Would you break up with a girl if you found she had a birth defect? I feel like it's a cruel thing to do. 😥

Abusada Meich

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    Imagine you have this great girl you're crazy about. However, after being intimate with her you found that she had this small defect.

    It doesn't cause any issue for normal day to day life but feels a bit weird when you're with her. Would you break up and throw away a great girl (and be the smallest person in the world), or would you swallow your feelings and continue being with her.

    How do you make that decision? I asked a friend and he said that if you're asking the question, it's probably serious enough for you to worry about it, so it's probably better to break up. Is that sound advice?

    What do you think. I'm really at a loss here.

    (let's just say the defect in question is something akin to a guy having a really small penis, small enough to make sex quite a challenge)
     

    Abusada Meich

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    Well well I can understand the situation that you are in. Most simplest method is think that, if you had the defect and what if she breaks up with you ?
    That's a nice way to think about it. I'm sure she feels bad about it, and I don't want to make it worse. I'd be devastated too if someone breaks up with me for something I can't change. However, what about my feelings? If I'm feeling weird about it, doesn't that lower the quality of the whole relationship? 🤔

    I actually thought quite a lot before asking this here. Still indecisive. Feels like the proverbial rock and hard place kind of a situation.

    I would.no worries then
    Yeah it seems like the best decision is the simplest one. But I'm afraid I'll come to regret it one day. 😓
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    Emios

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    That's a nice way to think about it. I'm sure she feels bad about it, and I don't want to make it worse. I'd be devastated too if someone breaks up with me for something I can't change. However, what about my feelings? If I'm feeling weird about it, doesn't that lower the quality of the whole relationship? 🤔

    I actually thought quite a lot before asking this here. Still indecisive. Feels like the proverbial rock and hard place kind of a situation.


    Yeah it seems like the best decision is the simplest one. But I'm afraid I'll come to regret it one day. 😓
    ------ Post added on Sep 27, 2022 at 8:00 PM
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    Abusada Meich

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    as a married man, my advice is to end the relationship if she's an average girl.
    if she is a kinda girl who is extremely caring about you, then think twice.
    Yes she's extremely caring bro. If she didn't have this one issue, I'd readily go all the way with her no questions asked. (I was obviously planning for it too, before this thing came up) I just don't want to make a rash decision and regret later. 😓
     

    Emios

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    Yes she's extremely caring bro. If she didn't have this one issue, I'd readily go all the way with her no questions asked. (I was obviously planning for it too, before this thing came up) I just don't want to make a rash decision and regret later. 😓
    Its your karma.time to pay