Is not been Selfish, a weakness ?

[Wal pora]

Don't worry malli. First of all, when u r going to ur target, sometimes you have to compromise things, and you have to leave your loved ones behind. That does not mean that you forget them and move on. You still can take care of everything while hitting your targets. Without making decisions you won't be able to move on. You do everything for yourself and for your loved ones. I can tell you my experience, my father passed away 11 years ago, the day before my last examination of my BSc. I sat for the exam while my dad's body was there still at home. My relatives were wondering why did I do that like I am a senseless person. But, I am the eldest of my family, so I had to do that for mine and my family's future. Now, I am in US, I left mom and my loving brother (and his family behind), but no matter how busy I am, I talk with them everyday for an hour. I take care of them as if I am in SL. They just call me whenever they need me. This is how I compromise. Of course we miss each other badly. But this is the life. I had big dreams like u and I achieved all of them. Now everybody is happy. But this needs mutual understanding.

Making important decisions in your life is essential for your success. It won't be a selfishness as long as you know what you are doing. Cos' some people, when they are going for their dreams, they will become totally different, like if they are coming from a different world and they don't know anybody that they used to knew before. That is the real selfishness. But, smart people who are going to their targets will never change their good attitudes and good qualities. You cannot make each and everybody happy. So, you have to choose the people that you really want to care about and the people who really do care about your success. Then it would be easier to make a choice in your life. Sometimes, you have to make a choice for yourself, which will bring tears to someone's eyes for few days or may be months. But, they themselves will realize how important that your decision for everybody's happiness. So, go for your dreams and stop thinking too much. It is only you, who is responsible for your success or your failure.That is what I believe.

It is only you, who is responsible for your success or your failure.

 

[Nohim Ys]

It is hard to do right things, easy to do bad things. You are doing a right thing. That is why it is so hard. Always try to do the right thing. Try to be unique. Just ignore the people who don't respect and care about you.

May be u're right,, I'll have to do lot of analyzing with ma thoughts and configure them accordingly.
Thx a lot macho

 

[Nohim Ys]

It is only you, who is responsible for your success or your failure.

Absolutely bn,,, I know it.
We have to be proactive and be responsible for each and every decision we take.

 

[rog]

same prblm

 

[DJvodka]

Dude accept who you are. It doesn't matter what others think about you. No. Not being selfish is NOT A WEAKNESS in fact it's a strength you have. Just do what you think is right.

 

[Nohim Ys]

same prblm

Dude accept who you are. It doesn't matter what others think about you. No. Not being selfish is NOT A WEAKNESS in fact it's a strength you have. Just do what you think is right.

hm hm... Thx bn !!

 

[Dewrangi]

It's like the greatest advice I've ever got. Thx a lot.
Um not sure I'll be able to do it in the best way, but I'll still try ma best to compromise things. Thx a lot Again

Thank you malliya. Wish u all the best !!!

 

[Nohim Ys]

Thank you malliya. Wish u all the best !!!

 

[MeGusta]

Mchn let me tell you only very few people like you are actually left in this country....almost 90% of people i meet day today are really crazy persons...only very few of them are down to earth calm and intelligent...Don't change your self keep your good soul..but there are lot of people waiting to take advantage of like you people..There for you need to stop being so nice to everyone...But take these quotes into mind

If you are nice to me i'm nice to you

Don’t get confused between my personality & my attitude. My personality is who i am, my attitude depends on who you are.

Being nice means don't be anyone's doormat.Treat nice people from bottom of your heart but Make sure you have the ability to ignore the Bad one's and give them the taste of their own medicine sometimes...

 

[AeroPrincess]

don't worry bro and don't try to change urself.
move on and improve ur skills.If they r real friends they'd undrstand u.And moving ahead doesn't mean that u forget them. be ready to help them when they r in need( even if they dont ask for ur help).

different ppl have different capabilities. u can't change others all u can do is help.
What success means to each of us is different. It’s abt spending ur life happily in ur own way. Best way to succeed is to discover the calling within u and then find a way to offer it to the world in the form of a beneficial service.
good luck

Don't worry malli. First of all, when u r going to ur target, sometimes you have to compromise things, and you have to leave your loved ones behind. That does not mean that you forget them and move on. You still can take care of everything while hitting your targets. Without making decisions you won't be able to move on. You do everything for yourself and for your loved ones. I can tell you my experience, my father passed away 11 years ago, the day before my last examination of my BSc. I sat for the exam while my dad's body was there still at home. My relatives were wondering why did I do that like I am a senseless person. But, I am the eldest of my family, so I had to do that for mine and my family's future. Now, I am in US, I left mom and my loving brother (and his family behind), but no matter how busy I am, I talk with them everyday for an hour. I take care of them as if I am in SL. They just call me whenever they need me. This is how I compromise. Of course we miss each other badly. But this is the life. I had big dreams like u and I achieved all of them. Now everybody is happy. But this needs mutual understanding.

Making important decisions in your life is essential for your success. It won't be a selfishness as long as you know what you are doing. Cos' some people, when they are going for their dreams, they will become totally different, like if they are coming from a different world and they don't know anybody that they used to knew before. That is the real selfishness. But, smart people who are going to their targets will never change their good attitudes and good qualities. You cannot make each and everybody happy. So, you have to choose the people that you really want to care about and the people who really do care about your success. Then it would be easier to make a choice in your life. Sometimes, you have to make a choice for yourself, which will bring tears to someone's eyes for few days or may be months. But, they themselves will realize how important that your decision for everybody's happiness. So, go for your dreams and stop thinking too much. It is only you, who is responsible for your success or your failure.That is what I believe.

best advice.