Yeah ik some people are interested. But most of them here are nothing but judgemental assholes.
Anyway, what I wanna tell the op is you don't have to have tons of orgasms and worry about your partner satisfaction.
You be like you are the man who's in control, train her to get the pleasure out of the pain / tease / humiliation, etc. Get a vibrator and edge her like 15 times a day, (until she loses her mind and start begging for an orgasm) Put rules on her sex life and offer the full control. Tell her to ask your permission in order have an orgasm. Basically, she has to ask your permission to touch her own body. That will make her feel like she is owned and her sex life is being controlled by the master.
Then again, you be like totally random and unpredictable. Plus, she must not allowed to predict your actions. When you spot that she predicts your actions, you punish her.
You have to tell her that she gets edged because that's just the way how you like it. So she will understand that this is about pleasing her master, and it's nothing about the sub / slave. She will end up being a toy for you and will get brain washed. She will start taking the pleasure out of pleasing your cock in ways you like and let you do whatever the fuck you want with love, and she will feel loved and learn to find the link to your heart by sucking your cock (she is a human being and you respect in her real life but this is just both of your fantasy sex life) And things will start exiting and less boring. Start your bdsm life from that point. Read about mastering (some people are really bad at this, and some people have this in their blood) If you are a true dominant, you will know your tricks.
I have more than 8 years of experience in this mastering thing with American sluts/slaves/subs and I can write tons more about techniques, but people will see me as a mind fucked person. And it will expose more of my personal life that I don't want to share