My girlfriend is sexually abused ... PLS HELP....

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    ඕක ගනන් ගන්න එපා බං. දැන් ඒකි උඹට සිරාවටම ආදරෙයි නම් දැන් වැරැද්දක් නැත්නම් අවුලක් නෑනෙ බං. අවු 4 දි මුකුත් දැනගෙන කරපු දෙයක් නෙවෙයිනෙ...
     

    hansa1018

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    ඕනවටත් වඩා උපදෙස් ලැබිලා තියෙන්නේ......................
    ඕවත් ප්‍රශ්නද බන් අද කාලේ කෙල්ලෝ කරන දේවල් දැක්කහම..............
    ගනං ගන්න එපා....................
    උඹට ප්‍රශ්නයක් නැත්තං එච්චරයි..............
     

    azam426

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    Machan Mokadda dannawada me wela thiyenne??? Kella umbawa gonaata andawanna hadanne. Mama kello gena Hondaaaaaaaaata dannawa bang.. Hondata adyayanaya karala thiyenne.. Harinam mata Girlsla gena phd ekak unath ganna puluwan. Echcharatama mama kelu porak. hondey, ahapan kiyanaa de.. Awurudu 4 kiyanne bang kiri suwandath giye nethi wayasak. E wayase mona sexda oy?? Eki umbawa avoid karanna boruwak karanawa, ehematht neththam Eki umbata kalin kaawahari aadare karala pettiya kadaagen, moo rawattala gihilla ethi.. Deng meyaata mokuth karanna beri kamata ara podi wayasa daagena shape karanna hadanawa, umbath ithin podi wayasene welaa thiyenne kiyala bhaaraganeewine.. Umbata meka wishwasa karanna berinam love karala balapan, komath eththa kawadahari eliyata enawa kiyanawane...
    Dannawada thawath case ekak? pansal, palli, kowil walata gihin wendapudaagena inna kattiyage duwala, puthaala thamai bang oya wage weda karanne.. Meka mage adyayanayen oppuwechcha deyak..
    Comment ekanam tikak lokuy, kiyawala therumgaththata boma sthuthiy...
    Theeranaya umbe athe... :)
     
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    Machan la... I took a decision..

    Such a incident has happened to her when she is 4 yrs old and i am 90% sure of it.. I have messaged her brother asking about this but he is not replying me because he is angry wth me bcos we had an argument about a month ago for some reason..... if he said yes such thing happened, then i am 100% sure of it.. :)

    80% i trust she havent had sex with anyone else.....

    and i decided not to think the rest 20% even if she had sex bcos i can feel that she loves me a lot...

    she always ask me "had breakfast?... had lunch? had dinner? go and have it now... please dont leave me... dont miss ur meals.... promise always take care ok? ... dont stay sad, smile for me.... stop smoking.... drinks not allowed without my permission.... " and many more...

    she also says " i will kick you if u masturbate " :lol:

    she cares for me always... :)

    She said she repent all the mistakes she done to me.... :D... means she has done a mistake and frightened to tell me bcos that i will leave her.. maybe another bf... but she strongly says that she never had sex with anyone else...

    Anyway.... she is with me now.... and i have decided not to leave her .. i love her :yes:

    I will come back to u all when her brother reply to me..... and i hope this thread will be over then...

    Give ur opinions my friends.......!!!

    Ubala elakiri kollo tikak... :)

    :) :) :)
     

    BIG BOSSMAN

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    බුදුන්ගේ දේශය
    ...she always ask me "had breakfast?... had lunch? had dinner? go and have it now... please dont leave me... dont miss ur meals.... promise always take care ok? ... dont stay sad, smile for me.... stop smoking.... drinks not allowed without my permission.... " and many more...

    she also says " i will kick you if u masturbate "
    ...
    i am late?!

    no hard feelings bro but i assume this is your one and only love affair? :confused: because in love, those words are real cheap. i bet anyone in this site who has a girl friend/love is experiencing such words in every call :yes:
    i am not taking you as an idiot but don't fall for words. take it seriously every girl is keep saying them
    take your meds, are you home now, why so late.... love you, never leave me/you forever

    real love is not cheap and it's not easy to get. i don't know it's lie or not but if it's lie and girl thinks she can hide it forever it's wrong and she'll suffer for it and die in HELL!!!

