Living In - (without getting married) Is it good or bad ?

[Nash_Node]

Ok guys and girls,

I need your vote on this. I don't know whether this is an appopriate topic to talk about, so let's not talk about. But just need your vote.

The problem : Just Imagine that there are two people. The MAN is a (Sri Lankan, Christian) and the WOMAN is a Sri Lankan Budhdist. Been together for almost 3 years now.

And NOW these two people thought of moving into gether. NOT getting married, but "live-in-togather".

No strings attached and if the chemistry between the two people doesn't work out, they would just simply "walk away" from each other without holding any barrds.

Parents and family objection or approvals are not a Problem.

The law point : NON, any person above the age 18 has the concent to do what ever he/she does see as fit to, unless otherwise it breaks the law.

Further, there is no LAW preventing any unmarried people from living into gether.

The VIEW :

Is it GOOD or BAD ?


No need of comments, just putting your opinion is enough

 

[pamithK]

i am not a lawyer..but what happens if the girl gets pregnant.??

birthcontrol cant always be trusted..

 

[Nash_Node]

i am not a lawyer..but what happens if the girl gets pregnant.??

birthcontrol cant always be trusted..

Yes, then the bialogical father is deemed by law to marry the woman and to take care of the child.

That's a remort POSSIBILITY

Let's just assume for the argument sake, that both the Man and the Woman is carefull

 

[heshan123]

i am not a lawyer..but what happens if the girl gets pregnant.??

birthcontrol cant always be trusted..

so though ur not planning on getting married, u have no intention of suspending the activities.............

 

[Nash_Node]

so though ur not planning on getting married, u have no intention of suspending the activities.............

I never said it's "ME"

I just said, "Imagine"

There's a fine line of difference in those two words

 

[pamithK]

I never said it's "ME"

I just said, "Imagine"

There's a fine line of difference in those two words

c
alm down dude..

ok lets say they are carefull..ahem!!...then what abt property? i mean if they share bank accounts and all..what wil happen to them legally if they break up?

 

[Nash_Node]

c
alm down dude..

ok lets say they are carefull..ahem!!...then what abt property? i mean if they share bank accounts and all..what wil happen to them legally if they break up?

A shared bank account between two people cannot be deemed official and authentic if those two people in question does not carry a leagle binding outside the banking laws

example : Husband and Wife (marraige certificate) / Company business Partners (as stated in the form 48 under the companies act)

Without any such leagle binding, a person can file a case of "mistrust and abuse of trust" which is impossibly long and ardeuouse to prove in the courts.

BUT, we are talking about two people whome are in love and thought of moving-in-together to see if they match up. NOT ARCH ENEMIES !!!

So, I do not think any such physical or monetary property would be of an issue. (atleast for the argument sake that is )

 

[pamithK]

A shared bank account between two people cannot be deemed official and authentic if those two people in question does not carry a leagle binding outside the banking laws

example : Husband and Wife (marraige certificate) / Company business Partners (as stated in the form 48 under the companies act)

Without any such leagle binding, a person can file a case of "mistrust and abuse of trust" which is impossibly long and ardeuouse to prove in the courts.

BUT, we are talking about two people whome are in love and thought of moving-in-together to see if they match up. NOT ARCH ENEMIES !!!

So, I do not think any such physical or monetary property would be of an issue. (atleast for the argument sake that is )

very well then what is it to talk about? i mean obviously this will be a problem if trouble brews up between the coule neda? other than that its cool..

habai neighbours and the society id goin gto think that its not ethical..maybe even parents certainly wont consent a couple 'living together'..let alone give a couple to watch a film here in SL..so there are probs

 

[mbj]

WELL ACCORDING TO SRI LANKANS TRADITIONS AND NORMS ITS NT .GUD

 

[Nash_Node]

very well then what is it to talk about? i mean obviously this will be a problem if trouble brews up between the coule neda? other than that its cool..

habai neighbours and the society id goin gto think that its not ethical..maybe even parents certainly wont consent a couple 'living together'..let alone give a couple to watch a film here in SL..so there are probs

Well, let's say that this "guy' is blessed with parents who appriciate the decissions of their son and the "girl" is blessed with parents who are not here in "SL" to know anything


Sounds wiered ! but HEY !, we do live in a world which is 23.5 degrees tilted right ?

