ජිවිතයේ තැනක අතරමන් වී හෝ confused වූ මට ඔබලාගෙ අත්දැකීම් හා උපදෙස් අව්ශ්‍යයයි(Not depressed, just clueless)

[Yin And Yang]

මම මෙහෙම කියන්නම්. අපි පොඩි කාලෙ අපි ලෝකෙ ගැන මෙලෝ මගුලක් ලොකුවට දන්නෙ නෑ. අපි ඒ මොහොත අපි ආස විදිහට භුක්ති විඳින්න කලා. ටික ටික අපි ලොකු වෙද්දි දැනගන්නවා විභාග, ආර්තික, සෞක්‍ය ප්‍රශ්න වගෙ එව්වාවලට මුහුණ දෙන්න වෙනවා කියලා. ටික ටික අපි මේ මොහොත ගැන stress වෙවී අනාගතය ගැන anxious වෙන්න පටන් ගන්නවා. ඊට පස්සෙත් තමන්වම තමන් ගැනම සැක කරන්න පටන්ගන්නවා. මේ වෙනකන් අපි දැනන් හිටියෙ අපේ ඉස්කෝලේ යාලුවොයි, අසල්වැසියොයි විතරයි. ඊට පස්සෙ අපිට හම්බෙනවා smart phone එකත් එක්කම internet access එක. ඊට පස්සෙ තමා සෙල්ලම පටන් ගන්නෙ. අපි මේ ලෝකෙ හෙන පොඩි මිනිස්සු සහ අපි එදා වේල කන්න සල්ලි හොයද්දි අපේ මාසෙ මුළු පඩියම එක වේලක් සඳහා වියදම් කරන්න පුළුවන් මිනිස්සු මේ ලෝකේ දහස් ගනන් ඉන්නව කියල දැනගන්නවා. තව social media වල vlogs කරන කට්ටි දැක්කහම හිතෙනවා අපි කොච්චර අවාසනාවන්තද කියලා. අපි A/L යන පන්ති ගැන හිතුවොත් එව්වගෙ කියන්නෙත් මැරීගෙන් වැඩ කරපන් engineering/medicine යන්න බැරි උනොත් ජීවිතේම fail කියලා. ඒව අහලා යූ ටියුබ් යද්දි එකෙක් කියනවා ජොබ් එකක් නෑ, එව්වගෙන් මූල්‍ය නිදහස හම්බෙන්නෙ නෑ කියලා. ඒ අස්සෙ උන් matrix එකෙන් එලියට එන්න කියලා මේ course එක කරන්න කියල දාගෙන course විකුනනවා. ඒ අස්සෙ හෙන ලොකු අයිලන්ඩ් රෑන්ක් දාල ඉන්ජිනියරින් ගියපු අයත් මුන්ගෙ තෙලට අහුවුනාම ඉගෙන ගත්තා කියල වැඩක් නෑ කියල හිතෙනව උන්ගෙ Thinking එක ගැන හිතුවහම. ටියුෂන් සර්ලා ලොකුව්ට කිව්ව ඉන්ජිනේරු ක්ෂේත්‍රයේ ගියපු අය කෙල්ලෙක් නෑ, මානසික ආතතිය වැඩියි කියද්දි ඒ පාරේ යන්න හිතෙන්නෙත් නෑ.

