a chaste after my amrriage) The only thing I need is love and care. Personally I don’t think about others past but only the present and the future.

Well I think I should have mention that only the ppl who search for the physical marks are belong to that 70%

 

[CoolCartoon]

March 15 liyapu kaviyak daanna hithuna methanata

machan maxa kaviya ne............... kiyanna thiyena okkoma kiyala machan......
aththa kathawa thama balan yaddi......

 

[CoolCartoon]

Macan , i wish all the girls like that but i know frankly thease girls have so many reletionships with so many boys...... does it proof of virginity ????

a girl can have many relationship with boys without losing the virginity...and most of girls doing that. You can find a pure ( pure mean 100% ) gal in these days now. as i know. they try to save blood marks for future husbond and they doing every other damn thing with BF .... most of gals..not all.

Boys.... 90% i think....they loosing it b4 merriage.

 

[chandima3010]

We should not play with girls. That's my idea. I mean if you saying to a girl that you are really love her and gonna marry her and after all the thing happen you going away from her that's a very bad thing. Because she is having that deep relationship only if she trust you.

Think.. that can be your sister..!! What do you think if that kind of thing happen to your sis. What you gonna do...???

But if a girl wanna relationship that kind of it's doesn't matter.

Don't betray a girl who is really love you.

ur crct machan...
eka thamai wenna one..love karanna barinum atha arapan.habai patan gattoth atha arinna hithanna epa.poddak hitalabalapan.umba wagema manussaykne ban..

 

[just]

Well in this case I can’t represent all the girls but I’ll give my idea. Honestly I don’t expect my husband to be a virgin.(I am a virgin and I’ll be remaining as a virgin till my marriage and will be a chaste after my amrriage) The only thing I need is love and care. Personally I don’t think about others past but only the present and the future.

Well I think I should have mention that only the ppl who search for the physical marks are belong to that 70%

OK Thats interesting, you not gona care his a vergin or not..

can i know is that cos u dont really have a way of knowing it or even if you have a way you want have a problem genueinly?

Now as far as i know , guys who have got used eat from hotel before the
marriage 90% of the time they dont get satisfied with the home food after marriage if you know wat i mean. its a free world for them..

but like you say that doesnt mean they dont love and care for the family or wife.they do..so my question is are you ok with that even after marriage as long as he loves and cares??

PS:No hard feelings i found several girls of the way you think and i asked them the same questions?just its a bit hard for me to think about girls who dont care their guy or husband being with another gal. in west of cos wife brings a wh** as birthday present to husband. i want clarify are our gals heading towards that way..

 

[Aragorn]

i dnt except her 2 be virgin as long as she loves me..no need 2 be bothr abt what happened in past!!!

 

[just]

i dnt except her 2 be virgin as long as she loves me..no need 2 be bothr abt what happened in past!!!

if she loves you and after marriage and still wants to maintain the past? still you want b careing?

 

[Aragorn]

if she loves you and after marriage and still wants to maintain the past? still you want b careing?

I dnt think it vl happen machn..itz call moving forward...if she loves me how can she stuck in da past wth antr person!!!itz nt practical!!!in future even in Srilanka it vl hard for ppl 2 find virgins..

anthr thing I wnt 2 add is even medically some ppl vl nt be virgins due 2 there genetically changes(big topic whn u consider..coz whn even u do sports even u cn break it...)So practically itz nt fare 2 measure some ones love,care & affection 2 u by virginity..!!

 

[Aragorn]

machan maxa kaviya ne............... kiyanna thiyena okkoma kiyala machan......
aththa kathawa thama balan yaddi......

hmmm..

 

[just]

I dnt think it vl happen machn..itz call moving forward...if she loves me how can she stuck in da past wth antr person!!!itz nt practical!!!in future even in Srilanka it vl hard for ppl 2 find virgins..

anthr thing I wnt 2 add is even medically some ppl vl nt be virgins due 2 there genetically changes(big topic whn u consider..coz whn even u do sports even u cn break it...)So practically itz nt fare 2 measure some ones love,care & affection 2 u by virginity..!!

