Does True Love Really Exist in this world?

[gtkisaru]

Do you believe true love is out there??

The purpose of this Thread is to give you an argument about love.

However, not just about love but one true love. The number ‘one’ is an important word in this equation, err well I mean sentence.
This argument is for all you who are left brained and are skeptical if one true love does exist...

 

[Chathurangaabey]

pissuda bun.....

Chiththa peedawa witharai

 

[Hayao]

Of course.

 

[gtkisaru]

Need more comments...

 

[damm2009]

yes macho
like rama sitha

 

[prabu901104]

My point of view===>

It's just our hormones... there is no love.

 

[cyber22118]

 

[diamonddrago]

now its just boys using girls...and girls using boys....nobody has real love.....just convenience.....

 

[infaasmueen]

now its just boys using girls...and girls using boys....nobody has real love.....just convenience.....

 

[prabu901104]

now its just boys using girls...and girls using boys....nobody has real love.....just convenience.....

Yeah it's true

 

[dilrasan]

yeah....but i think it's there only when not shared...
i mean true love...true love doesn't come out so easily...and if came out..it doesn't exists long..well that's what i get the idea right now...
may be i am wrong...may be..i am right

 

[sanfOdian]

- "Love with attachment consists of waves of emotion, usually creating invisible iron chains." Ordinary love tends to create bonds that may turn very unpleasant.

- Ordinary love is based on selfishness: attraction to others because they help us.

- Ordinary love is often based on opinions like beauty and status, which may be quite irrelevant or even obstacles for being able to live happily together with the person.

- Exaggeration and projection are the main reasons that ordinary love leads to disappointments. To illustrate this some words from M. Scott Peck on "ordinary love":

"The myth of romantic love is a dreadful lie. Perhaps it is a necessary lie in that it assures the 'falling in love'- experience that traps us into marriage. But as a psychiatrist I weep in my heart almost daily for the ghastly confusion and suffering that this myth fosters. Millions of people waste vast amounts of energy desperately in an attempt to make the reality of their lives conform to the unreality of the myth."

- "Being in love" may be a very exciting emotional condition, but is it really happiness, or is it often mixed with a fair amount of suffering?

- Attachment gives us the feeling of: How can this relationship fulfill MY needs? Real love would ask: What can I do for the OTHER?

- Attachment based on selfishness: if you are good to me, I am good to you. Altruistic love is based on equanimity: one realizes that others are like me and want happiness. It is wishing others to be happy just because they exist.

- Attachment leads to possessiveness: MY husband, MY wife, MY friend, MY family. Did you ever realize that we cannot own people, unless you believe in slavery? Possessiveness leads to FEAR of losing, fake affection out of fear, over protection, craving, jealousy or even the feeling: I can't live without her/him/my car/my cat/chocolate/pizzas/my job/my jewellery/my music....

- Is the perfection we think to see in the loved one really there, or do we simply close our eyes for the negative qualities?

- Is the perfection we are looking for achievable? An old Sufi tale as illustration:

"One afternoon, Nasruddin and his friend were sitting in a cafe, drinking tea and talking about life and love. His friend asked: 'How come you never married?'
'Well,' said Nasruddin, 'to tell you the truth, I spend my youth looking for the perfect woman. In Cairo I met a beautiful and intelligent woman, but she was unkind. Then in Baghdad, I met a woman who was a wonderful and generous soul, but we had no common interests. One woman after another would seem just right, but there would always be something missing. Then one day, I met her; beautiful, intelligent, generous and kind. We had very much in common. In fact, she was perfect!'
'So, what happened?' asked Nasruddin's friend, 'Why didn't you marry her?'
Nasruddin sipped his tea reflectively. 'Well,' he replied, 'it's really the sad story of my life.... It seemed that she was looking for the perfect man...' "

To summarize: our own projections, selfish expectations and exaggerations are the foundations of attachment and the unavoidable disappointment.

