To do that you'll have to see the real picture. As far as our eyes perspective a woman is just another 'image'. Nothing special. As same as all the other images. If you take a look at a 'woman' in her physical aspect, it is just another object made up of 'apo', 'thejo', 'wayo', and 'patawi' elements. Just like every other object. What makes it special about a woman comes from your 'karma bhawa'. You know there can be certain aspects of woman you prefer. There can be likes and dislikes. I like that kind of woman and I don't like this kind of woman etc. Those are the details stored in your karma bhawa. So when you see a woman and when that image matches with one of those preferences then you gonna attach to the woman. Otherwise you dont. When you attach, you actually attach with the image made up in your mind. Not with the real object. But you can't differentiate it so you think as if you've attached with the real woman. What if you see a hooker, talk to her and then when you try to have sex you find out that she's got some STD infection. Now do you like her as much as you did initially? You gonna dislike her now because STD is something that you don't want to have from your ideal woman. So immediately your liking turns into a dislike. So if the woman is in fact an always likable 'object' do you ever get that dislike even if she got STD? No right? But you dislike her now and thats because she's neither a 'likable' object nor 'unlikable' object. There's no such a thing. Its all some made up shit in your mind. This is just a headstart. You can go a long way with this IF YOU DO GET IT