Actually, the main problem (as far as I see is), is nothing you TWO honourable people who replied in thread ever though of.

What if ONE person really FALL in love and be 100% ready to make a life long commitment to the other...................................where as the OTHER decides just to WALK AWAY ?

if everything works as in theory (which is hardly ever) all will be OK., but if not !!!!!!!!!!! ONE person will be left with a scar SO DEEP and so HURTFUL that he/she will never recover from it !

Isn't it?

That's what I want to know mates. Is it a good idea to let "him" or "her" take that RISK for such deep pain (if it doesn't workout)

 

[just]

No strings attached and if the chemistry between the two people doesn't work out, they would just simply "walk away" from each other without holding any barrds.

first of all living togather is a stupid thing..only proves you always need a point to runnaway if you cant handle things (no harm intended just my opinion). cos this "chemistry" thingy you say,want find in any guy or girl (even your dog..) it will always always be challanging.

and if you get to know someone very deeply they'll become boaring/predictable then all you want is not to be with them but to runnaway..mark my words here when you find the soulemate you'll know.

life isnt gonna give you any chances..thats the truth. step in and try to face things atleast you'll feel you did something at the end...

 

[Nash_Node]

first of all living togather is a stupid thing..only proves you always need a point to runnaway if you cant handle things (no harm intended just my opinion). cos this "chemistry" thingy you say,want find in any guy or girl (even your dog..) it will always always be challanging.

and if you get to know someone very deeply they'll become boaring/predictable then all you want is not to be with them but to runnaway..mark my words here when you find the soulemate you'll know.

life isnt gonna give you any chances..thats the truth. step in and try to face things atleast you'll feel you did something at the end...

Interesting and points accepted with a humble bow !

I will ask the "guy" to note these down

 

[MagmificentROO]

man nam kamathi nidasase inna

 

[hemantha33]

I Like Living In - without

 

[x-pert]

Haha

I guess this problem occured because the two guys are from different religions so they can't marry coz of their parents... So now they want to be together but still can't marry coz of the parents

Well... Religion is not even a minor problem for marriage. Best thing is to convince the parents somehow. Or else they even can marry if they are well established.

Living together should be the last resort. Coz it's an excuse rather than an option.
In Western cultures it is acceptable coz the man needs to pay a huge compensation if they devorce after marrying. That's why they live together as an excuse.

In Sri Lanka I guess still the de-facto relationships are not acceptable. If something happens legally they can't stand for each other. And since they are not married, the children will face the consequences. So why be selfish?

Always there are solutions for problems...

 

[just]

Interesting and points accepted with a humble bow !

I will ask the "guy" to note these down

humbly rejected the bow..
but glad could make an interesting point..pleasure!!!

 

[nagaya]

i vote for living together as post teens/youths but there is a to marry macho;
umbata sirawatama awulda?

 

[yasaswan]

Is it Good or Bad to Live-in without getting married ?

no offence...but normally these people are called ( f**k buddies>....

 

[Nic]

my personal idea is its bad!

 

[nagaya]

Haha

I guess this problem occured because the two guys are from different religions so they can't marry coz of their parents... So now they want to be together but still can't marry coz of the parents

Well... Religion is not even a minor problem for marriage. Best thing is to convince the parents somehow. Or else they even can marry if they are well established.

Living together should be the last resort. Coz it's an excuse rather than an option.
In Western cultures it is acceptable coz the man needs to pay a huge compensation if they devorce after marrying. That's why they live together as an excuse.

In Sri Lanka I guess still the de-facto relationships are not acceptable. If something happens legally they can't stand for each other. And since they are not married, the children will face the consequences. So why be selfish?

Always there are solutions for problems...

What a shame!!as we all are humans;why can't we marry and live happily without Religion?
Do we select a Religion before we born?so why we should let Religion to get departed from each other

I hate those kind of foolfish things;
C'mon bro Religion is nothing to let ur depart as long as both of u can live happily;
I say Education & can make this world a better place without any borderlines
One world!!!One family!!