Even reading this post makes me sick on thinking the way the young generation thinks about the marriage. It is a life partner you are bringing into your life, that's how I see that at least. Not a fucking servant. There are differences of course and you have to workout them, sort them by communicating.
You two after marriage is a team, you should achieve things as a team. If you guys living together the work or sacrifice you make should be 50%, 50% or near to that. (if it 10%, 90% then either one is fucked)
As you guys mentioned I think your mothers has done a lot of work for you or I am pretty sure they got the help from your father as well.
if you a fucking expecting someone like your mother from your wife then try to do the same work as your father is doing.
There can be edge cases, if so divorce them.
