Marriage - Dewedha - girl - value - boy - buying? IDEAS

[G.R.E.A]

In Sri lanka (other countries as well), I see that people are looking
for the goods and money when they go into a marriage.

Dewedha i'm talking about!

This happens in arranged marriage specially. I don't know about love-marriages, but I don't quite get it!!

I've been told by some that dewedha was for like an insurance that they will have something in case something happen, or for the parents.

The thing is that a lot of parents are deciding about the demands of a boy/girl should have, how many idam, or houses and stuff they should have.
Parents want the best for their children, but this is crazy.

I think it's ridiculous, in my eyes its like ur trying to promote urself to be bought (girl) and guys are buying a girl!!!

What do you guys think about this? Do you guys care about the girls dewedha?
And girls will you give dewedha when asked??

Most guys don't want dewedha, but what IF parents do want, will you accept it coz ya parents demand???​

Why I'm asking about this? Coz someone I know is looking for a man (not me), but she's been turned down, coz she didnt have enough dewedha!

 

[Sahan678]

mata nam epa attatama

gani witarak awama athi

 

[Sahan678]

oyage yaluwata newa gani kiuwe
ehema hituwa nam sorry nangii babo

 

[G.R.E.A]

oyage yaluwata newa gani kiuwe
ehema hituwa nam sorry nangii babo

mage yaluwata??! mama mukuth hituwe naha!!

but serious you don't want dewedha and ur parents don't want either?
If ya dont want to answer last question, coz its too personal, Its okey!

 

[coolgayathra]

onne na
kella witharak athi mata

 

[G.R.E.A]

onne na
kella witharak athi mata

oyata, but what about family??!! Eyalata eka important na??

 

[coolgayathra]

need only the girl

 

[coolgayathra]

oyata, but what about family??!! Eyalata eka important na??

na na ?
hoda normal pawlak num ginnak na
maha loku dawadi ganna api loku loku aya nemi nisa
hikzzzz

 

[G.R.E.A]

na na ?
hoda normal pawlak num ginnak na
maha loku dawadi ganna api loku loku aya nemi nisa
hikzzzz

eka kiyanna, oya dan lets say dupath kellek, hari lassana, smart, honda gati gunna tiyenne dupath kellek tikka love keruwath, eth eka 'ginnak' naha??

 

[coolgayathra]

eka kiyanna, oya dan lets say dupath kellek, hari lassana, smart, honda gati gunna tiyenne dupath kellek tikka love keruwath, eth eka 'ginnak' naha??

ane manda

 

[mylove]

mata nam mage girl vtarak labunama athi
bandata passe mokatada parents lata karadara karanne
ayala pod kale idan ap wenuwen vyadam karapuwa athi

 

[G.R.E.A]

mata nam mage girl vtarak labunama athi
bandata passe mokatada parents lata karadara karanne
ayala pod kale idan ap wenuwen vyadam karapuwa athi

but dewedha kiyanna badinne issara wenne deyak na??!

but last eka true, why parents ta karadera keranna, when they already invested in you as a girl/boy, but seems like parents are the one who are insisting on dewedha??
correct or not?

 

[buthaya]

afi nam fodi lamai luu

eth habai oyala oya kiyanawa wagema wade karanawa nam hodai luu
kastiyata daawadhdha oni naa luu

 

[coolgayathra]

hmmmmm

 

[G.R.E.A]

hmmmmm

I'm still not convinced, I better ask Sri lankan parents for these kind of questions

 

[twisted]

i won't ask for that nor will my family that i know for certain.

to a marriage, to my knowledge, both parties should put efforts and their share equally for it is a bond supposedly based on trust, commitment and love which is kind of spiritual, not that I'm saying there's no physicallity to it, in which case, i don't get the need of even agreeing to written terms, well, of course that's be your guarantee though ..
anyway i don't get what important roll the dowry plays in a marriage..if theres anything to it pls somebody enlighten me. how this all started and all.

 

[coolgayathra]

I'm still not convinced, I better ask Sri lankan parents for these kind of questions

ane ane grea
mekay seen eka
badinakota dawadi hoyana eka dan echchata ganan ganne na e kaale wage

 

[mylove]

but dewedha kiyanna badinne issara wenne deyak na??!

but last eka true, why parents ta karadera keranna, when they already invested in you as a girl/boy, but seems like parents are the one who are insisting on dewedha??
correct or not?

yes you're correct
dowry is giving or asking before marriage
samahara parentslage parana matha anuwa tama dowry1 dena sampradayak wela tynne

 

[mylove]

i won't ask for that nor will my family that i know for certain.

to a marriage, to my knowledge, both parties should put efforts and their share equally for it is a bond supposedly based on trust, commitment and love which is kind of spiritual, not that I'm saying there's no physicallity to it, in which case, i don't get the need of even agreeing to written terms, well, of course that's be your guarantee though ..
anyway i don't get what important roll the dowry plays in a marriage..if theres anything to it pls somebody enlighten me. how this all started and all.

my parents also wont ask for a dowry
my parents knows my gf & i asked from my mother if they l ask for a dowry when im marrying
she said "what for?"

 

[lasanka]

dont think its necessary...
it has something to do with the families i guess....