My girlfriend is sexually abused ... PLS HELP....

[madubashini nandasiri]

I'm really sorry for wat happened..............
being a girl i can understand how i wud feel if something like that happened to me.........

first of all......u need accept the situation and ask urself if ur opinion about her changed o not........remember she is the victim here........so do u condemn her coz she not pure any more or do u console her and say its not ur fault,wit an honest mind of course..........

if the second option(console) is true its not all bad news for her coz she has found true love in you..........
thats y she was honest......i hope u appreciate that.........??

if u trully love her.....u r the best medicine for her trauma........
because she will from now on value herself through you.......
so make her feel worthy..........encourage her with your loving words...... try to build her confidence.........u can get help from a councellor also.....

tell her that u love her no matter wat and that u will support her every step of the way...........and im sure u can pull her out of the darkness she is in........and give her a new life and a new beginning........

i dont think legal proceeding can help esp. psychologically...........and it might bring shame to her..............and bring back bad memories........

so let the past remain as it is and show her a loving future full of hopes and dreams.......

(i hope this will help u.........wish u success)

 

[shan_rasta]

yako,ubata sirawatama saiko .podi kellekta walkam karapu eka merilama yanna oni.uba owa ganan ganna epa ban.samahara podi unta sellam karaddit oka nethi wenawa.uba e kellata sirawatama adare karapan.

 

[magichashan]

Mehemai yaluwa ....... girta 4 years kiyanne eyage kamathten karapu deyak nemey ne.....
eka bara pathala wenne kollek oyage girlta loku kaledi ehema deyak karanam ... ethakota eka oyata hithanna prashnayak ....

hamadema nathi wela yanawa dawasaka ,,, oyage oya dukath tika dawasakin nathi wela yay dnt worry ,,,,,

 

[korn]

muge ange ellenawa wage kiyalada.
muge love ekata kochchara kalda danne.
mamanam kiyann 2yr walata wada vadinam evva hoyala therumak ne.
mooth ekka yaluwela innethdee mehema unaanam problem ekak :S

ehemamath nemei machan.. eka keepa widihakata wenna puluwan...

muu hoyanne kella boruwak kiyanadha kiyalai... a kiyanne... ekko muu ekka yalu wela inna gaman wena kolle gen una hari.. muuth ekka yaalu wenna kalin wena kollekgen una da kiyana ekai..

mokadha kella oya kiyapu widihe boruwak nam karala thiyenne.. a kella issarahatah ehema deyak nokarai kiyala hithanna thiyena sambavithawa hari adui...

 

[iwillsavemygirl]

machan.... mama ada wedata giye ne.....ada mama paaduwe idala me wage wechcha seen gena internet eke hoyanna decide karaa....

ethakota mata meke aththa naththa ikmanata hoyaa ganna puluwan wei...

mama ubalage comment okkoma kiyewwaa....

keep posting... ubalage adahas mata godak watinawa........ kohomahari meka wisadagena thamai passa balanne....

 

[LKS007]

උඹ අසරණ නිසා එලකිරි එකේ සෙට් එකෙන් මේ වගේ දෙයක් අහපු එක සාධාරණයි..ඒත් මචන් තීරණය අපි දෙන්න කලින් උඹ තීරණය කරපන් මොකක්ද කරන්න ඕනි කියල..

උඹ කෙල්ලට ඇත්තටම ආදරේ නම් ආයිත් කිසිම දාක ඒ වැරැද්ද පෙන්නල කෙල්ලට වැරැද්දක් දාන්නෙ නැත්නම් උඹ ඒ කෙල්ලට සිරාවටම ආදරේ කරපන්..

හැබැයි උඹ ඒ ගැන පසුතැවෙනවනම් දෙයියනේ බුදුනේ කියල අතඇරපන්..

ඒත් මගේ මතේ නම් උඹ ඒ කෙල්ලව සිරාවටම කරපන්..සුබ පැතුම් මචන්.. අවුලක් කරගන්න එපා..

කෙල්ලට කරන උදව්වක් විදිහට උඹේ ඔරිජිනල් අයිඩී එකේ මේ සීන් එක දාන්නත් එපා..ඇත්ත ජීවිතේ මේ ගැන කාටවත් කියන්නත් එපා..


මගේ මතේ උඹ ඒ කෙල්ලව දිගටම කරපන්...

