Pls post ur view (age 21 and above only)

[heshan123]

Hey guys and girls, I have a small question. I would like to know ur idea about this. First of all I must say that this question is relevant to ppl who are at least 21 years of age and above.

Ok here is the issue. Do you think marriage is a pre-requisite for couples to have sex ????

Was that something I shouldn't have asked, Im so sorry. But this thing is something I debated a lot with myself.

So if you have an idea please feel free to share.

Thanks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[x-pert]

Nice post... NO...

Marriage is not a pre-request for sex in ma point of view.. in other words you are asking whether its correct to have sex before marriage ryt???

 

[heshan123]

Nice post... NO...

Marriage is not a pre-request for sex in ma point of view.. in other words you are asking whether its correct to have sex before marriage ryt???

Yes ayya, but Sri Lankan culture says otherwise. What do you think about that ?

 

[crazyfool]

Aiyo 21 and above withari da...

 

[heshan123]

Aiyo 21 and above withari da...

The thing is this macho. If an underage fellow answers this, Im not really sure he will understand the real issues here and answer it. It will be too much for him to think about.

 

[Pata]

Moko me eka parata... It differs from one person to the other.. There are different types of sex ne.. .. I personally don't mind having a sexual relationship with my partner before marriage.. but not to the extreme(You Know What I mean. )

 

[heshan123]

Moko me eka parata... It differs from one person to the other.. There are different types of sex ne.. .. I personally don't mind having a sexual relationship with my partner before marriage.. but not to the extreme(You Know What I mean. )

Hmmmmmmmmm...........ok. Thats a good comment. Any idea why. And by the way are u above 21??? I dont think so. Ur Sudu Malli right? If so ur not even 20.

 

[chamithal]

Well! In my case... I think I'd wait till the proper time...

 

[x-pert]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane....

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

 

[crazyfool]

The thing is this macho. If an underage fellow answers this, Im not really sure he will understand the real issues here and answer it. It will be too much for him to think about.

Mata 19, age of consent lankawe 13 lu dang

Consider what I have to say if you want to: I think it's up to you and your partner, do what you feel is right considering all your relationships, including family, and how you would feel about it if you were to have sex before marriage.

Also I have to say that no matter what happens family is the most important.

 

[nEoN_wHitE]

good topic.. have thigns 2 say here..
bt now now time.. i'll post my ideas 2morrow oki
bye
nitzzz

 

[Pata]

Sudu Malli.. ... Man Pata ban.. I'm well over 21... The reason why I say you should not go to the extreme is because by any chance if your relationship gets broken then you don't wanna be putting a girl's future in danger.. You Know Sri Lankan culture is different... Society don't expect sex before marriage..

Hmmmmmmmmm...........ok. Thats a good comment. Any idea why. And by the way are u above 21??? I dont think so. Ur Sudu Malli right? If so ur not even 20.

 

[chamithal]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane....

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

OMG.. Seems like u really are a damn expert!

 

[chamithal]

Sudu Malli.. ... Man Pata ban.. I'm well over 21... The reason why I say you should not go to the extreme is because by any chance if your relationship gets broken then you don't wanna be putting a girl's future in danger.. You Know Sri Lankan culture is different... Society don't expect sex before marriage..

Hmm... Eaka nam aththa... Relationship 1 break wennema na kiyala sure nam ok ne?

 

[x-pert]

OMG.. Seems like u really are a damn expert!

me subject eka gana thawa igena ganna ooni bung....

 

[Pata]

Its up to you..

Hmm... Eaka nam aththa... Relationship 1 break wennema na kiyala sure nam ok ne?

 

[crazyfool]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane....

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

True true

Also, bit off topic, something I have to say about tradition:

You know the Buddha has said that all things are impermanent.

Machang Mihindu hamaduruvo Lanka weta avith buddhagema gena pu davesae ape minusu Qwa nang "apoi, this is against our tradition" kiyala, ehnang dang Buddhagema kiyala deyak lankave naha.

 

[x-pert]

Hmm... Eaka nam aththa... Relationship 1 break wennema na kiyala sure nam ok ne?

Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

 

[heshan123]

Mehemai machang,

Hmm.. culture... what is culture...?? Culture is a thing which has benn created by a set of people... We beleive its correct coz that culture was in Sri Lanka before us...

Having said that.....

Yes, culture is important... But machang ooka thamai ape culture eke waradda... ooni nathi dewal thiyaagena, oone dewal thiyaganne nahane....

Ape country eka aragena baluwahama girlslata wada kalin boys la sex paththata yanawa... You get what I mean?
Almost all the guys do have sex before marrying a woman... isn't it true.. ?? (Not ALL, but ALMOST ALL)

Ithin ayi api kiyanne girlslata ehema karanna epa kiyala.....??

Okay.. I also want(ed) to have sex with a virgin for the first time.... All have a dream like that... but machang... Is it important...? Whats the point...
Boyslata ooni deyak karanna puluwan habai girlslata mukuth karanna baha kiyala ne kiyanne ethakota....

Ayi ehema karanne... mokakda theruma...??

According to our so called 'culture' we have a respect like that to women.. true... but why should we be selfish like that....

Virginity is not an important thing in marriage. It shouldn't be.... what matters most is the understanding between the two and the TRUST...
May be the girl may have lost it due to an accident or may be she hasn't got it by birth... those can happen.... So why should we check for it when we marry...?

Sex plays an important role in love... once you had it with a person... I just cant explain it by words.... Not with a prostitute but with your true love... Thats a real sensation... Love will increase immensly... So you dont need to wait until you marry to do it... but this is just my point of view... someone else might have a different view about it...

Wow great answer x-pert ayya. I agree with u on many places. Specially the place where Sri Lankans check the virginity of a girl. I dont think its fair. Ok here is the next issue. I read in an article that relationships that has pre-marital sex wont last for long. The thing is that the couple will not have the strong sexual attraction that they should have after marriage (coz they have done it earlier it is nothing new to them). What do you think. Will that be true ?

 

[crazyfool]

Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

Blood yane wa balane one nissa nemi, something to do with whether the person has been "used" or not.