We want to get love, rather than give love.
We seek understanding, rather than trying to understand.
We seek self-confidence, rather than respecting others.
We seek praise and encouragement, rather than giving praise and encouragement .
We don't like criticism, but like to criticize others.


source-http://viewonbuddhism.org/attachment.html​

 

[sanfOdian]

ive found it.trust me it's there

have faith,you find your true love one day

 

[Jack_Sparrow]

I truely LOVE myslef
so there is true love

 

[vealthe30]

What would be true love????
the concept of “true love” has already absorbed so many qualities from literature, tv/movies that it can no longer be approached with any objectivity......
people think of true love and think 'Romeo and Juliet' or whatever...(maybe twilight kawda danne)

Of cause is it really possible to meet someone, fall in love and stay in love forever without it fading away.But it's more likely that after you meet and fall in love, you will need to know how or at least learn how to stay in love and prevent it from fading away. That takes skills and knowledge.....and learning

To tell the truth I'm kinda confused myself, like so many others,and utterly lackng the know;edge needed to make a really wonderful relationship with the one i fall in love with.

 

[amiya]

now its just boys using girls...and girls using boys....nobody has real love.....just convenience.....

exact truth

 

[TakurZ]

World depends on Love..

 

[gtkisaru]

- "Love with attachment consists of waves of emotion, usually creating invisible iron chains." Ordinary love tends to create bonds that may turn very unpleasant.

- Ordinary love is based on selfishness: attraction to others because they help us.

- Ordinary love is often based on opinions like beauty and status, which may be quite irrelevant or even obstacles for being able to live happily together with the person.

- Exaggeration and projection are the main reasons that ordinary love leads to disappointments. To illustrate this some words from M. Scott Peck on "ordinary love":

"The myth of romantic love is a dreadful lie. Perhaps it is a necessary lie in that it assures the 'falling in love'- experience that traps us into marriage. But as a psychiatrist I weep in my heart almost daily for the ghastly confusion and suffering that this myth fosters. Millions of people waste vast amounts of energy desperately in an attempt to make the reality of their lives conform to the unreality of the myth."

- "Being in love" may be a very exciting emotional condition, but is it really happiness, or is it often mixed with a fair amount of suffering?

- Attachment gives us the feeling of: How can this relationship fulfill MY needs? Real love would ask: What can I do for the OTHER?

- Attachment based on selfishness: if you are good to me, I am good to you. Altruistic love is based on equanimity: one realizes that others are like me and want happiness. It is wishing others to be happy just because they exist.

- Attachment leads to possessiveness: MY husband, MY wife, MY friend, MY family. Did you ever realize that we cannot own people, unless you believe in slavery? Possessiveness leads to FEAR of losing, fake affection out of fear, over protection, craving, jealousy or even the feeling: I can't live without her/him/my car/my cat/chocolate/pizzas/my job/my jewellery/my music....

- Is the perfection we think to see in the loved one really there, or do we simply close our eyes for the negative qualities?

- Is the perfection we are looking for achievable? An old Sufi tale as illustration:

"One afternoon, Nasruddin and his friend were sitting in a cafe, drinking tea and talking about life and love. His friend asked: 'How come you never married?'
'Well,' said Nasruddin, 'to tell you the truth, I spend my youth looking for the perfect woman. In Cairo I met a beautiful and intelligent woman, but she was unkind. Then in Baghdad, I met a woman who was a wonderful and generous soul, but we had no common interests. One woman after another would seem just right, but there would always be something missing. Then one day, I met her; beautiful, intelligent, generous and kind. We had very much in common. In fact, she was perfect!'
'So, what happened?' asked Nasruddin's friend, 'Why didn't you marry her?'
Nasruddin sipped his tea reflectively. 'Well,' he replied, 'it's really the sad story of my life.... It seemed that she was looking for the perfect man...' "

To summarize: our own projections, selfish expectations and exaggerations are the foundations of attachment and the unavoidable disappointment.

We want to get love, rather than give love.
We seek understanding, rather than trying to understand.
We seek self-confidence, rather than respecting others.
We seek praise and encouragement, rather than giving praise and encouragement .
We don't like criticism, but like to criticize others.


source-http://viewonbuddhism.org/attachment.html​

tnx

 

[irajrulz]

At least we should have a hope. So lets presume it does exists!

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[amila_mp]

now its just boys using girls...and girls using boys....nobody has real love.....just convenience.....

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