Would you break up with a girl if you found she had a birth defect? I feel like it's a cruel thing to do. 😥

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    Yes she's extremely caring bro. If she didn't have this one issue, I'd readily go all the way with her no questions asked. (I was obviously planning for it too, before this thing came up) I just don't want to make a rash decision and regret later. 😓

    I have quite a bit of similar experience.
    I know the pain.
    I have no answer. life sucks. that's all I know.
     
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    If I were you I'd let her go. The thing is, these minute things will get magnified later on in life after getting married and shit. You writing about it on Elakiri and seeking advice clearly shows how it has affected you mentally. So, the answer is pretty obvious my friend.
     
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    tha123

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    awula mkkd kypan?? warahan athule dala thyen eknm story ekt relate wenne khmd kyl therune nha.. :baffled:
     

    Abusada Meich

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    If you have to ask here, let her go.
    You do not deserve her.
    Your friend is right!
    Hmm feels so.
    If I were you I'd let her go. The thing is, these minute things will get magnified later on in life after getting married and shit. You writing about it on Elakiri and seeking advice clearly shows how it has affected you mentally. So, the answer is pretty obvious my friend.
    Heard the same thing and guess this is the brainy decision. 😓

    awula mkkd kypan?? warahan athule dala thyen eknm story ekt relate wenne khmd kyl therune nha.. :baffled:
    Just something in the similae vein bro. As I said, particulars doesn't matter. End decision is the important thing. Think of it as something that makes being with her a bit weirder.

    I would stay with her too. Ubata eki laga thurul unama okkoma prashna amathaka wela mind cool wenawa nm dont lose her bro. Sex doenst last live long but love does.
    My heart soooo wants to do what you say. However, I'm doing her a huge disservice if I drag her through this further and then decide to part ways. Seems like a clean break now is better than later. I hate my life for having to make this decision but what to do. 😓😓😓
     

    tha123

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    Just something in the similae vein bro. As I said, particulars doesn't matter. End decision is the important thing. Think of it as something that makes being with her a bit weirder.
    End decision depends on the particular matter. That's why i asked it. but if you're not interested in disclosing it. it's ok bro.
     

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    Umbata defect eka kiyannama wenawa nathiwa advice karanna ba. Mokada defect eka Small da big da kiyala kiyanna puluwan ethokota.umba small kiwwata umbata eka small nAthi nisai mehema ahanne.eka Nisa advice ekAk one nam defect eka kiyapan
     
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    It's not about her it's about you.
    It takes bigger heart to be with someone less fortunate so decision has to come from you.
     

    Chethiya Wijayawardhana

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    jeez..
    That is a hard one indeed.
    Taking recommendations from a public forum is obviously not a good solution.
    You have to make the decision your self man.
    Do not rely on others to take such momentous decisions about your life.
    I have seen people do that sort of thing and continue to suffer for the rest of their lives because they took the wrong advice.
    Please forgive me if that sounds harsh. But I really think you need to hear that right now.
     

    Abusada Meich

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    jeez..
    That is a hard one indeed.
    Taking recommendations from a public forum is obviously not a good solution.
    You have to make the decision your self man.
    Do not rely on others to take such momentous decisions about your life.
    I have seen people do that sort of thing and continue to suffer for the rest of their lives because they took the wrong advice.
    Please forgive me if that sounds harsh. But I really think you need to hear that right now.
    No no I'm not relying, but as you can obviously understand, I can't go with this issue to anyone I know in real life. That would be insanely cruel to her. It's not exactly a secret (or news) that we are sort of a couple.

    It's not exactly advice, but I just want to reconfirm my thought process and have some views of people who may have experienced similar things. I know it's not a perfect solution but it's probably the best I have. 😓

    It's not about her it's about you.
    It takes bigger heart to be with someone less fortunate so decision has to come from you.
    True. The question is, will I just be dragging this on and making her suffer further if I decide to do this in the future? That's the real issue. Whatever the hell I do, I really really really don't want her to have any more pain than I can help. 👍
    ------ Post added on Sep 27, 2022 at 11:20 PM
     

    Chethiya Wijayawardhana

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    No no I'm not relying, but as you can obviously understand, I can't go with this issue to anyone I know in real life. That would be insanely cruel to her. It's not exactly a secret (or news) that we are sort of a couple.

    It's not exactly advice, but I just want to reconfirm my thought process and have some views of people who may have experienced similar things. I know it's not a perfect solution but it's probably the best I have. 😓
    Yep exactly.
    You already have a little baby of an idea.
    You are looking for others' approval since it is morally a little grayish,
    Am I right?
     

    Abusada Meich

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    Umbata defect eka kiyannama wenawa nathiwa advice karanna ba. Mokada defect eka Small da big da kiyala kiyanna puluwan ethokota.umba small kiwwata umbata eka small nAthi nisai mehema ahanne.eka Nisa advice ekAk one nam defect eka kiyapan
    Sorry bro, it's not like a very common one. If I say it exactly, maybe someone could positively identify her, and even me. (she had a few past affairs, so possibly it's out there.

    Just don't focus on the issue itself. I'm just asking you ti imagine whatever you want and give your views. That's all. 🙄

    Yep exactly.
    You already have a little baby of an idea.
    You are looking for others' approval since it is morally a little grayish,
    Am I right?
    Guess so. As we all know, it's better to talk a bit before making decisions. That's what I'm doing in a manner of speaking because I can't obviously talk about this with anyone I know in real life. 🙄
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    Chethiya Wijayawardhana

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    Sorry bro, it's not like a very common one. If I say it exactly, maybe someone could positively identify her, and even me. (she had a few past affairs, so possibly it's out there.

    Just don't focus on the issue itself. I'm just asking you ti imagine whatever you want and give your views. That's all. 🙄


    Guess so. As we all know, it's better to talk a bit before making decisions. That's what I'm doing in a manner of speaking because I can't obviously talk about this with anyone I know in real life. 🙄
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    I've seen that before with one of my friends.
    And it did not end well for him.
    He did the morally grayish thing after consulting with his friends and later went on to regret the whole thing.
    And he suffers from that decision to this day.
    The fact that you have to ask someone else implies that you know deep down in your heart you are about to do the wrong thing.
    Of Couse, I'm not talking about an objectively wrong thing, But a wrong thing according to your heart.
    At the end of the day, that is what counts right?
    Making the objectively right decision is not going to help you if you have to suffer for the rest
    of your life from the guilt feeling you have deep down in your heart.
     
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    Look boy, if this is vaginismus (tightness of vagina or small vagina) there are treatments. if she is lesbian then there will be no treatments.
    if she has dry vagina, there are treatments etc.
    I think you better talk to a VOG doctor, or someone having that knowledge to understand the health issue first, then make a decision.
    it all depends on your mind. if the defect is only visible to you, and you think you can live with that, no problems.
    if you have doubts with living with it forever, then make a decision before its too late.

    if you get together and you start frustrated at some point bcz of this, she too would suffer.
     

    speedmalli

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    Let's not beat around the bush and come down to the topic. You can't have sex with 2 dicks bro

    Maybe negotiate to වටේ යන්න :yes: Go 3 ways

    Whatever rocks your boat man :baffled: