Once, a Psychologist conducted an experiment for a group of socially awkward students. He wanted to help them in becoming socially confident.
He put a Piranha and a small fish in one big aquarium. As expected, Piranha quickly ate the tiny fish.
Then, the aquarium was divided into two parts by a transparent glass wall.
Piranha was kept on one side of the glass while the tiny fish was on the other side.
Piranha immediately attacked the fish and hit her head hard into the glass.
This game was repeated many, many times….
After hundreds of failed attempts, Piranha made a conclusion: “I can’t eat this fish”
. She was damn confident in her conclusion and finally stopped attacking the fish.Then, the glass barrier was removed from the aquarium, and the Piranha could easily eat the fish. But she didn’t even try to catch the fish.
The psychologist then, spoke to his students, “Piranha had hundreds of failed attempts. She had gained some negative experience. Now, she can easily swallow the fish, but instead of making another attempt, she is stuck to her negative experience. Just one more attempt can change her fate. but this Piranha will live with this bad experience throughout her life”.
Why do we lack confidence?
Because we once tried to do something but failed, therefore, we lost confidence in ourselves.
To become socially confident, we need to think less and do more. Over-thinking kills confidence. Bad experiences happen in life, but does it mean that good experiences will never happen?
Ok, you failed ten times, but eleventh attempt will change everything.
Confidence comes with experience, experience comes with multiple attempts.
If you’re thinking that you can’t do something, believe me, you will behave in a very under confident manner. Always speak to yourself with confidence and talk to others in the same way.
No one will kill you if you say something wrong or make a mistake. But at least say/do.
If you’re very shy, pretend to be confident. People can’t detect that. After sometime, you will gain experience and no more need for pretense.
Keep trying. Fake it, until you make it.
Dress well, go out every day, walk like a badass guy and forget that you failed in something yesterday. Today is a new day, make a new attempt.
Don’t be a piranha!
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This thread is specially dedicated to following members.. AnuradhaRa, Emoney_Help and of course for me, myself.
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