Marriage - Dewedha - girl - value - boy - buying? IDEAS

paris · Jul 5, 2009

man nam ehema dewedi illan ena manusayekta kemathi na... :no:

minihek geniyek gannawa kiyanne, eyata " responsibility" kiyala deyak enawa no? minihek job ekak hoyan, inna hitinna thenak hoyan, ita passe genu kenekwa kasada bandinawa nam ai eyata thawa " deweddak " kiyala deyak oni?
genu kena job ekak kara natha, eh manussayata puluwan wenna onine eyage wifeta kanna andinna dila adarayen reka balaganna.. :yes:

anika ammala thaththala, eh genu lamayata honda naraka kiyala dila, hondata hadala thiyenawa nam eka kochchara watinawada nangi? ekata eh genu lamayawa ganna kena eh ammatai thaththatai suthuthi karanna watinne... eh genu lamayawa echchara hondata hadapu eka watinawa neda deweddakata wada?

En tout moi je pence comme ça nango.. après pour les garçons je sais pas..

lasanka · Jul 5, 2009

hmmmm i dunno much abt the dewedha... but my relations... its always been something the couple gets after theyre married and its given as a gift... like if they give a house... they give it to the daughter so she owns it...
in that sense its the wedding gift from parents to their daughter..

G.R.E.A · Jul 5, 2009

twisted said:
i won't ask for that nor will my family that i know for certain.

to a marriage, to my knowledge, both parties should put efforts and their share equally for it is a bond supposedly based on trust, commitment and love which is kind of spiritual, not that I'm saying there's no physicallity to it, in which case, i don't get the need of even agreeing to written terms, well, of course that's be your guarantee though ..
anyway i don't get what important roll the dowry plays in a marriage..if theres anything to it pls somebody enlighten me. how this all started and all.

okey, good

Yes, I don't get the roll of dowry either, when a guy can work (and a girl can too) whats the need of that dowry??
Eventhough its not a big issue these days, but some people I know and seen still put a big value on it!

thnx for ya opinion

gazaly · Jul 5, 2009

No, I won't

amila_90210 · Jul 5, 2009

gaththaa wage neweyi kathaa ahanna wunama..lol..jk

G.R.E.A · Jul 5, 2009

coolgayathra said:
ane ane grea
mekay seen eka
badinakota dawadi hoyana eka dan echchata ganan ganne na e kaale wage

ooh then maybe i got a wrong impression, Or its more in the normal families, i mean not the ones who have a lot of money?

Ive met some people that do find it important :oo:

sanath ekanayake · Jul 5, 2009

a better girl is the dowry.I will not allow parent to discuss about dowry at all.it is a shame.a marriage means a divine thing,money or anything should not come between a loving husband and wife.

Sahan678 · Jul 5, 2009

G.R.E.A said:
mage yaluwata??! mama mukuth hituwe naha!!

but serious you don't want dewedha and ur parents don't want either?
If ya dont want to answer last question, coz its too personal, Its okey!

no never
parents demand kara kiyala a wage pahath wadak karanna baha ne
kellagen oune adarei wisawsei ..
mage theory eke hatiyata dawadda kohethma awashya naha

Sahan678 · Jul 5, 2009

paris said:
man nam ehema dewedi illan ena manusayekta kemathi na...

minihek geniyek gannawa kiyanne, eyata " responsibility" kiyala deyak enawa no? minihek job ekak hoyan, inna hitinna thenak hoyan, ita passe genu kenekwa kasada bandinawa nam ai eyata thawa " deweddak " kiyala deyak oni?
genu kena job ekak kara natha, eh manussayata puluwan wenna onine eyage wifeta kanna andinna dila adarayen reka balaganna..

anika ammala thaththala, eh genu lamayata honda naraka kiyala dila, hondata hadala thiyenawa nam eka kochchara watinawada nangi? ekata eh genu lamayawa ganna kena eh ammatai thaththatai suthuthi karanna watinne... eh genu lamayawa echchara hondata hadapu eka watinawa neda deweddakata wada?

En tout moi je pence comme ça nango.. après pour les garçons je sais pas..