ම්ම් පොඩි කාලෙ හිතුවෙ සහ imagine කලේ පට්ට perfect life එහෙක්. ඇතුලත් කාලයක් එක්කම තේරුන realistic නෑ කියල. ගොඩක් වෙලාවට ලස්සන තිබ්බොත් මොලේ නෑ, මොලේ තිබ්බොත් ලස්සන නෑ, ඒ දෙක තිබ්බොත් සල්ලි නෑ, ඔය තුනම තීබ්බොත් ඔයාට මානසික ප්‍රශ්නයක් ගොඩක් වෙලාවට. අපි ජීවිතේ මොනාහරි දෙයක් සාක්ෂාත් කර ගන්න කලින් හැම දෙයක්ම අපේ සල්ලි, කාලය, සෞක්‍ය, තමාගෙ අනන්‍යතාවය කැප කරන්න වෙනව. එහෙම හිතද්දි මොන මගුලකට මෙහෙම මහන්සි වෙනවද කියල හිතෙනවා. සතුට කියන්නෙ dopamine ශ්‍රාවය වෙනව කියල ඉගෙන ගත්තට පස්සෙ අපි නිකන් ජනගහනය පවත්වාගෙන යන්න හදපු robotsල කියලත් හිතෙනවා.

ඔයාල කොහොමද මේ වගෙ එව්වත් එක්ක ජීවිතේ සතුට සහ අසම්පූර්ණකම් සහ අඩුපාඩු එක්ක ජීවිතේ ගෙනියන්නෙ? තව තමුන්ට කොච්චර ලොකු ජයග්‍රහණයක් වුනාද වෙනට ගනන් ගන්න තරම් දෙයක් නැතිවුනා තමන් ගැන හෙන පහල ෆීලින්ග් එක නැති කරගන්නෙ කොහොමද?

 

[Mr Bones]

meka kiyawanna

 

[MAXPANE7]

Reduce social media
Put calmness and peace first.
Put sleeping at night a priority. Sleeping is important to have a balance mental and thinking power.
Reduce relationship with people and situations that bring unnecessary drama.
Control your feelings, mind and expectations, learn to let go of things for your peace, and don't think too much.
Meditate or go to a religious place.
Visit nature, walk. Travel and get experiences.
Have a tea or something to drink and sit and listen to some music or read a book.
Have Clean and tidy surrounding and be clean even if you don't have not many things.
Family First and then have quality fun friends.

 

[clumsyhulk]

ඔයාල කොහොමද මේ වගෙ එව්වත් එක්ක ජීවිතේ සතුට සහ අසම්පූර්ණකම් සහ අඩුපාඩු එක්ක ජීවිතේ ගෙනියන්නෙ? තව තමුන්ට කොච්චර ලොකු ජයග්‍රහණයක් වුනාද වෙනට ගනන් ගන්න තරම් දෙයක් නැතිවුනා තමන් ගැන හෙන පහල ෆීලින්ග් එක නැති කරගන්නෙ කොහොමද? (1)

 

[Yin And Yang]

Reduce social media
Reduce relationship with people that bring unnecessary drama.
Put calmness and peace first
Family First

Yeah I should try. Thanks for your insight

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meka kiyawanna

Thanks bro, I will
------ Post added on Dec 29, 2025 at 12:17 PM

 

[SDCR]

Reduce social media
Reduce relationship with people that bring unnecessary drama.
Put calmness and peace first.
Control your feelings.
Meditate or go to a religious place.
Visit nature, walk.
Have a tea or something to drink and lisn to some music or read a book.
Family First

https://elakiri.com/threads/🤭අශ්නික-දැකපු-මනමාලයා-සොස-මලත්-නොගෙන-මගුල-එපා-කියලා-යයි.2236248/unread

https://elakiri.com/threads/උඹල-තාමත්-හිතනවද-පාස්කු-ප්‍රහාරය-කරේ-දේශපලුවෙක්-කියල.2236139/unread

 

[Hyaenidae]

1. On the "Loss of Childhood"

The writer is grieving the loss of presence. As children, we don’t have a "self-image" to protect. We just are. As adults, we become "projects" that we are constantly trying to fix, upgrade, or market to others.

Solution: The goal isn't to get back to being a child, but to realize that the "stress" and "anxiety" are often just stories we tell ourselves about a future that hasn't happened yet. You have to actively fight to reclaim "useless" joy—doing things just because they feel good, not because they make you money or look good on a CV.

