i am not stupid enough to kill myself over stupid people who will never know the importance of a life. he did his best i think. he fought with his parents and now he got fed up with this situation trust me they are not normal parents. the worst i have ever seen. but the boy is totally different.

he is too innocent and that is bad actually

i know what you are telling. moving on after strong 4 years relationship is too damn hard

life sucks to the max. thanks for the advice. yeah I am a girl.no need to fake it. cuz i dont get anything from faking

i just wanted to release my pain since i have no one around me to talk. thanks
Well., Glad to hear that you are not the suicidal type. That's actually a breath of fresh air considering all the lame chaps who posts in this Forums lately seems to be when in such problems.
I should ask you to note that there is no measuring stick for parenting.
They say "Hitler" was an ideal husband and would have been a wonderful parent. Case of point is that, there is no way to tell either his or yours is the best or worse. In the same note, let me do remind you that the responsibility of a proper farther is to make sure his daughter given off to someone worthy or her and he should have been either more concerned of your choice in partner or should have intervened when things got rocky between you and his family. So., blame does go either ways and it depends on which end of the polar edges you wish to stand on.
NO matter what the Feminists bleed for, this is still a man driven and controlled society.
In that context, both your Boyfriend and your Father are at wrong for not making your safety and well being their primary concern.
That been said;
The "boy" was not suppose to give up

. That's what "love" is all about as far as I understand.
King Priam watched Troy burn for the love of his Son Paris and Helena.... Orpheus pleaded in front of Hades the God of Underworld asking for his love.
.. isn't love suppose to endure all that it goes against and win at every odds.... or some shit like that?? .. I mean doesn't it? ..
Btw., I can firmly state with SOLID experience that qualities passes down the gene pool.
Never be naive in thinking that your "boy" is innocent and totally different from his family. He is just as one of them as they are. He is just as mean, just as insensitive and just as crass and derogatory enough to leave you standard after years of sharing your life with.
I read somewhere that you are out of a friend or a family to talk to? ...
I am not going to give you cynical advices that falls just a shoddy shot short of what every text book that talks about break ups asks you to do. In-fact, I am not at all even qualified to give breakup advices as I was usually in the "dealing out" side of things

, not the receiving end.
However, since you have already made a disastrous error in sending a letter to his father...and taking in that you like "writing letters" ... may I suggest venting the frustration off in writing?
May be in a more crazy thought stream... why not write to his father (whether you post or not is your decision) write his all the stiff and fuck you (s) you want to lash out.. and send send a 10 empty A4 sheets with a heading "LOOK AT ALL THE FUCKS I GIVE ABOUT YOUR SON"



Anyways.. apologize. I am never good in expending breakup advices.