අවුරුදු 4දි කිසිම ෆීලින්ග් එකක් නැතුව සෙක්ස් කරපු කෙල්ලත්
කවදාවත් සෙක්ස් නොකරපු කෙල්ලයි සමානයි.
ඉතින් අවුලක් නැහැ නෙ බන්!
උඹ පෙට්ටිය ඔළුවෙ තියන් නටන් නැතුව
කෙල්ලගෙ හොඳ ගති ගුණ ගැන හිතපන්.
කඩ්ඩෙන් කතා කළාට විතරක් මදි බන්
මොන්ගල් ගතිත් අරින්න ඕන!

aniwa macchan,,kella dannet nattan,,ubata kiwwe eka eki ubata attatama adare nisa neda??

eka gana hitapan,,api kiyana de uba piligannaepa

poddak hitapan,,ohoma cez1 ahala uba mukut qe nati eka hodai,,taraha gannat epa,,ooka wela hugak kal ne ban,,

balapan....dan kellawa mt wela okkoma ahagena,,bleed unada kiyalat ahagena,,doctor kenek mt weyan,,balapan gal still virgin da kiyala,,anika

oya para mooosala balla hoyapan,,kohe pakiz booruwekda kiyala mata PM 1 dala hari kiyapan,,oya karapu asamatjathi wadeta okata gihin p*** arala enna ona,,nattan tawat kellek diha ahak arala nobalanna,,okata denna ona ammage kiri eliyata ennama,,

uba LOVE eka continue karpn kollo,,sex kiyanne hama dema newi ban,,virgin kiyanne kelle pirisidui kiyana ekat newi,,

kella ubata adarei nan,,echarai oiiii

 

[ELuCHIL]

Mata Therena Hatiyata oya Kella Ubata Oya Basuwe Bolayak putha Dan Kellage Age Eka 20years nada ? Mona de karannath Kella Gana Hodata Hoyapan
Mata nam Therenne Oya Kellata Kalin Kollek Idala Thiynawa saha Oki Ubbata karanne Boruwak Parissam Weyan machan

 

[korn]

machan.... mama ada wedata giye ne.....ada mama paaduwe idala me wage wechcha seen gena internet eke hoyanna decide karaa....

ethakota mata meke aththa naththa ikmanata hoyaa ganna puluwan wei...

mama ubalage comment okkoma kiyewwaa....

keep posting... ubalage adahas mata godak watinawa........ kohomahari meka wisadagena thamai passa balanne....

machan... mehema qata tharaha wenna epa... umba oya wage cases internet eken hewwata umbata 100% attha hoyaganna nae.. a net eke thiyena cases base karagen umbata upakalpanayakata enna witharai puluwan.. eka hari wennath puluwan waradi wennath puluwan... anika oya cases ekakata ekak wenas.... a nisa umbata oya krama hari yanne nae... a nisa a welawa yodawapan umbe case eka gana thawa thorathuru hoyanna... ethakota umbata a data base karagena attha dana ganna puluwan.. a nisa okata welawa nasthi karanna epa ban

 

[iwillsavemygirl]

machan... mehema qata tharaha wenna epa... umba oya wage cases internet eken hewwata umbata 100% attha hoyaganna nae.. a net eke thiyena cases base karagen umbata upakalpanayakata enna witharai puluwan.. eka hari wennath puluwan waradi wennath puluwan... anika oya cases ekakata ekak wenas.... a nisa umbata oya krama hari yanne nae... a nisa a welawa yodawapan umbe case eka gana thawa thorathuru hoyanna... ethakota umbata a data base karagena attha dana ganna puluwan.. a nisa okata welawa nasthi karanna epa ban

ube kathawa hari... mama search karaa .. e wage siddi godak hambuna.... but i couldnt find a solution....

e wunaata 4 year waladi wena dewal mathaka thiyenne ne kiyala methana samahara yaluwwo kiyana kathaawa den mata piliganna amaarui.. mokada mama e genath search kara net eke.....

4 year old kenekuta hodata mathaka thiyenna puluwan kiyana ekai mage adahasa....

mama ubalawa thathwe gena digatama update karannam..... please stay with me...

 

[korn]

ube kathawa hari... mama search karaa .. e wage siddi godak hambuna.... but i couldnt find a solution....

e wunaata 4 year waladi wena dewal mathaka thiyenne ne kiyala methana samahara yaluwwo kiyana kathaawa den mata piliganna amaarui.. mokada mama e genath search kara net eke.....

4 year old kenekuta hodata mathaka thiyenna puluwan kiyana ekai mage adahasa....

mama ubalawa thathwe gena digatama update karannam..... please stay with me...

