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දැං මම අහල තිබ්බ ඒවට උත්තර දුන්නාම ග්රීස් ගාගත්ත ආදා වගේ ලෙස්සලා යනවා....
ඇත්තටම උයා මෛත්රීපාල සිරිසේන ජනාධිපතිතුමා ද?
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යන්නෙ කොහෙද පොල්ලෙ මල්.....
දැං මම අහල තිබ්බ ඒවට උත්තර දුන්නාම ග්රීස් ගාගත්ත ආදා වගේ ලෙස්සලා යනවා....
ඇත්තටම උයා මෛත්රීපාල සිරිසේන ජනාධිපතිතුමා ද?
oya mokada ane hadissiye duwanne oya hati. mata hina giye ekata thamayi. mokak unath kamakna oyata danena dene oya kiyala thiyene. kelinma uththara dila thiyenawa.
මට තේඑකක් අරන් එන්න ගියේ.... සීනි වැඩියි මම බිව්වේ නෑ..... 
කවුරුහරි එහෙම කිව්වද?උයා නං ජනාධිපති අංකල් ම තමා.....
යන්නෙ කොහෙද පොල්ලෙ මල්.....
දැං මම අහල තිබ්බ ඒවට උත්තර දුන්නාම ග්රීස් ගාගත්ත ආදා වගේ ලෙස්සලා යනවා....
ඇත්තටම උයා මෛත්රීපාල සිරිසේන ජනාධිපතිතුමා ද?
p.s.(අගය කරනව නම දාලා රෙප් කපපු එකට )
ඔව් ජනාධිපතිතුමනි,
මම එකක් කියල තව එකක් කරන්නේ නෑ.
අප්රසාදය නමින් ම පලකරන්න තරං මට කොන්දක් තියනවා....
මම අප්රසාදය පල කරන හේතුව බොහොම පැහැදිලිව කියලත් ඇති....
මගේ කොන්ද ඔබතුමාගේ කොන්දට වඩා ඉතාමත් හොදයි....තාමත්.
හැබැයි උබතුමා නං නම දාල කපල නෑනේහ්!!!?????
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ශ්නුද්රි එක්ක එක රැක් ඉන්න ලැබෙන්න කියල ..... [B]නැග්ග
[/B][/B]කෙල්ලෙක්ගෙ පෑන්ටියක්, බ්රා 1 ක් ලාවට පේනකොට මම දන්න විදියට නම් ඕනම කෙනෙක් හොරෙන් හරි බලනවා..[/B].මට නම් ඒ තරම් සුන්දර දසුනක් තවත් නැහැ...
I could use some advice: We adopted a sibling group of four children at the same time a few years ago; three girls (6/12/16) and one boy(9). We love them and on the outside, we have a good working relationship. While all of them have various issues, my son has a continuing problem with stealing (gum, change, underwear, etc) this occurs on average at least once a week. He also seems to be taking and wearing womens (MomҒs/Sisters/babysitters) underwear to school and to bed. This seems to have been going on (off and on) at least for a year. When confronted, he says "I wanted them" and he doesnt know why he does it (stealing or the underwear thing..etc.) He also takes Vivance for ADHD, (changes here donҒt seem to effect the otherwe have tried.) I have tried everything I can think of: weekly visits to a psychologist (various types) to timeouts to spankings and nothing seems to stop him from doing these things again. He steals most prevalently from me (Dad.) I have had to put a bell on his door so I can hear if he gets up at night. It is unclear to me whether he is attached to us, or just œthere because his sisters are there.
Is this all somehow a version of ԓnormal for an adoptive child? My wife takes his behavior as a personal affront and tends to get very upset with him and she is clearly at her wits end. Do these things point to some greater serious issue in him we look to get?? We love him, but are deeply concerned; Does he need to be moved to a therapeutic home or other placement? What path should I be going down? What help should
A few thoughts...
Sounds like you've tried more than one therapist, but if the therapist isn't giving you parenting tips and the behavior isn't changing, you need a new therapist. Keep looking. Find someone who has specific knowledge and training for dealing with kids who come fram trauma backgrounds and probable attachment issues.
Secondly, while I understand your wife's frustration, maybe she needs to do some more reading about adoption issues. Your son's behavior has very little or nothing to do with your wife, and everything, or most everything to do with the start to his life. If she keeps being mad and irritated with him, it will hinder his healing.
Thirdly, since your son has very little impulse control, common among children who had a difficult start to life, help him by making his world smaller. Instead of treating him like a 9 year old, treat him like a younger boy with fewer opportunities to wander and make bad choices. This is not to be mean, but to help him from himself. Put a no roaming policy in place where he is always sitting near you or your wife, rather than being able to move throughout the house at will. I'm not sure about how to handle wearing women's clothing, but stealing should be consequenced. He should have to do a chore for the person he stole from and apologize, all in a very matter of fact, not angry way.