    be smart when you take decisions, especial stuff like love, marriage
    don't trust words as they come :)
     

    lasa_dal

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    i am late?!

    no hard feelings bro but i assume this is your one and only love affair? :confused: because in love, those words are real cheap. i bet anyone in this site who has a girl friend/love is experiencing such words in every call :yes:
    i am not taking you as an idiot but don't fall for words. take it seriously every girl is keep saying them
    take your meds, are you home now, why so late.... love you, never leave me/you forever

    real love is not cheap and it's not easy to get. i don't know it's lie or not but if it's lie and girl thinks she can hide it forever it's wrong and she'll suffer for it and die in HELL!!!

    be smart when you take decisions, especial stuff like love, marriage
    don't trust words as they come :)



    sirawatama :yes:
     

    korn

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    Machan la... I took a decision..

    Such a incident has happened to her when she is 4 yrs old and i am 90% sure of it.. I have messaged her brother asking about this but he is not replying me because he is angry wth me bcos we had an argument about a month ago for some reason..... if he said yes such thing happened, then i am 100% sure of it.. :)

    What are the facts you have to thinks that 90%?
    umbath horage ammagen peena ahanawa wage wadak ne ban karala thiyenne... Meka kellawa umbe age gahanna family ekama ekathu wela hadapu story ekak nam pora "YES" kiyai.. ethakota umbath eka iha mudunin eka wishwasa karai... ethakota nangita aye kolo hoyann aoneth nae ne...

    and i decided not to think the rest 20% even if she had sex bcos i can feel that she loves me a lot...

    she always ask me "had breakfast?... had lunch? had dinner? go and have it now... please dont leave me... dont miss ur meals.... promise always take care ok? ... dont stay sad, smile for me.... stop smoking.... drinks not allowed without my permission.... " and many more...

    she also says " i will kick you if u masturbate " :lol:

    she cares for me always... :)
    Never make decisions based on these kind of dialogues... thase are not strong enough.. they could easily change..


    She said she repent all the mistakes she done to me.... :D... means she has done a mistake and frightened to tell me bcos that i will leave her.. maybe another bf... but she strongly says that she never had sex with anyone else...

    Yes u have to find out the tru story for this... bt what i say is.. if a girl really loves you she would not lie to you... in this case she came up with a fake story.. then when you questioned about it she reealized that you are not ok with that story.. then she changed the story invovling her own family members where it is more likely you would beleive it would not ask them or investigating about it any further... it s simple as tht.. what is the assurance you have that the 2nd story is true... eka parak deparak boru kiyapu kenek issarahath umbawa andanna one than waladi boruwak nokari kiyala hithann aamarui ban...

    Anyway the deceision is yours..
    Good Luck!!
    I am out of here!
     

    korn

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    i am late?!

    no hard feelings bro but i assume this is your one and only love affair? :confused: because in love, those words are real cheap. i bet anyone in this site who has a girl friend/love is experiencing such words in every call :yes:
    i am not taking you as an idiot but don't fall for words. take it seriously every girl is keep saying them
    take your meds, are you home now, why so late.... love you, never leave me/you forever

    real love is not cheap and it's not easy to get. i don't know it's lie or not but if it's lie and girl thinks she can hide it forever it's wrong and she'll suffer for it and die in HELL!!!

    be smart when you take decisions, especial stuff like love, marriage
    don't trust words as they come :)

    Well said!!!
     