4 year old kenekuta hodata mathaka thiyenna puluwan kiyana eka hari machan.. eath may siddhiya ehema mathaka thiyei kiyala hithanna amarui...

mama pre school giya 1st day eka mata hodata mathakai... ekata hethuwa a dawase gattha photo eakak mama tikak loku wekan dakapu nisa.. a wage photos walin hari katha wela hari passe passe kihipa sarayak ahala dakala thiyene siddhi arenna wena kisima deyak mata mathaka nae.... ehema mathak thiyenna puluwan sambawithawa 1% withara.

oka mathaka thiyenawa nam mathak thiyenna 95% withara chance ekak thiyennawa oyage kella oka wechcha kalema ammalata kiyala passe passe a gana family eke katha karala thiyenawa nam...
ehema unath.. overall weccha de arenna.. a welawe adan hitiya ewa saha weccha dialogs mathaka thiyenna thiyenna sambawithawa 0.1%

hebei mathaka thiya ganin.. onema deyak wenna puluwan probability eka 1% una paliyata eka nosalaka arinna epa.. mokadha a 1% umbe kella wenna puluwan.. we never know that!!

 

[hpk89]

4 year old kenekuta hodata mathaka thiyenna puluwan kiyana eka hari machan.. eath may siddhiya ehema mathaka thiyei kiyala hithanna amarui...

mama pre school giya 1st day eka mata hodata mathakai... ekata hethuwa a dawase gattha photo eakak mama tikak loku wekan dakapu nisa.. a wage photos walin hari katha wela hari passe passe kihipa sarayak ahala dakala thiyene siddhi arenna wena kisima deyak mata mathaka nae.... ehema mathak thiyenna puluwan sambawithawa 1% withara.

oka mathaka thiyenawa nam mathak thiyenna 95% withara chance ekak thiyennawa oyage kella oka wechcha kalema ammalata kiyala passe passe a gana family eke katha karala thiyenawa nam...
ehema unath.. overall weccha de arenna.. a welawe adan hitiya ewa saha weccha dialogs mathaka thiyenna thiyenna sambawithawa 0.1%

hebei mathaka thiya ganin.. onema deyak wenna puluwan probability eka 1% una paliyata eka nosalaka arinna epa.. mokadha a 1% umbe kella wenna puluwan.. we never know that!!

habai mehemai. Godak baya wunama ehema dewal mathaka thiyenawa. Mama podi kale game achchi gawa kalayak hitiya. E kale mata awurudu 3k withara athi. Dawasak gedara aya mata wihiluwak karanna mawa gedara gawin giya karaththayaka thibba. Mama hithuwe aththatama mawa ehema dala yawanna hadanawa kiyala. Mama hondatama bayawela kagahala anduwa. 3 years wage unath eda andan hitapu ewa pawa mata thama mathakai. Ehema ewath wenawa.

 

[korn]

habai mehemai. Godak baya wunama ehema dewal mathaka thiyenawa. Mama podi kale game achchi gawa kalayak hitiya. E kale mata awurudu 3k withara athi. Dawasak gedara aya mata wihiluwak karanna mawa gedara gawin giya karaththayaka thibba. Mama hithuwe aththatama mawa ehema dala yawanna hadanawa kiyala. Mama hondatama bayawela kagahala anduwa. 3 years wage unath eda andan hitapu ewa pawa mata thama mathakai. Ehema ewath wenawa.

eka thama ban qa.. ehema mathaka thiyenna puluwan 1% chance ekak thiyenaw kiyala...

 

[lasa_dal]

Kella A/L karanna kalin wena kath ekka hari set wela idala thiyanawada?
E kiyanne Kellata danum therum thiyana wayasedi
UBAWA Arenna
wena kath ekka hari love karala thiyanawada?????

there is something fishy about this . from the way i see it Ur girl lost her virginity somehow(not abused) and making a story to cover it up. girls usually do that sort of things. maybe I'm wrong but ...... its better to deal with this wisely

 

[dkp]

ane manda adare kiyala nikan jewiwiteee eturu kalaya nasti kara gen ahari yanne nah ny machn...parentsla ennawa egolan ballant oney...kochchra waga keem tiyanawada bun...owa tiyagena ohama ekak marry karama uba mentsl wenama ledak hadei...giya dey giyawe ona ekek kiyawe kiyala mole ati tiranayak gani...machn gani ge parentsla eyawa nikan tiyana ekak nah bun salli wiyadan karala pitarata yawala ugannai.....wadiya hitata gannna epa machn...hama pattama hitanna giyot ubata teranayak ganna bah....PARENTLA gana hitala hoda tiranayak ganin.....apiwa loku karapu parentlatsa duk denne natuwa egolannta satuk gena ena widiyata thiranayak ganin kollla...