2. The "Matrix" and the "Grift"

The post brilliantly points out the irony of "influencers" selling courses to "escape the system."

Solution: Most people telling you to "escape the Matrix" are just trying to build a Matrix where they are the ones getting your money. Real freedom isn't found in a "wealth-creation course"; it’s found in lowering your dependency on the things that make you feel inadequate. If you don't need a luxury car to feel valuable, you've already escaped a huge part of the "system."

3. The Myth of the "Perfect Trade-off"

The writer mentioned: "If you have brains, you don't have looks; if you have both, you have mental health issues."

Solution: This is actually a very healthy realization. It’s called Optimization. In video games, you can’t max out every stat (Strength, Agility, Intelligence) at once. Life is the same. Accepting that you will always be "incomplete" or "deficient" in some area is the ultimate cheat code. It stops you from chasing a ghost.

4. Are we just "Dopamine Robots"?

This is the biological "black pill" – the idea that we are just sacks of chemicals.

Solution: Just because we understand the mechanics of a sunset (wavelengths of light hitting the atmosphere) doesn't make the sunset less beautiful. Yes, happiness involves dopamine, but the meaning we attach to our actions is what makes us more than robots. Choosing to help someone, choosing to build something, or choosing to endure hardship for a loved one—those are human choices that transcend simple chemistry.

How to live with the "Low Feeling"?

To the writer’s final question about dealing with the feeling of being "low" or "insignificant," I would suggest three shifts in perspective:

Shrink Your World:

The internet makes us think globally, but we live locally. If you compare yourself to a billionaire in Dubai who inherited an oil company, you will always feel like a failure. If you compare yourself to who you were yesterday, the "win" feels real.

The "Spotlight Effect":

We think everyone is judging our "lack of success." In reality, everyone else is too busy worrying about their own failures to care about yours. There is a massive freedom in realizing that nobody is watching you as closely as you think.

Accept "Good Enough":

We are taught that "good enough" is a sin and that we must be "the best." But a "good enough" life—where you have food, a few people who love you, and a hobby that makes you smile—is actually a massive victory in the 21st century.

The Bottom Line:

The post describes a world that is "broken," and they are right. But you don't have to fix the world to find a way to exist within it. Happiness isn't the absence of problems; it's the ability to find value in the struggle.

 

[Yin And Yang]

1. On the "Loss of Childhood"

The writer is grieving the loss of presence. As children, we don’t have a "self-image" to protect. We just are. As adults, we become "projects" that we are constantly trying to fix, upgrade, or market to others.

Solution: The goal isn't to get back to being a child, but to realize that the "stress" and "anxiety" are often just stories we tell ourselves about a future that hasn't happened yet. You have to actively fight to reclaim "useless" joy—doing things just because they feel good, not because they make you money or look good on a CV.

2. The "Matrix" and the "Grift"

The post brilliantly points out the irony of "influencers" selling courses to "escape the system."

Solution: Most people telling you to "escape the Matrix" are just trying to build a Matrix where they are the ones getting your money. Real freedom isn't found in a "wealth-creation course"; it’s found in lowering your dependency on the things that make you feel inadequate. If you don't need a luxury car to feel valuable, you've already escaped a huge part of the "system."

3. The Myth of the "Perfect Trade-off"

The writer mentioned: "If you have brains, you don't have looks; if you have both, you have mental health issues."

Solution: This is actually a very healthy realization. It’s called Optimization. In video games, you can’t max out every stat (Strength, Agility, Intelligence) at once. Life is the same. Accepting that you will always be "incomplete" or "deficient" in some area is the ultimate cheat code. It stops you from chasing a ghost.

4. Are we just "Dopamine Robots"?

This is the biological "black pill" – the idea that we are just sacks of chemicals.

Solution: Just because we understand the mechanics of a sunset (wavelengths of light hitting the atmosphere) doesn't make the sunset less beautiful. Yes, happiness involves dopamine, but the meaning we attach to our actions is what makes us more than robots. Choosing to help someone, choosing to build something, or choosing to endure hardship for a loved one—those are human choices that transcend simple chemistry.