Please read the books suggested in the previous post. All are excellent and will give you a new perspective on helping your son to heal.
Susan Ward
[/B][/B]කෙල්ලෙක්ගෙ පෑන්ටියක්, බ්රා 1 ක් ලාවට පේනකොට මම දන්න විදියට නම් ඕනම කෙනෙක් හොරෙන් හරි බලනවා..[/B].මට නම් ඒ තරම් සුන්දර දසුනක් තවත් නැහැ...
I could use some advice: We adopted a sibling group of four children at the same time a few years ago; three girls (6/12/16) and one boy(9). We love them and on the outside, we have a good working relationship. While all of them have various issues, my son has a continuing problem with stealing (gum, change, underwear, etc) this occurs on average at least once a week. He also seems to be taking and wearing womens (MomҒs/Sisters/babysitters) underwear to school and to bed. This seems to have been going on (off and on) at least for a year. When confronted, he says "I wanted them" and he doesnt know why he does it (stealing or the underwear thing..etc.) He also takes Vivance for ADHD, (changes here donҒt seem to effect the otherwe have tried.) I have tried everything I can think of: weekly visits to a psychologist (various types) to timeouts to spankings and nothing seems to stop him from doing these things again. He steals most prevalently from me (Dad.) I have had to put a bell on his door so I can hear if he gets up at night. It is unclear to me whether he is attached to us, or just œthere because his sisters are there.
Is this all somehow a version of ԓnormal for an adoptive child? My wife takes his behavior as a personal affront and tends to get very upset with him and she is clearly at her wits end. Do these things point to some greater serious issue in him we look to get?? We love him, but are deeply concerned; Does he need to be moved to a therapeutic home or other placement? What path should I be going down? What help should
A few thoughts...
Sounds like you've tried more than one therapist, but if the therapist isn't giving you parenting tips and the behavior isn't changing, you need a new therapist. Keep looking. Find someone who has specific knowledge and training for dealing with kids who come fram trauma backgrounds and probable attachment issues.
Secondly, while I understand your wife's frustration, maybe she needs to do some more reading about adoption issues. Your son's behavior has very little or nothing to do with your wife, and everything, or most everything to do with the start to his life. If she keeps being mad and irritated with him, it will hinder his healing.
Thirdly, since your son has very little impulse control, common among children who had a difficult start to life, help him by making his world smaller. Instead of treating him like a 9 year old, treat him like a younger boy with fewer opportunities to wander and make bad choices. This is not to be mean, but to help him from himself. Put a no roaming policy in place where he is always sitting near you or your wife, rather than being able to move throughout the house at will. I'm not sure about how to handle wearing women's clothing, but stealing should be consequenced. He should have to do a chore for the person he stole from and apologize, all in a very matter of fact, not angry way.
Please read the books suggested in the previous post. All are excellent and will give you a new perspective on helping your son to heal.
Susan Ward
අනේ මන්ද .හාඩ් ටෝක් උනාට මූ ගැන අපි දන්න ටිකම තමා දාල තියෙන්නෙ .මූ දීපු උත්තර ඔක්කොම මූ කමෙන්ට් කරපු පරන නූල් වල ඇති .අලුත් දෙයක් නෑ
මූට යකෝ මෙච්චර දේවල් දීලත් මාව මතක නෑනෙ
ඔව් මූට එළකිරියේ මූව බේරාගෙන මේ තත්ත්වෙට ගෙනාපු අපිවත් මතක නැහැ මූට
විවේචනය විදදරාගන්න බැරිවීම කොන්ද නෙමෙයි. ඔබතුමාගේ අප්රසාදය මා ඉතසිතින් බාරගත්තා. ඔබතුමාට කොන්ද ශක්තිමත් උනාට වැඩක් නැ මගේ විවේචනය විදදරාගන්න බැරිනම්. ඔබගේ කොන්දෙන් මටත් මාගේ කොන්දෙන් ඔබටත් ශක්තිය මැන බැලීමට නොහැකීම ගැන මම අතිශයයෙන් කනගාටුවට පත්වෙනවා.
well said
මම එහෙම කිව්වට හොඳ හෝ නරක සහතිකයක් ඔහුට දීල නෑ.... හැබැයි එක දෙයක් මම දැක්කා.... මම ඔහුගේ කතාවේ දී තේරුම්ගත්ත දෙයක් බහුතරය විසින් ද දැක ඇති බව..... දැන් ඉතිං ගණන් කරල බහුතරය හොයාගෙන අදහසක් ගන්න....