Ya i agree with you 100% its not the physical thing about that you talking.

2 points:

- if a guy doesnt see a red spot on the sheet accuses the wife adultry before marriage thats shame..that im with u.

- at the same time in a society if people can publicly say i dont really care if she or he had slept before marriage thats shame as well..Cos what that will do is encourage everyone to go sleep with whome ever they want without fear of having to control themselfs.

so you can clearly see thats where the west started calling it the "free thinking" now where they have come to after "moving forward". now inside a marriage its not a problem for husband to goto a brothel or wife to have some fun outside. as long as both love and care..

Thats why i asked you u if it comes in to the family like it happened in west will you accept it?

ps:
now i'm asking this not to prove you shouldnt trust your partner.
but to say when you believ in something and make statement about it publicly you should consider its your duty not to damage the society from it.

 

[bhai4uanu]

at the same time in a society if people can publicly say i dont really care if she or he had slept before marriage thats shame as well..Cos what that will do is encourage everyone to go sleep with whome ever they want without fear of having to control themselfs.

so you can clearly see thats where the west started calling it the "free thinking" now where they have come to after "moving forward". now inside a marriage its not a problem for husband to goto a brothel or wife to have some fun outside. as long as both love and care..

Thats why i asked you u if it comes in to the family like it happened in west will you accept it?

that's exactly what i wanted to ask from the people who said they don't care about virginity

 

[just]

that's exactly what i wanted to ask from the people who said they don't care about virginity

yep since even the girls think like that nowerdays i want to clarify this..

 

[Nic]

hmm i dont care that but.... inside our mind as a SL persons we still belive some vealue on there !!!

 

[CoolCartoon]

OK Thats interesting, you not gona care his a vergin or not..

can i know is that cos u dont really have a way of knowing it or even if you have a way you want have a problem genueinly?

Now as far as i know , guys who have got used eat from hotel before the
marriage 90% of the time they dont get satisfied with the home food after marriage if you know wat i mean. its a free world for them..

but like you say that doesnt mean they dont love and care for the family or wife.they do..so my question is are you ok with that even after marriage as long as he loves and cares??

PS:No hard feelings i found several girls of the way you think and i asked them the same questions?just its a bit hard for me to think about girls who dont care their guy or husband being with another gal. in west of cos wife brings a wh** as birthday present to husband. i want clarify are our gals heading towards that way..

really i dont think anyone wants to his or her partner to go with other gal or guy. after merriage never. but no one can check the virginity of a guy. so useless to think about it. my idea.

( one of my friend told me....kk here is the story. he slept with another gal after getting merriage. and i asked him " yako uba badalane ? "

then u knw wat he said.... " ube amma ubata rasata kaama hadala denawane.....a unaata uba idala hitala kaden koththuwak ehema kanna aasay ne.... a unata uba ammage kama wath rasa wath amathak karanne nene "

this is not my view. just an example.

 

[Nic]

really i dont think anyone wants to his or her partner to go with other gal or guy. after merriage never. but no one can check the virginity of a guy. so useless to think about it. my idea.

( one of my friend told me....kk here is the story. he slept with another gal after getting merriage. and i asked him " yako uba badalane ? "

then u knw wat he said.... " ube amma ubata rasata kaama hadala denawane.....a unaata uba idala hitala kaden koththuwak ehema kanna aasay ne.... a unata uba ammage kama wath rasa wath amathak karanne nene "

this is not my view. just an example.

hmm machan mekai awala kaden kana ake awlak nam naha ath SL wala hatiyata me kada kama ahuwuna dawasata kadema nawathinna wenne

 

[CoolCartoon]

hmm machan mekai awala kaden kana ake awlak nam naha ath SL wala hatiyata me kada kama ahuwuna dawasata kadema nawathinna wenne

hmm... but as i heard and saw few months ago... things changed lot in SL. gals are having serious realtonships and not much care. specially around colombo.

 

[kasuncs]

If you are a guy who had not sex before with other girl, U have a small right to search for girl like him bcoz he is already did a dedication. But People who had seriuos relationships and finding viginity is totally out of mind!