How to live with the "Low Feeling"?

To the writer’s final question about dealing with the feeling of being "low" or "insignificant," I would suggest three shifts in perspective:

Shrink Your World:

The internet makes us think globally, but we live locally. If you compare yourself to a billionaire in Dubai who inherited an oil company, you will always feel like a failure. If you compare yourself to who you were yesterday, the "win" feels real.

The "Spotlight Effect":

We think everyone is judging our "lack of success." In reality, everyone else is too busy worrying about their own failures to care about yours. There is a massive freedom in realizing that nobody is watching you as closely as you think.

Accept "Good Enough":

We are taught that "good enough" is a sin and that we must be "the best." But a "good enough" life—where you have food, a few people who love you, and a hobby that makes you smile—is actually a massive victory in the 21st century.

The Bottom Line:

The post describes a world that is "broken," and they are right. But you don't have to fix the world to find a way to exist within it. Happiness isn't the absence of problems; it's the ability to find value in the struggle.

Thanks. Which AI is this? Just curious

 

[SDCR]

jst dnt compre ur lfe with any 1

 

[Yin And Yang]

jst dnt compre ur lfe with any 1

But society does it. How you deal with such situations?

 

[Hyaenidae]

Thanks. Which AI is this? Just curious

Gemini (Pro)

 

[Yin And Yang]

Gemini (Pro)

Wow

 

[SDCR]

But society does it. How you deal with such situations?

avoid them not all of them are like that

 

[Emios]

I think most of the mid age people feel the same way.Is there a way out of it i don’t know.With a deep intellect like that its better to use that to realize nirvana and end this for once in for all.In the mean time just relax,be happy with what you get, dont compare.take vitamin d and exercise.

 

[Hyaenidae]

Wow

Right?

The conversations I have with it are actually very illuminating, feels like a personal therapist

 

[Yin And Yang]

I think most of the mid age people feel the same way.Is there a way out of it i don’t know.With a deep intellect like that its better to use that to realize nirvana and end this for once in for all.In the mean time just relax,be happy with what you get, dont compare.take vitamin d and exercise.

Thanks Emios for giving me positive feedback rather than negative and nihilistic feedback

 

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[beam_tech]

Choose either red or blue. The choice is yours.

 

[Yin And Yang]

Right?

The conversations I have with it are actually very illuminating, feels like a personal therapist

Yeah, ChatGPT acts like the same. BTW I didnt tried paid versions

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Choose either red or blue. The choice is yours.

Matrix thing
------ Post added on Dec 29, 2025 at 12:31 PM

 

[nidarsha91]

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03. කවුරුත් උඹ ඔය කියන තැනට එනව මචන්. ඒකෙන් ගැලවෙන්න නම්, අනිවාර්යෙන්ම තමන්ගෙ කතාව, තමන්ගෙ කාල සීමාවන් ගැන අවබෝදයක් ගන්නම වෙනවා කියලයි මම නං හිතන්නෙ සහ ලෝකය පිළිගන්නෙ.
04. උඹ 2050 විතර ජීවත් වුණොත් හරියටම තේරුම් ගනීවි තමන් ගැන දැනගන්න ප්‍රැක්ටිකල් ටෙක්නොලොඉජි එකක් අවශ්‍ය වෙන්නෙ ඇයි කියල හරියටම.
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06. ආදරය ස්පර්ශය අනිවාර්ය කාරණයක් මනුස්සයන්ට. විශේෂයෙන්ම අපිට කොල්ලොන්ට. ඒ හින්ද අඩුම තරමෙ සුරතල් සතෙක්ව හරි හුරතල් කරන්න උත්සාහය ගනින්. එහෙම කියල මාළු අතගාන්න එපා උන් මැරෙයි

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