you can never be in love and not be possessive

you can stop trying to possess the one you love and go on pretending..but you, in the back of your heart, always craves to have that one..that is utter possessiveness.
I don't think you've been in love...love is everything you've mentioned above. you only can ignore those and go on like you are cool...when you are in love, you atleast
expect the one you love, to be happy...and you always
keep him/her in your mind ...you
fear that you won't be loved back or something bad may happen to that person. come on,
lust comes with the package, you are only human...
jealousy...again something you can only pretend that you are not ..but it's the force that drives you to punch the whole or go out and have a smoke when you see the one you love, happy with somebody else
there's no selfless deeds in this world...only we can hide our feelings and be noble