X-pert ayye menna meyagen dawaddak illanna

me dawas wala hodatama kiywanwa wadi :lol:

ekai

G.R.E.A · Jul 5, 2009

paris said:
man nam ehema dewedi illan ena manusayekta kemathi na...

minihek geniyek gannawa kiyanne, eyata " responsibility" kiyala deyak enawa no? minihek job ekak hoyan, inna hitinna thenak hoyan, ita passe genu kenekwa kasada bandinawa nam ai eyata thawa " deweddak " kiyala deyak oni?
genu kena job ekak kara natha, eh manussayata puluwan wenna onine eyage wifeta kanna andinna dila adarayen reka balaganna..

anika ammala thaththala, eh genu lamayata honda naraka kiyala dila, hondata hadala thiyenawa nam eka kochchara watinawada nangi? ekata eh genu lamayawa ganna kena eh ammatai thaththatai suthuthi karanna watinne... eh genu lamayawa echchara hondata hadapu eka watinawa neda deweddakata wada?

En tout moi je pence comme ça nango.. après pour les garçons je sais pas..

True!! Eka tamai i agree with you sis, or u agree with me.
Girl (boy) kiyanna more worth than stuff, when a guy has a job, eyata puluwan to take care of someone, ay salli from parents ganna?!

But mata terenne naha, ai parents sometimes ekata echara illanna kiyala?

If I marry a sri lankan, hell no i would give dewedha, not because i dont have the money, just its my standard :rofl:

merci pour ta opinion

mylove · Jul 5, 2009

lasanka said:
hmmmm i dunno much abt the dewedha... but my relations... its always been something the couple gets after theyre married and its given as a gift... like if they give a house... they give it to the daughter so she owns it...
in that sense its the wedding gift from parents to their daughter..

this is the correct way
this became more important if her marriage is going break or her husband is neglecting her needs

gazaly · Jul 5, 2009

mama nam dawadda ganney naha but Honda deypala thiyena Thani duwek witharak inna lamayekwa bandinawa pawney kawru unath.... Karu unath eyalatath honda life ekak thiyenna epai....

Sahan678 · Jul 5, 2009

deawadi gana mama pandithaya wage kiywanwa

lfe patner kenek wath nathiwa
math tikak ounewata wadi

G.R.E.A · Jul 5, 2009

lasanka said:
hmmmm i dunno much abt the dewedha... but my relations... its always been something the couple gets after theyre married and its given as a gift... like if they give a house... they give it to the daughter so she owns it...
in that sense its the wedding gift from parents to their daughter..

I see, its different, but still does the family of the guys don't like demand (a heavy word) but more like is looking for a girl who has like something, value in sri lankan ways, house, idam ?

Sahan678 · Jul 5, 2009

G.R.E.A said:
True!! Eka tamai i agree with you sis, or u agree with me.
Girl (boy) kiyanna more worth than stuff, when a guy has a job, eyata puluwan to take care of someone, ay salli from parents ganna?!

But mata terenne naha, ai parents sometimes ekata echara illanna kiyala?

If I marry a sri lankan, hell no i would give dewedha, not because i dont have the money, just its my standard

merci pour ta opinion

nangi baba mama srilankan jk

G.R.E.A · Jul 5, 2009

gazaly said:
mama nam dawadda ganney naha but Honda deypala thiyena Thani duwek witharak inna lamayekwa bandinawa pawney kawru unath.... Karu unath eyalatath honda life ekak thiyenna epai....

oyage hati dannewa

lasanka · Jul 5, 2009

ahh some ppl ask for a dowry because it shows that both are from good families.
its weird.. but there also the idea that this way the girl has property or money to her name and she represents her family.. so its more of an internal thing rather than necessity...

G.R.E.A · Jul 5, 2009

Sahan678 said:
nangi baba mama srilankan jk

hahah i get the hint

but sorry right now not looking for a relationship, sri lankan or other nationalities

Sahan678 · Jul 5, 2009

gazaly said:
mama nam dawadda ganney naha but Honda deypala thiyena Thani duwek witharak inna lamayekwa bandinawa pawney kawru unath.... Karu unath eyalatath honda life ekak thiyenna epai....

umabanam marai ban
ammo

mylove · Jul 5, 2009

G.R.E.A said:
True!! Eka tamai i agree with you sis, or u agree with me.
Girl (boy) kiyanna more worth than stuff, when a guy has a job, eyata puluwan to take care of someone, ay salli from parents ganna?!

But mata terenne naha, ai parents sometimes ekata echara illanna kiyala?

If I marry a sri lankan, hell no i would give dewedha, not because i dont have the money, just its my standard

merci pour ta opinion

dowry1 tradition 1k karagena
issara girls lawa salakuwe pawlata barak vdyata
itn ayalawa bandala denakota aya badina kenata barak nowenna kiyalai meka athi wenna aththe
ath meka maha boru wadak
girl kenek bandata passe job 1k nokalath husband mahanc wenawata wada aya gedara wada karanna mahanc wenawa

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No, I won't

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