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ya itz nt prob if da boy is goin 2 marry her fr sure....if nt da gal's lyf is in dangr


WHAT??? How can that happen.... Thats coz of this society bro.... We have to change our mindsets first...

Virginity shouldn't play a big role in our lives...

Do we know whether the girl have kissed a person earlier... before us..??
No ne...

So what matters most is the TRUST
 

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x-pert said:
WHAT??? How can that happen.... Thats coz of this society bro.... We have to change our mindsets first...

Virginity shouldn't play a big role in our lives...

Do we know whether the girl have kissed a person earlier... before us..??
No ne...

So what matters most is the TRUST
ya ban itz tru

but v cnt change da society ne ban

even i dun care...but sum ppl cares ne ban ekai kiwwe...
 

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I thought of replying this coz it seems to be an interesting topic


1.I believe sex is the second uncontrollable feeling after Hunger. But having sex(means having a real sexual intercourse with each other) before marrage is not a good thing for both the parties. Coz , if you happen to break up because of some reason you would tend to regreat for what you did in the past. And there might be a next person who comes to you and that might become your true love over time. But Do you think you can forget the past?wouldn't that memory hurt you each time you touch your true love?Wouldn't you ever feel "I shouldn't have done that,I should have waited for this person?". Apart from all these having a kiss , holding each others hand would make your love even more beautiful than having sex. I mind you sex is a NEED of the life,But LOVE is a part of your soul. We should always think about the other person and should always keep a path in which that person can walk back to his or her former life if he or she needs to break up. TRUE LOVE never takes anything(not even virginity) from the other person,it only gives.
 

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If you don't marry,Then you are after your NEED,It is almost loke you eating something to satisfy your hunger.After eating you never think of it unless it causes you bad stomach ache:D . it can not be explained as LOVE.
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mydev said:
I thought of replying this coz it seems to be an interesting topic


1.I believe sex is the second uncontrollable feeling after Hunger. But having sex(means having a real sexual intercourse with each other) before marrage is not a good thing for both the parties. Coz , if you happen to break up because of some reason you would tend to regreat for what you did in the past. And there might be a next person who comes to you and that might become your true love over time. But Do you think you can forget the past?wouldn't that memory hurt you each time you touch your true love?Wouldn't you ever feel "I shouldn't have done that,I should have waited for this person?". Apart from all these having a kiss , holding each others hand would make your love even more beautiful than having sex. I mind you sex is a NEED of the life,But LOVE is a part of your soul. We should always think about the other person and should always keep a path in which that person can walk back to his or her former life if he or she needs to break up. TRUE LOVE never takes anything(not even virginity) from the other person,it only gives.


Interesting thought Bro / Sis...

Anyway..... your scenario occurs only if the society needs to check it... If the importance is less about the virginity, then it wont be a problem ne..

I know sex plays an important role in life.. Thats what I said earlier as well... You have to find the most suitable person in this world for you... Then that love will increase with sexual relationships as well.

Agreed to the fact that you dont need to have sex to have a good relationship... totally agreed...

But with sex, you create an unbreakable relationship..

But again... in reality.. everything that has a begining has an end... so if the relationship ended up in a bad way.. yeah it will affect both the minds.... but what I am telling is it shouldn't affect the LIFE... it shouldn't be a problem for the next person to marry her...
 

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Interesting thought Bro / Sis...

Anyway..... your scenario occurs only if the society needs to check it... If the importance is less about the virginity, then it wont be a problem ne..

I know sex plays an important role in life.. Thats what I said earlier as well... You have to find the most suitable person in this world for you... Then that love will increase with sexual relationships as well.

Agreed to the fact that you dont need to have sex to have a good relationship... totally agreed...

But with sex, you create an unbreakable relationship..

But again... in reality.. everything that has a begining has an end... so if the relationship ended up in a bad way.. yeah it will affect both the minds.... but what I am telling is it shouldn't affect the LIFE... it shouldn't be a problem for the next person to marry her...
uba nam

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yea..dude i agree, but human being is by nature imperfect. Though it shouldn't matter to the next person can you ever imagine that the love of your life have had sex with someone before you met him or her...Such a feeling will definitely make loop holes in your realtionship with the other person and ultimately you would be living with someone whom you really don't want to be...:)
 

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ok ppl, here goes...
in ma experiyance and what i have senn all those years ...yes u dont have to get married to have sex... if your partner dos not have any problems with it. and tha girl MUST always be CAREFUL regarding sex.... boys r ok... they dont have any thing to prove or protect ... cos in our culture ....if a girl gets prgi before marrege.. u know what happens ok... ???
so GALS ITS OK to HAve SAFE SEX.
machanla... it is very hard to find a VERGIN to get married these days..... :-)
so dont get upset if u r lady is not a vergin in the wedding night.
BECAUSE that dosent garanty that she will not leave u so some other guy some day...
it is all the chemistry that works.......... !!!!!
if the chemistry is correct ...every thang will work fine if u had sex before marrege... get the point..
if not skype me.. :-)
because this thang happend to one of my BEST BEST friends.... n he is totaly lost now. :-(
take care ppl.
regards.
M da buwa.
 

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mydev said:
yea..dude i agree, but human being is by nature imperfect. Though it shouldn't matter to the next person can you ever imagine that the love of your life have had sex with someone before you met him or her...Such a feeling will definitely make loop holes in your realtionship with the other person and ultimately you would be living with someone whom you really don't want to be...:)


There ya go.... Now now.... Hmmmmmm......

Okay... again I have to say bro... I am doing it.. um not just telling it... I'm doing it right now.. But thats not a problem to my relationship....

Cheers..!! No more comments for this thread from me...
 

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    x-pert said:
    WHAT??? How can that happen.... Thats coz of this society bro.... We have to change our mindsets first...

    Virginity shouldn't play a big role in our lives...

    Do we know whether the girl have kissed a person earlier... before us..??
    No ne...

    So what matters most is the TRUST

    Thats true bro......... I'm totally against with this virginity thing......... It's doing lot of harm to girls' lives......... even though they had sex or not , as you said in a previous post by birth of course they may be not having that...

    In my point of view...... I guess It's up to the two people who are in love........ If they have the trust and the understanding to each other it will be no harm.......


    But in the other hand girls should keep in mind that if the relationship will break, they have to marry another person and she don't know what will happen to her future..... coz all the guys not same.........so there'll be a risk of course..........:yes: :yes:
     

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    Tuffey said:
    Thats true bro......... I'm totally against with this virginity thing......... It's doing lot of harm to girls' lives......... even though they had sex or not , as you said in a previous post by birth of course they may be not having that...

    In my point of view...... I guess It's up to the two people who are in love........ If they have the trust and the understanding to each other it will be no harm.......


    But in the other hand girls should keep in mind that if the relationship will break, they have to marry another person and she don't know what will happen to her future..... coz all the guys not same.........so there'll be a risk of course..........:yes: :yes:
    Agreed. But the guy is also running the same risk. Isn't it? Even though no one will findout, he will suffer from the truth he can never deny.
     

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    in SL its a must .......... but not compulsory 4 a boy ... but in da case of a girl its better to have ......... ;) ;) ;)

    And the most impotent thing is according to my knowledge almost all boys violates its b4 their merrage ........ :D :lol: