Pls post ur view (age 21 and above only)

[chamithal]

me subject eka gana thawa igena ganna ooni bung....

Ow ow! Ammo! Mata nam no practical experiences! Thawa Kalantharayak balan inna wei!

 

[crazyfool]

Apo... mae topic eka tikak mokade wage mata kathakarane... mang giyo...

 

[x-pert]

True true

Also, bit off topic, something I have to say about tradition:

You know the Buddha has said that all things are impermanent.

Machang Mihindu hamaduruvo Lanka weta avith buddhagema gena pu davesae ape minusu Qwa nang "apoi, this is against our tradition" kiyala, ehnang dang Buddhagema kiyala deyak lankave naha.

Thats change machang...

People are resistant to change...

They go through 4 phases in any change process.
1) Denial
2) Resistant
3) Explloration
4) Confident

So about virginity now the society is on the 3rd level...

But sooner or later they will realise it is a useless thing and confidently will say that it aint important but love is only important....

 

[Tissaka]

dnt knw

 

[chamithal]

Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

Eaka nam aththa machan! Matath owa nam issues nemey! But we are not the society ne... A relationship can go ny direction ne! Ithin kokatath hondai sure ma naththam tikak shape eke darunu dewal walin walakila inna eka ne?

 

[chamithal]

Its up to you..

Yeahh! Well!

 

[heshan123]

Sudu Malli.. ... Man Pata ban.. I'm well over 21... The reason why I say you should not go to the extreme is because by any chance if your relationship gets broken then you don't wanna be putting a girl's future in danger.. You Know Sri Lankan culture is different... Society don't expect sex before marriage..

Sorry boss. I miss-took you for Dj-Pata. You two are different.
Please keep on posting on this thread.

 

[x-pert]

Blood yane wa balane one nissa nemi, something to do with whether the person has been "used" or not.

Used or not used.. whats the big deal...???
Dont we use ours....????

 

[Pata]

But the thing is not everyone in our society look at this matter by the same angle that you are looking at.. So should you take that kind of a risk which wud probably cost a girl's life..

Its like this....

relationship eka break unath marry karana kena danaganna ooni oowa balanne nathuwa inna..... mokakda balala athi wade bung...???

mikan blood tikak yana eka diha balala mokak karannada...???

Pissu manasgaatha...

 

[x-pert]

Eaka nam aththa machan! Matath owa nam issues nemey! But we are not the society ne... A relationship can go ny direction ne! Ithin kokatath hondai sure ma naththam tikak shape eke darunu dewal walin walakila inna eka ne?

haah uba kiyanne prevention is better than cure kiyala ne??

Owu society eke widihata eeka hari...

But dont ever do it to a girl I mean when you marry a person dont ever try to check whether she is a virgin or not... Thats my point machang...

 

[heshan123]

But the thing is not everyone in our society look at this matter by the same angle that you are looking at.. So should you take that kind of a risk which wud probably cost a girl's life..

Podi aththak thibe kathawe.

 

[crazyfool]

Used or not used.. whats the big deal...???
Dont we use ours....????

That's why I used the quotes when I said used. I personally think women have all the right to have pre-marital sex, likewise they have all the right not to. Same thing applies to guys.

But regardless of our rights, when we mess with tradition, we can hurt some ppl like our family and their perceptions.

 

[x-pert]

But the thing is not everyone in our society look at this matter by the same angle that you are looking at.. So should you take that kind of a risk which wud probably cost a girl's life..

Girl's life.... hehe... There you go machang... onna ookane society eke waradda...

Aulak naththam ube age eka kiyahan...

But machang, dennama kamathi nam kalaata waradak naha kiyalai mama kiyanne...

 

[heshan123]

That's why I used the quotes when I said used. I personally think women have all the right to have pre-marital sex, likewise they have all the right not to. Same thing applies to guys.

But regardless of our rights, when we mess with tradition, we can hurt some ppl like our family and their perceptions.

Hurt ??? What do you mean by hurt some ppl ??? Im not really sure about that.

 

[heshan123]

Girl's life.... hehe... There you go machang... onna ookane society eke waradda...

Aulak naththam ube age eka kiyahan...

But machang, dennama kamathi nam kalaata waradak naha kiyalai mama kiyanne...

X-pert ayya. Post #19 walata answer karannakoooooooooooo

 

[shalinda]

no i don't think sex is all the thing love is the main thing as i know

 

[heshan123]

no i don't think sex is all the thing love is the main thing as i know

But do you see any risk, where having sex will actually damage the relationship.

 

[x-pert]

Wow great answer x-pert ayya. I agree with u on many places. Specially the place where Sri Lankans check the virginity of a girl. I dont think its fair. Ok here is the next issue. I read in an article that relationships that has pre-marital sex wont last for long. The thing is that the couple will not have the strong sexual attraction that they should have after marriage (coz they have done it earlier it is nothing new to them). What do you think. Will that be true ?

before marrying or after marrying they have to do it ne machang.... Yes its true the attarction will eventually go down after some time... Thats why after the marriage couples are not as same as when they were not married.

But machang..... before marriage it doesn't happen. Coz they both wants to go to the next level.. I mean they both will want to marry each other and to live with the same person for the rest of their lives...

So pre-marital sex wont last long coz, they will marry soon. So itll be marital sex... haha (jk)

only thing what will happen is, the couple wont find a difference before and after marriage... coz they were living in the same way...

 

[crazyfool]

Hurt ??? What do you mean by hurt some ppl ??? Im not really sure about that.

Sorry, I mean hurt by some people. Family ekka traditional nang etha kote girl/boy (mostly for girls) will have a hard time with them afterwards. Even though it may be kept a secret.

 

[heshan123]

before marrying or after marrying they have to do it ne machang.... Yes its true the attarction will eventually go down after some time... Thats why after the marriage couples are not as same as when they were not married.

But machang..... before marriage it doesn't happen. Coz they both wants to go to the next level.. I mean they both will want to marry each other and to live with the same person for the rest of their lives...

So pre-marital sex wont last long coz, they will marry soon. So itll be marital sex... haha (jk)

only thing what will happen is, the couple wont find a difference before and after marriage... coz they were living in the same way...

Exactly. As far as i see marriage is suppose to be a "one big happy surprise". If you spoil it before the marriage, im not sure whether it will affect the post-marriage life.