 

[RashiRush]

is this a joke or something or are you serious? if serious, this isnt exactly the right place to bring this type of stuff right? you should talk to a lawyer or someone and try to get info about what legal actions you can take etc ?

Dude r u nuts???? If she takes legal actions she has to expose herself to everyone...And if it leaked to media....(ehenan ithin kellata deyyangema phitai...TV chanel walin ekiwa pata gahai) apart from that she's suffering from that even after 15 years......So I don't think it's a good idea to remind her past things now...

What iwillsavemygirl should do is, he should talk through this whole thing very patiently and help her to forget that incident..He should convince her that he's there for her for the rest of her life( If only iwillsavemygirl loves as his life, otherwise denma separate wenna ona)

 

[iwillsavemygirl]

machan mage oluwa hodatama awl welaa thiyenne... mata pissu hadei mehema giyoth ehema...... pana denna unath lesthi yaaluwo tikak hitiyath mata un ekka me gena kathaa karanna be ban

legal action ganna be mata girl ge akameththen.... eth ita kalin thawa godak dewal dena gannath thiyenawa... wena rataka inna nisa hemadaama re wenakan inna wenawa kathaa karanna... eka nisaa mama dawasama maara awlen inne.... mata karaganna deyak ne.... kanna be... reta ninda yanne ne... weda karanakota hariyata kenthi yanawa..

aththa jeewithe mama ammata witharai thawama meka kiyala thiyenne.... ammatath hodatama dukai.. mata hema welema ammagen aha aha ammawa adawannath be... karaganna deyak nethi nisaa thamai fake id ekakin elakiri awe.... balamu ada reta monaa weida kiyala.....

meka witharai mata denata help ganna thiyena widiha...

 

[korn]

machan mage oluwa hodatama awl welaa thiyenne... mata pissu hadei mehema giyoth ehema...... pana denna unath lesthi yaaluwo tikak hitiyath mata un ekka me gena kathaa karanna be ban

legal action ganna be mata girl ge akameththen.... eth ita kalin thawa godak dewal dena gannath thiyenawa... wena rataka inna nisa hemadaama re wenakan inna wenawa kathaa karanna... eka nisaa mama dawasama maara awlen inne.... mata karaganna deyak ne.... kanna be... reta ninda yanne ne... weda karanakota hariyata kenthi yanawa..

aththa jeewithe mama ammata witharai thawama meka kiyala thiyenne.... ammatath hodatama dukai.. mata hema welema ammagen aha aha ammawa adawannath be... karaganna deyak nethi nisaa thamai fake id ekakin elakiri awe.... balamu ada reta monaa weida kiyala.....

meka witharai mata denata help ganna thiyena widiha...

Machan.. umbe awula apita therenawa... umbata EK eke aniwaryen udawwak ganna puluwan.. eath issellama umbe patthen umba hitha shakthimath kara ganna one one dekata moona dekata puluwan wena widihata.. ohoma awula wela mano para gaha gena nam meka wisadhanna amarui.. umba hotada confidence aran jeevitheta moona diyan.. ethakota umbata oka gana hoyala theeranayak ganna lesi wei...

anik eka.. umba hama dama raeta prashna set ptin ahanne nathuwa okoma tika lasthi karagena eka dawasaka ahapan.. kerllath ekka wenadata wadiya wela aran katha karapan.... umba dawasin dawasa prashna paththara danna gaththoth kellata saka hithila umba kich peechang wenawa... kella katha karana gaman.. a kiyana hama ekak ma hodata aha ganin.. a katha karan widiha pawa hodata note kara ganin... ewin umbata hoyaganna lesi wei ok a boruwak da naddha kiyala

 

[ela_eluwa120]

e wunaata 4 year waladi wena dewal mathaka thiyenne ne kiyala methana samahara yaluwwo kiyana kathaawa den mata piliganna amaarui.. mokada mama e genath search kara net eke.....

4 year old kenekuta hodata mathaka thiyenna puluwan kiyana ekai mage adahasa....

question is not whether one would have some memory in the age of 4 (such as the memorizing a phone number/list of words), but the question is whether a genuine memory formed at the age of 4 can last untill 16 or 17..

 

[iwillsavemygirl]

its her younger brother did that she just told me....

mata thawa time deepan machan.. i will come to u all soon..

den mata kalin seretath wadaa ubalage udaw oni....

 

[watzupdude03]

ado....dnt trust women.....she must have said this lie to hide abt her virginity!!!! thkk b4 u take an action!!!