    Simsons

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    Ubata patta duka athi :( What you can do is make her swear that she didn't have sex again :) If she does, trust her. If you don't trust your girl there is no love or a relationship :) It's good that she has told you the truth. If you still continues to feel bad go to that person and get your revenge. After all he has done a terrible thing to her. Teach him a lesson. Don't go to court as it will ruin your girl's name.
     

    ms48mail

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    කැළණි මිටියාවතේ
    Anyway.... she is with me now.... and i have decided not to leave her .. i love her :yes:
    :) :) :)
    :yes:
    කෙල්ල කියන්නේ 80% බොරු වෙන්න පුලුවන්. වෙනකාටවත් දීගන්න අමාරු නිසා පවුලේ කට්ටිය උඹේ ඇඟේ ගහන්නම ඒකට හවුල් වෙනවා කියලාත් වෙන්න පුලුවන්.
    වෙන එකෙක්ගේ අතින් පෙට්ටිය කඩාගත්තාත් වෙන්න පුලුවන්.
    ඒත් උඹ ඒකිට ආදරේ නම්, ඒකිගේ පෙනෙන්න වැරැද්දක් නැත්නම්, හොඳම දේ ඕක අමතක කරලා දාන එක. වර්තමානයේ හොඳින් ජීවත්වෙන එක.

    ps: අනිවා උබට මේ කතාව කිව්වෙත් කවදා හරි මාට්ටු වෙන බයට. මේක මාට්ටු වෙන්නේ නැති දෙයක්නම් උඹට කියන්නෑ කියලා මට 100% sure.

    අනික ඒකිගේ වැරදි අල්ලන්න උඹ උඹේ නොකරපු වැරදි කියපු එකට උඹට අනිවා return එක ලැබෙනවා ඒකිගේ වැරද්දක් නැත්නම්. දැන් මොකුත් කියන්න බැරිකමට ඉන්නේ. උඹ එතන කලේ හෙන ගොන් කමක්. දැ ඒකිට කියන්න දේවලුත් තියෙනවා. නෝර්මල් ආදරෙන් තව කලක් එකට ඉඳලා බලපන්. දැන්ම බදින්න නම් යන්න එපා.
     

    priyade

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    This is lengthy.. but please take ur time.. read and help me... :(

    Hi friends,

    I have created this fake account because i cannot post this story on my original account.... !!!

    Yesterday my girfriend told me something that i got very shocked :(
    After hearing that, i cant sleep,eat, yesterday i almost cried and didnt know what to do..


    She told me the story while chatting on fb... and i will paste some parts of the conversation red color here so that u will be able to understand the situation.


    before she tell me the story... she made me promise


    i didn't tell everything about this before
    babe promise you don't leave me?

    babe how if i tell you this i think you will leave me



    it was very hard for me to convince her to tell me the story.... and finally.... i was able to convince her with thousands of promises that i wont tell anyone and wont leave her.....

    Then she said this....

    when i was young
    i don't know about sex
    but one guy are very close to me
    he is my friend plying together
    when he starting know about computer
    he starting watching movie's
    but one day
    he call me
    "come here up stair"
    then i will come i thought he like playing toys with me
    i come to him
    set there
    he said that on me
    i sit
    Few minuets
    He don't have clothes na
    i don't know what's going on
    he is in my side
    let's say i had sex already

    i am sorry babe
    i am so sorry




    :( :( :(

    i didnt show any moods to her... i told her i need to know everthing what happened.....


    she didnt like saying anythin to me... but with my effort i convinced her to tell me everthing...


    my mom know about that
    then she get angry on me
    she trying to kill me
    I was so upset About that
    I never tell anyone about this
    that happen on me is Troma for me
    I cant Sleep
    I always Remember that thing
    Now I am Afraid To Tell You About This
    Because U will Leave me




    She also said she was 4 years old and that guy was 14 years old when it happen....


    and finally she said everything that guy did to her... she is abused in a very bad manner :( (sorry i cant put that disgusting things happened to her here)


    She also said... she didnt bleed while happening, but she says she is no longer a virgin because of this and feels dirty all the time.....

    .....................................................................................

    Machan... how can i help her?

    what shuld i do?

    i cant take her to counsellin bcos she lives very far and her parents are soo tough that she is very afraid to talk about the situation :(

    what kinds of effects will she face in future? How can i save her... Pls help me...

    Also need to say... she dont have enough knowlegde on sex... reproduction.. birth control .. things like that... she is very innocent... I cant leave her.. What should i do?

    :( :( :(
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